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How the fuck am I supposed to relocate when these are the 'rules'?

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PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 16:26

TL:DR

I want to relocate 200+miles away. I can't get a mortgage in principle because I won't have a job initially due to the distance; I can't get a job because I can't commute 200 miles each way to work!

Help!!!

Wanting to relocate from South Coast to North Yorkshire. Have a good amount of equity but want to reduce outgoings. Would still need a small mortage to buy new place (approx 15% LTV). After current home is sold and all expenses paid would be debt free with a contingency fund of approx £10k.

My current mortgage provider won't talk to me about anything because 'we can't offer advice' but you need a job for any of our products including porting your mortgage.

Mortgage providers in general want proof of regular income which given that I'm moving over 200 miles I can't provide.

Looked into shared ownership - 75% share purchased outright and £146 per month rent with option to staircase to 100% one I'm settled and get a job and can get a mortgage...computer says no...they also assess on monthly income.

How TF do people relocate? I'm looking for remote working jobs but ones that would suit me are few and far between and presumably one of the finance jobsworths is going to want umpteen payslips in triplicate before agreeing anything.

I've waited so long to make this move and my current lifestyle is absolutely killing me.

Can anyone suggest a way I can make it work? I might be able to scrape together enough to buy something without a mortgage but it would be tight.

OP posts:
MrsEmmelinePankhurst · 10/03/2026 16:30

Do you currently have a job where you are?

If you do, you just apply for the mortgage based on that. The mortgage company isn’t going to ask you where you job is based (unless things have changed a lot since I worked in mortgages); they want proof of actual income.

Then you deal with the job hunt once the mortgage has been approved!

BillyNoProblems · 10/03/2026 16:30

You rent until you find a job? Why do you want to buy so quickly anyway? Much more sensible to rent while you get to know the area better

FernandoSor · 10/03/2026 16:29

They rent.

HiFalutinFolDeRols · 10/03/2026 16:28

Move into rented for the interim?

Shittyyear2025 · 10/03/2026 16:28

Rent first? Get a job then apply for a mortgage

There's not really any other way

Arlanymor · 10/03/2026 16:28

You rent for a while to ensure that the new job and new area are a good fit for you.

nomas · 10/03/2026 16:27
  • Become a lodger in North Yorkshire. Parts of it are cheap (especially compared to the South West)
  • Apply for a job and get the job
  • Then get a mortgage
metalbottle · 10/03/2026 16:26

Talk to a good broker.

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