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To feel guilted into being vegan??? AIBU?

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CradleMable · 10/03/2026 22:10

I saw quite a traumatic animal welfare video a few days ago, which had the purpose of trying to encourage viewers to become vegan.

I am not a huge meat lover, but love the occasional beef burger, steak or nice roast dinner. I am a bit of a dairy fiend though, so not sure how I would cope.

However the video pointed towards the awful treatment of farm animals, being separated from their babies after mere hours together, and being slaughtered themselves at a relatively young age, after a life of being exploited.

I haven’t really considered the welfare of farm animals much in my life, if I’m honest, and I feel quite bad for admitting that. Now I’m wondering if what we do to these animals is fair, and I thought posting on here might help me consider both sides to the argument.

AIBU to now feel compelled to drastically change my diet in support of animal welfare?

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Timble · 11/03/2026 06:28

NotAnotherScarf · 10/03/2026 22:47

Remember that switching to a vegan diet means you will end up eating much more processed food, food made with ingredients from all over the world...so your health plus airmiles are impacted.

Plus soya is a major contribution to deforestation. As is palm oil.

Plus you need to be constantly on top of your protein and vitamin B intake as the vegan diet is low on these (unless you go for those ultra processed foods again)

You will probably have to take chemical supplements

Plus if you're a woman of child bearing age iron intake is also an issue

But crack on. Humans developed to eat meat as a necessity so you go against biology.

Sounds like you did your research from meat lovers monthly 😂

Hotcrossed · 11/03/2026 06:26

i think becoming a vegan is going too far
but check for welfare of the meat you are buying
and eat less meat

DeepBlueDeer · 11/03/2026 06:21

BlueJuniper94 · 11/03/2026 06:08

Not necessarily

You can come up with extreme individual cases but, as an average, most studies put the average carbon footprint of a vegan diet at between 25% to 50% of the average meat eater (the variance largely being by-country).

bringthewashingin · 11/03/2026 06:09

Why don’t you just eat whatever you want?

BlueJuniper94 · 11/03/2026 06:08

itsthetea · 11/03/2026 00:11

You have to eat if you want to live

eatung veggie / vegan has the lowest Impact

there is no perfect , there is just better

Not necessarily

DeepBlueDeer · 11/03/2026 06:07

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 04:35

It may take more to produce meat but it keeps people alive. I have yet to see a healthy looking vegan. And honey!! How fecking ridiculous. You may as well apologise for having the indecency to be alive.

Given time, I may consider accepting your apology x

BlueJuniper94 · 11/03/2026 06:07

OhBumBags · 10/03/2026 22:16

I don't believe you really want to know if 'you're being unreasonable'.

Your diet is your own choice.

I think the OP is looking for more information and a variety of perspectives to help shape that choice

Simonjt · 11/03/2026 06:05

NotAnotherScarf · 10/03/2026 22:47

Remember that switching to a vegan diet means you will end up eating much more processed food, food made with ingredients from all over the world...so your health plus airmiles are impacted.

Plus soya is a major contribution to deforestation. As is palm oil.

Plus you need to be constantly on top of your protein and vitamin B intake as the vegan diet is low on these (unless you go for those ultra processed foods again)

You will probably have to take chemical supplements

Plus if you're a woman of child bearing age iron intake is also an issue

But crack on. Humans developed to eat meat as a necessity so you go against biology.

I don’t eat any meat or dairy, I never have.

I don’t eat processed foods, I don’t eat anything with palm oil (or buy shampoo etc with it in), don’t eat soya. We eat seasonally, so our food miles aren’t significant. The only supplement I need is vitamin D, the same supplement a meat eater would need. I was an athelete, health is great.

DeepBlueDeer · 11/03/2026 05:56

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 04:31

I can't find a supporting theory for that anywhere. Please quote

Image from a GCSE textbook attached.

Its really basic stuff, and why the energy pyramid exists in nature.

Here's a simple video explanation for young children 😊

To feel guilted into being vegan??? AIBU?
Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 11/03/2026 05:50

NotAnotherScarf · 10/03/2026 22:47

Remember that switching to a vegan diet means you will end up eating much more processed food, food made with ingredients from all over the world...so your health plus airmiles are impacted.

Plus soya is a major contribution to deforestation. As is palm oil.

Plus you need to be constantly on top of your protein and vitamin B intake as the vegan diet is low on these (unless you go for those ultra processed foods again)

You will probably have to take chemical supplements

Plus if you're a woman of child bearing age iron intake is also an issue

But crack on. Humans developed to eat meat as a necessity so you go against biology.

@NotAnotherScarf , you absolutely do not need to eat ultra processed foods if you eat a vegan diet, quite the reverse actually. Many people who consume meat eat highly processed foods and have poor nutrition. It is perfectly possible to eat healthily on both diets and equally possible to be unhealthy.

Screamingabdabz · 11/03/2026 04:46

Bemused by the bitterness toward this fictional stereotype of “self righteous vegans” - as if SRV are the main problem in the world right now… 🙄

As a veggie (and aspiring vegan) of over 30 years I say YABU to let any behaviour or habits be dictated by guilt. I think better to reflect on your naivety about animal welfare in meat production and decide what your priorities are. Veganism is quite extreme. You can take incremental steps. As an interim step for example, you could decide that you will only eat meat with the highest welfare standards. And that’s fine. That’s a positive improvement.

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 04:35

It may take more to produce meat but it keeps people alive. I have yet to see a healthy looking vegan. And honey!! How fecking ridiculous. You may as well apologise for having the indecency to be alive.

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 04:31

DeepBlueDeer · 11/03/2026 03:27

And, if you successfully completed GCSE biology, you'd recall that eating crops directly is far more efficient (in terms of energy/calories) than eating animals that have been fed with crops, because the animals expend energy (even through passive things like breathing and growing). Between 70% and 97% (depending on the crop and animal) is "wasted" in conversion.

So, if everyone was vegan, we would need far, far fewer crops to be grown.

I can't find a supporting theory for that anywhere. Please quote

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 04:28

soz about the misspelling!!!!

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 04:27

References please as mine come from an Indian vegeterian doctor.

slashlover · 11/03/2026 04:20

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 02:07

But if everyone was vegan then it would be grown for billions of people. Nice try though.

But there would still be less grown than for those same billions of people eating meat.
To produce 1kg of animal protein it takes almost 6kg of soy or other grains, if humans ate the soy directly then it would save land. Also, onmivores already eat soy based foods such as soy sauce, Pot Noodles etc.

Nice try though.

DeepBlueDeer · 11/03/2026 03:27

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 02:07

But if everyone was vegan then it would be grown for billions of people. Nice try though.

And, if you successfully completed GCSE biology, you'd recall that eating crops directly is far more efficient (in terms of energy/calories) than eating animals that have been fed with crops, because the animals expend energy (even through passive things like breathing and growing). Between 70% and 97% (depending on the crop and animal) is "wasted" in conversion.

So, if everyone was vegan, we would need far, far fewer crops to be grown.

marmaladejam1 · 11/03/2026 02:07

Happyjoe · 11/03/2026 00:18

Lol, nearly all soy is grown to feed livestock. Nice try though!

But if everyone was vegan then it would be grown for billions of people. Nice try though.

SouthernNights59 · 11/03/2026 01:05

Dappy777 · 10/03/2026 22:55

I’m a vegetarian because I cannot bear cruelty to animals. It’s very simple really. We all know animals suffer, and we all know the meat industry is disgusting and cruel. I’m also suspicious of the people who work in slaughterhouses. The slaughter industry must be a magnet to sadists and psychopaths.

I’m not a joiner or campaigner by nature, but cruelty to animals is black and white. If someone eats meat, I don’t want to hear them moralising on any other issue. I don’t want to hear their views on Gaza or abortion or anything else. I have no respect for them.

What a load of rubbish! I live in a country where agriculture is a way of life and there are meatworks in my area. At one stage they were one of the major employers in this region, generations of locals worked there. I knew many of them, they were friends and neighbours, and I can assure you that not one of them was anywhere near a sadist or psychopath, just ordinary people doing a job. I have no respect for people who demonstrate such ignorance.

Booboobagins · 11/03/2026 00:53

I was vegetarian for 15 years because of my research into animal mistreatment. I didn't ever believe all are mistreated.

I started eating fish and eventually meat because my skin went awful and I couldn't work out why. 3 yrs later I learnt I didn't have enough fats in my diet 🙄

I have again stopped eating meat and fish. I switched from dairy to non dairy a while ago.

I am not vegan. I think veganism goes too far and I'd be worried I wouldn't know what to buy to eat esp good sources of protein - I mean, the easiest meals every are made from free range eggs, some veggies and non dairy cheese, which is actually OK. I also very much like popping baked beans in the bottom of a dish and covering them with packet stuffing with fried onion and a good layer of non dairy cheese. Baked for the period the stuffing needs cooking and it's a delicious alternative to a roast. And don't get me started on big mushrooms in place of meat in a curry or swede cooked like a ham...

I personally don't feel it changes how animals are treated/farmed, but it means I'm not contributing to mistreatment.

If you are concerned then act on your concern, noone is holding a gun to your head and noone is saying you can't have a burger etc if you fancy one either.

Coka · 11/03/2026 00:34

Happyjoe · 10/03/2026 23:32

Agree. And being vegetarian still has a positive impact.

There's more to just diet too. I haven't bought a single item of make up, skin care, cleaning products that have been tested on animals for over 30 years. It all helps not be part of the cruelty and for the most part has sent positive messages to the makers who now proudly announce cruelty free (and vegan) products.

Can i ask how you have managed this?

StrippeyFrog · 11/03/2026 00:33

Why not try some vegan switches for products you currently eat and see how it goes. It doesn’t need to be an immediate all or nothing. Look into dietary needs and recipes etc. I’ve been vegan for 17 years and have no health issues or vitamin deficiencies and I don’t particularly put much effort into stuff like that. I take a b12 supplement when I remember.

reptilemad1985 · 11/03/2026 00:29

chickens and pigs seam to be the least welfare friendly and dairy depending on farm compared to beef and lamb mutton

itsthetea · 11/03/2026 00:28

You can see with humans that the best way to fatten them up isn’t to treat them to a happy healthy lifestyle - and the same is true of meat

profit margins are higher if you can get the meat ro
sizs quickly and cheaply

reptilemad1985 · 11/03/2026 00:26

misssunshine4040 · 11/03/2026 00:16

I eat meat occasionally and I am fully aware of hideous way we treat farm animals
I struggle with it and definitely would struggle to be vegan but I’m considering it seriously.

I think it’s very ignorant not to even think about how your food got to your plate.
Barbaric treatment has been publicly reported for decades now there is really no excuse.

Do whatever works for you and your mindset

but are you most farmers care a lot for there stock there's no point taken a skin and bones cow to be sold they be worth nothing. if there fed properly and looked after then a higher price

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