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To feel guilted into being vegan??? AIBU?

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CradleMable · 10/03/2026 22:10

I saw quite a traumatic animal welfare video a few days ago, which had the purpose of trying to encourage viewers to become vegan.

I am not a huge meat lover, but love the occasional beef burger, steak or nice roast dinner. I am a bit of a dairy fiend though, so not sure how I would cope.

However the video pointed towards the awful treatment of farm animals, being separated from their babies after mere hours together, and being slaughtered themselves at a relatively young age, after a life of being exploited.

I haven’t really considered the welfare of farm animals much in my life, if I’m honest, and I feel quite bad for admitting that. Now I’m wondering if what we do to these animals is fair, and I thought posting on here might help me consider both sides to the argument.

AIBU to now feel compelled to drastically change my diet in support of animal welfare?

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MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 20:04

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:55

Spent a life time responding to these types.
🥱

How dare I paint my flat

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 20:03

Iris2020 · 11/03/2026 19:58

Not at all. I'm just a stickler for consistency and was just interested to see recent studies which identify the genes linked with vegetarianism and their metabolic properties.
That explains exactly why billions of people have managed to be vegan and others can't ... even if you offer them a billion pounds.

I'm amused by how staunchly preaching vegans look the other way at this developing area of knowledge and point blank refuse to address it.

No i get that some humans have systems that need meat. It doesn't make much sense as our digestive tracts are so long (compare with cats') and i will look for the literature; until then I can't believe it's more than a fractional amount. Just as there are overweight people who aee genetically disposed to carrying more weight.. but the vast majority just eat too much.

claudiawinklemansfringetrimmer · 11/03/2026 20:03

UniquePinkSwan · 11/03/2026 17:17

Why would you ruin your health by going vegan? Meat has everything your body needs and is completely bioavailable unlike plants. Also veganism is bad for the planet. All those out of season fruit and veg need to get here somehow and don’t even start on avocados.

I get my meat from the local farm. I’m doing my bit

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Sorry but this isn’t true and even a cursory google would tell you so. I can sort of understand when people have differing opinions of eating animals because that’s a matter of your personal beliefs and ethics, but arguments about what is better for the environment wind me up because this is something that is very measurable and widely studied!

Transport is a fairly small part of food production’s carbon output and while there are some outliers (poultry isn’t anywhere near as damaging as beef, chocolate and coffee are much more resource intensive than other plant products) on the whole plant based foods are much less environmentally damaging than meat and dairy. A vegan diet is demonstrably much more environmentally friendly.

”All five environmental impacts were associated with the amount of animal-based food consumed. The impacts of vegans were a quarter of those of high meat eaters for greenhouse gas emissions, and land use, just 27% of the impacts for water pollution, 46% for water use and 34% for biodiversity.”

https://www.alumni.ox.ac.uk/article/less-meat-better-for-environment

Really interesting graph re: carbon footprint of different foods and what proportion of it is caused by transport:

https://ourworldindata.org/grapher/food-emissions-supply-chain

There’s also a really interesting book called “How Bad Are Bananas?” which goes into the carbon footprint of loads of different things (bananas, interestingly, despite being shipped halfway across the world are actually not that bad at all)

LESS MEAT BETTER FOR ENVIRONMENT

A huge dataset confirms that a vegan diet is dramatically better than a meat diet across a broad range of environmental measures including biodiversity

https://www.alumni.ox.ac.uk/article/less-meat-better-for-environment

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:59

OP just take the plunge, you won't ever regret feeling morally superior to people who think it's funny to goad people who believe animals should be treated kindly. 😁

Iris2020 · 11/03/2026 19:58

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:53

@Iris2020 easy for billions of humans throughout human history too.
I think your guilty conscience might be riled 😊

Not at all. I'm just a stickler for consistency and was just interested to see recent studies which identify the genes linked with vegetarianism and their metabolic properties.
That explains exactly why billions of people have managed to be vegan and others can't ... even if you offer them a billion pounds.

I'm amused by how staunchly preaching vegans look the other way at this developing area of knowledge and point blank refuse to address it.

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:55

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:52

My house is painted with vegan paint. Want to keep trying to gotcha me? Put your mobile search into chat gpt and you'll get a different answer.

I suggest you sod off. I have NO time for people like you shouting "house paint"

Just shut up- eh.

Spent a life time responding to these types.
🥱

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:54

Iris2020 · 11/03/2026 19:49

It was easy for you. As people gain knowledge, it's becoming known why some people find veganism natural and easy and others are just constantly craving meat, unwell and plain unable to stick to
the diet.

The self-righteous pontificating will continue a few years until the science become more detailed and widely known but it nonetheless remains highly irritating.

There's more self righteous meat eaters on here than vegans.

Bank notes. House Paint -gotcha!

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:53

@Iris2020 easy for billions of humans throughout human history too.
I think your guilty conscience might be riled 😊

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:52

alcoholfreelife · 11/03/2026 19:38

This is what your quick google search comes up with! But fair play if you have a vegan mobile they are bloody expensive and if you don’t use uk money , nor watch tv then you have no need to worry and yes in your case meat is indeed murder oh and if you don’t use biodegradable items in your home then also fair play to you oh and also some house paint and plaster contains animal derivatives too

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My house is painted with vegan paint. Want to keep trying to gotcha me? Put your mobile search into chat gpt and you'll get a different answer.

I suggest you sod off. I have NO time for people like you shouting "house paint"

Just shut up- eh.

Iris2020 · 11/03/2026 19:49

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:44

At the risk of sounding self rightous 🙄 we humans treat animals abominably purely for the sake of our taste buds and cultural conditioning.
Once the Pandora's box is open it can be difficult to keep avoiding the truth.
Being vegan is really easy. Even 30 years ago when I made the change it was managable. I had some wobbles in the early years but always reminded myself that no egg is worth macerating a chick for, and no pork chop is worth throwing a piglet at a wall for or crating its mother. Dairy cows are amongst the most ill treated animals and the idea that their babies are taken from them so we can drink their milk is repugnant and morally bereft to me.
There are so many foods available that are animal free and you can have a rich and varied diet these days. I'm really happy to share some recipes and tips if you like.
Cue the antagonistic meat eaters 5...4..3...2..1

It was easy for you. As people gain knowledge, it's becoming known why some people find veganism natural and easy and others are just constantly craving meat, unwell and plain unable to stick to
the diet.

The self-righteous pontificating will continue a few years until the science become more detailed and widely known but it nonetheless remains highly irritating.

Knittedanimal · 11/03/2026 19:44

At the risk of sounding self rightous 🙄 we humans treat animals abominably purely for the sake of our taste buds and cultural conditioning.
Once the Pandora's box is open it can be difficult to keep avoiding the truth.
Being vegan is really easy. Even 30 years ago when I made the change it was managable. I had some wobbles in the early years but always reminded myself that no egg is worth macerating a chick for, and no pork chop is worth throwing a piglet at a wall for or crating its mother. Dairy cows are amongst the most ill treated animals and the idea that their babies are taken from them so we can drink their milk is repugnant and morally bereft to me.
There are so many foods available that are animal free and you can have a rich and varied diet these days. I'm really happy to share some recipes and tips if you like.
Cue the antagonistic meat eaters 5...4..3...2..1

MarianofSherwood · 11/03/2026 19:39

PaddingtonsMarmaladeSandwich · 10/03/2026 22:21

UABU to change your diet based on that.

We are biologically omnivores. You can always look out for dairy / meat bred in better conditions.

This ^ These animals are bred for consumption. If there wasn't a market for them, they probably wouldnt have been alive at all. Your diet, your choice.

Iris2020 · 11/03/2026 19:39

CradleMable · 10/03/2026 23:06

Thank you for the replies so far… it’s a lot to consider!

One factor that worries me is i struggle with anaemia. My ferritin is also on the floor. I worry how I would be if I cut out meat, given that I struggle to tolerate the iron supplements.

OP the ability to follow a vegan diet is genetic. Studies are starting to prove it but it's always been completely obvious.
More people cm manage a vegetarian diet but still not all.

Honestly don't let anyone guilt you into it. Life is hard enough as it is.

alcoholfreelife · 11/03/2026 19:38

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:34

You're wrong about phones like I said before. A quick Google search will confirm that. I don't have a TV. Smart or other

This is what your quick google search comes up with! But fair play if you have a vegan mobile they are bloody expensive and if you don’t use uk money , nor watch tv then you have no need to worry and yes in your case meat is indeed murder oh and if you don’t use biodegradable items in your home then also fair play to you oh and also some house paint and plaster contains animal derivatives too

To feel guilted into being vegan??? AIBU?
MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:36

Grapewrath · 11/03/2026 18:59

haha in my whole 40 years as veggie and several of those vegan nobody has described me as grey. Weirdly every person who used to be veggie and now eats meat uses that they were ‘grey’ ‘pale’ and exhausted. Makes me wonder what the fuck they were eating?

Toast?

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:35

BeOchreDog · 11/03/2026 19:29

Over 95% of dairy farms in the UK are Red Tractor certified. Euthanasia of calves is disallowed and calves must be kept with their mother for at least five weeks before they are weaned, they aren’t removed or killed at birth.

Red tractor have awful welfare standards. A quick Google search would confirm this.

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:34

alcoholfreelife · 11/03/2026 19:14

Actually no that doesn’t help, uk polymer bank notes contain trace amounts of tallow in its early production process and electonics and smart TVs etc contain animal cholesterol in it’s production, yes there are vegan options available but not easily and they are expensive, a lot of biodegradable items we use in our homes for various things contain animal proteins due to how they breakdown but your “hth” comment isn’t really helpful

You're wrong about phones like I said before. A quick Google search will confirm that. I don't have a TV. Smart or other

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 19:32

alcoholfreelife · 11/03/2026 19:14

Actually no that doesn’t help, uk polymer bank notes contain trace amounts of tallow in its early production process and electonics and smart TVs etc contain animal cholesterol in it’s production, yes there are vegan options available but not easily and they are expensive, a lot of biodegradable items we use in our homes for various things contain animal proteins due to how they breakdown but your “hth” comment isn’t really helpful

I'm in Scotland. There are some paper notes here. Your point?

BeOchreDog · 11/03/2026 19:29

Over 95% of dairy farms in the UK are Red Tractor certified. Euthanasia of calves is disallowed and calves must be kept with their mother for at least five weeks before they are weaned, they aren’t removed or killed at birth.

alcoholfreelife · 11/03/2026 19:14

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 11:54

Paper notes are polymer free

You're incorrect about phones

I can't remember the last time I used cash

I don't want to eat meat. Hth

Actually no that doesn’t help, uk polymer bank notes contain trace amounts of tallow in its early production process and electonics and smart TVs etc contain animal cholesterol in it’s production, yes there are vegan options available but not easily and they are expensive, a lot of biodegradable items we use in our homes for various things contain animal proteins due to how they breakdown but your “hth” comment isn’t really helpful

Sassylovesbooks · 11/03/2026 19:12

It's your choice if you want to be a meat eater, vegetarian or vegan.

I am a meat eater, although we do eat some vegetarian meals per week too.

Grapewrath · 11/03/2026 18:59

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 18:53

Surely not. You should be dreaming about rotisserie chicken and then going to devour it in the car park because your hubby said you looked grey

haha in my whole 40 years as veggie and several of those vegan nobody has described me as grey. Weirdly every person who used to be veggie and now eats meat uses that they were ‘grey’ ‘pale’ and exhausted. Makes me wonder what the fuck they were eating?

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 18:53

Grapewrath · 11/03/2026 18:50

Also- some of these replies are wild.
I have been vegan for many years- I had 3 healthy term babies and bf them all. I have no health problems- my bloods are perfect, I have thick hair, I’m a healthy weight and I strength train 4 times a week.
i don’t use any UPF and the only vitamin I take is b12

Surely not. You should be dreaming about rotisserie chicken and then going to devour it in the car park because your hubby said you looked grey

Grapewrath · 11/03/2026 18:50

Also- some of these replies are wild.
I have been vegan for many years- I had 3 healthy term babies and bf them all. I have no health problems- my bloods are perfect, I have thick hair, I’m a healthy weight and I strength train 4 times a week.
i don’t use any UPF and the only vitamin I take is b12

MauvePombear · 11/03/2026 18:48

I don't force my view onto others either. My brother eats meat. I've never told him to go vegan

Not once

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