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How the fuck am I supposed to relocate when these are the 'rules'?

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PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 16:26

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I want to relocate 200+miles away. I can't get a mortgage in principle because I won't have a job initially due to the distance; I can't get a job because I can't commute 200 miles each way to work!

Help!!!

Wanting to relocate from South Coast to North Yorkshire. Have a good amount of equity but want to reduce outgoings. Would still need a small mortage to buy new place (approx 15% LTV). After current home is sold and all expenses paid would be debt free with a contingency fund of approx £10k.

My current mortgage provider won't talk to me about anything because 'we can't offer advice' but you need a job for any of our products including porting your mortgage.

Mortgage providers in general want proof of regular income which given that I'm moving over 200 miles I can't provide.

Looked into shared ownership - 75% share purchased outright and £146 per month rent with option to staircase to 100% one I'm settled and get a job and can get a mortgage...computer says no...they also assess on monthly income.

How TF do people relocate? I'm looking for remote working jobs but ones that would suit me are few and far between and presumably one of the finance jobsworths is going to want umpteen payslips in triplicate before agreeing anything.

I've waited so long to make this move and my current lifestyle is absolutely killing me.

Can anyone suggest a way I can make it work? I might be able to scrape together enough to buy something without a mortgage but it would be tight.

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IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 10/03/2026 19:57

How about looking for temporary lodgings with someone who is just letting out a room in their house.

Communitychoir · 10/03/2026 19:57

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Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 10/03/2026 19:55

We did it by having a job at location A, buying the house at location B and moving to B and resigning from A after purchase simultaneously. Had a small holiday and we both got new jobs. Bank non the wiser for it.

Itsmetheflamingo · 10/03/2026 19:51

im not clear on whether you actually have a job now?

if so, as everyone else said get the mortgage on that job (go through a market brokers since you’ve told your bank hour dilemma) you need to sell your house and buy a new one, it’ll be months. Use that time to job hunt for school/ nhs jobs in Yorkshire. You can afford the mortgage for a while without one anyway so what’s the big deal?

don’t bother looking for fully remote jobs. Totally unskilled remote jobs are like hens teeth (assuming that’s what you’re looking for)

Communitychoir · 10/03/2026 19:50

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Notmyreality · 10/03/2026 19:44

You rent and in the meantime sell your old
property while looking for a new job.

pimplebum · 10/03/2026 19:42

Get a job tell them you can start in x month time

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Nofeckingway · 10/03/2026 19:39

So you currently have a job I presume ? Even if you got a job in your location wouldn't any broker want you to be at least six months in the job or have things changed . If you are only looking to borrow £35 would there be alternative lenders. A credit union or bank loan as opposed to mortgage ?

PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 19:28

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Well in theory, but we all know what the jobs market is like at the moment!

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Ilikewinter · 10/03/2026 19:25

Well in your situation I would just crack on and move then!. Keep your current job to help secure your new mortgage and resign when your new house completes.

Thanks - I'm not sure how this will fly but will be catching up with my mortgage advisor later this week. He's aware of the situation and is making enquiries.

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nocoolnamesleft · 10/03/2026 19:26

I moved several hundred miles between my last job and this one, from a rental to my first property. I got the job first, then used the letter confirming job offer and start date, the salary scales, and my old payslips to get a mortgage. Got a bit close to the wire, but managed to move in before starting.

PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 19:25

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I am looking for remote working jobs

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PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 19:15

Yes...I've budgeted at least £10k contingency and with a substantial deposit and buying a cheaper property this would be enough to cover 2.5 years worth of mortgage payments...hence my being so bloody frustrated!

Well in your situation I would just crack on and move then!. Keep your current job to help secure your new mortgage and resign when your new house completes.

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PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 19:24

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I'm working to repayments of max £300 per month - the aim of the move is to roughly half my existing mortgage payments.

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PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 19:22

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I haven't been rejected. I spoke to someone about doing the financial assessment and was told they would base it on monthly payments.

If I managed to get something in place job wise in the the next month I can still apply for that.

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Because I'm only looking at a mortgage of about £35k and I'd like to keep something of a safety net in place.

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PissedOffAndStuck · 10/03/2026 19:18

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Well, potentially the shared ownership place.

My place is going on the market in a couple of weeks, applications for SO open mid April so I'd need to get finances sorted by then.

I just want to have as many components in place as possible either way so I can move quickly on a property if I need to.

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