Hens still havent paid me back?

Could you get the hens to pay you in eggs?

I honestly thought this was about non-laying poultry. Couldn’t have been more wrong! 😂

Yes OP have you addressed this yet??

Surely you've been direct and sorted this now?

You need to tag them all now or create a poll where they can tick against their name when they've paid. I'd also say that the bride will have to cover any shortfall and strongly imply that you will let her know who hasn't paid

Message on the chat - and add the bride of she is not on it

‘Hey all
The brides share -£400- you all agreed to pay has still not been paid by nearly all of you -it’s £20 each for x 20 of you (list all the names )
So, sorry bride, but if the 400 outstanding is not paid by everyone then you will all have to decide between yourselves and whether I cancel to the trip or you (Bride) pay for yourself

Have a think and let me know if Im cancelling or you guys/bride are sending the 400 over.
Do by this date. If I hear nothing will assume all off and cancel

cheers all

They've all paid for themselves so that is not an option. It is just the bride's share, which OP covered, that hasn't been reimbursed by the other hens.

You must send an email/text with a final DEADLINE, and you bank details. Don’t be pussy footing around. Be business like. Final reminders or say I am assuming you won’t be coming if not paid by this date. Initial deposits are non refundable and are used against any costs already incurred. Some shit like that. Crack on!

It sounds like they all paid for themselves which is why I think the OP is now struggling to get the money for her shared room with the hen.

What if you told them if they don't pay up, their tickets are cancelled?

If you have a group chat to need to be formal and explicit.

Hi all,
There are still some outstanding balances to be paid as below. Please could you pay owed balance to sort code xxx and account number xxx by 18/03.

Laura £50
Katie £50
Myself PAID
and so on

And then a private friendly individual message with similar.

Hi Laura,

Just a reminder that we all agreed to pay £50 each towards the cost of xx.

I would really appreciate it if you could send me your contribution as it has now been 6 months.
My account details are:
xxxx

Honestly, the longer time goes on the less accountable people seem to feel. So be direct!

send another reminder in the group… and then list who has paid and ask them to add their names to this

hi all, see below for my sort code / acc number. to help me track when I can xyz please add your name to the list below when you have paid

1. me - paid
2. Non CF 1 - paid
3. non CF 2 - paid

nothing works like a little public naming and shaming. Sorry but if you want your money back then…

Too late now I know, but I think I would have asked for the £20 upfront and said I couldn’t afford to book the brides room so could everyone please transfer the £20 asap otherwise the Ben party would be missing the bride

@MyPurpleHeart message them something like

’hey everyone.. I still haven’t been paid back for brides attendance, I know it doesn’t seem a lot to you guys as you only need to transfer £20 each BUT it’s a lot to me as I’ve been out of pocket to the sum of £400 for 6 months and I really do need payments ASAP.
mid people don’t pay then sorry but you should raise it with the bride… if friends have gone back on the agreement to pay for her then she needs to pay for herself!

Poor behaviour from "hens," whole thing sounds a massive pain in the neck.

Don't agree to organise anything else with them, it's just not worth it. Hard to enjoy being with people like this.

The other friends have already booked and paid for their own accommodation etc. It’s the brides share that the op paid for - which everyone agreed to contribute £20 to. As things stand either the op has to cover the brides share or ask the bride to if the others don’t cough up.

Yes does sound like some don’t want to go. 6 months is way too far in advance for me - I don’t even like to book my own summer holiday that far in advance. Though I totally appreciate a hen do does need lots of notice. In reality, I would imagine most people would rather much lower key.

Agree, just because some people feel it's not for them, then suddenly they should be done away with.

I don't go clubbing or to the races anymore, but still have friends who do and wouldn't call it needless.

That’s a good reply

What about .... to the whole group ...?

Thanks to those who have now paid, I'll message those who haven't individually.

That way, people will know that some have paid and it might make them step up.

Exactly that - told them if they didnt pay me then I would have to inform the bride she would have to pay and would need to explain why so she knew.

Thats not wrong - we are talking 6 months here - they're taking the absolute piss

What do you mean "told them it was all off"? They've all booked and paid for their own rooms, OP can't cancel them. If they don't pay up, OP’s only choices are to suck it up, or ask the Bride to pay her own costs.

Oh, I agree, I would never pay for this bunch again either. I just meant she doesn't seem to have known that in advance, so wasn't clear if they were 'likely to be flaky about paying' and so didn't take steps to head that off, as you suggested she should have.
In hindsight, yes, absolutely.

Yes she obviously did but I wouldn't have let it go on 6 months. Thats ridiculous. They should have paid months ago and if they hadn't then I would have told them it was all off.

I would never front up money with these people ever again. Or actually, anyone, if you dont have the finances to cover a delay because you clearly cant rely on people to do what they say.

Maybe she didn't realise they were likely to be flaky about paying but assumed they were going to be decent about it?