Would this bug you?

Completely agree with this. I've had legal guardianship of my sister from age 4 and if they had done this at nursery soon after she had been removed from her mother's care it would have destroyed her, she was already so vulnerable at that point.
Completely unnecessary, families can celebrate it at home.

I literally have no idea why you wouldn't just ask, when it got to the end of the queue, where yours was. It's really weird that you didn't.

I think it would have been possible to ask in a light-hearted way without it causing embarrassment. I would have addressed it head on at the time.

Except OP you are bothered enough to start a thread and it’s totally obvious that the response will be ‘you should have said something’! So your are not being unreasonable to be upset about it, but you were unreasonable not to ask at the time. Hormonal or not it’s three words!

I would have asked while I was there but I wouldn’t ask now.

Is your DS in every day? Is he able to tell you whether he took part in the activity? That would be my first thought. Having said that it was pretty stupid of them to just to see you there waiting your turn and completely ignore you and offer up no explanation.
Or, as someone else asked, was it a costed activity and you didn’t realise or forgot to pay?
You need to raise it next opportunity you get.

Why couldn’t you even have a photo??

If your child has attended every day. He has chosen not to make one. It's children's choice staff can't insist they do anything. When he seen the other children getting their pack he would only see them getting a gift. He is too young to join the two situations together. Staff should have told you he chose not to do it

Well I do empathise with you not wanting the drama in the moment, totally, but I also think this is total crap of the nursery staff. They knew you awere there and whatever the reasoning/mistake/reason they didn't have the maturity to deal with it like adults, so I'd be pissed about that part more so than anything, and also your son noticed and knew too. it's not 'nothing'

Did you ask before you left?? Or said about having a photo?

The nursery are unreasonable for not just saying to you - sorry your son was napping at the time we were making these and we forgot to do it with him later, or your son was a bit distracted when we were doing is so it didn't get finished, really sorry Twinkly. I totally get how this would make you really sad.

However in that situation I can't imagine having the time to think about whether it was reasonable or not to say anything, it would have just come out before I'd thought 'oh, did my son not make one of those Mothers Day things?'. And I am usually an introverted confrontation avoider!

I guess the nurseries lack of addressing it made you stop and think?

It'll be totally fine to just politely say today 'sorry, to bother you, but did my son make one of those Mothers Day gifts, or did he not make one for some reason?'

You’re annoyed with yourself for not speaking up. You’ll keep thinking about it. Or you can mention it to nursery today.

Surely at the time its a simple oh didn't Jacob make one. You have made it a bigger issue by delaying saying it.

I think you're probably overthinking this one. You wouldn't be that parent and you wouldn't have embarrassed anyone by asking at the time. There's probably a really simple explanation and a really easy fix for this. Just ask them

I would have been disappointed especially as your DC asked about his flower. Speak to the nursery, but the opportunity has passed.

At school we always helped families with specific circumstances. We’d chat to a child in an age appropriate way about whether they wanted to make something, who they want to give it to (someone who helps look after you).

It’s the same with ‘bring in a baby photo/photo of your parents/ask your granny about…’. Everyone has some situation or other and we’d always phrase things carefully.

It’s not unreasonable to have expected nursery to have realised or at least offered an explanation why your son missed out you but you also could have said something.
As an aside, and this is probably a discussion for another day, in my opinion nice as it is, nurseries shouldn’t really be acknowledging Mothers’s Day as there could be children who don’t have Mothers in the lives for various reasons.

Its a bit awkward, I would have asked, "sorry, did DS make one?" Will be worse asking later I think

@Goldencoast2 rude

It's probably there misplaced under a book or something. Or dc chose to not do the art and they forgot to tell you, an error but understandable if they were busy. In DCs nursery at graduation they did a presentation with a photo montage of each child, but accidentally left one child out and didnt notice until it was over. Parents and child were understandably upset. There was a whole folder of photos of the child that was accidentally not added to the presentation, a simple admin error but a pretty bad one to make. It happens!

You must have a lot of time on your hands to be worrying about this. Your kid will forget about it within a few days

You're not being that parent, you're enquiring if your son was excluded from an activity because he was certainly excluded from having his photo taken and you want to know why, because now he and you feel left out, but him most importantly.

Just talk to them. You're not being unreasonable for wanting your son's gift to you but you're being unreasonable not to ask when it clearly matters to you. There could be a multitude of different reasons his wasn't there. Maybe someone picked up your child's in error, maybe your child's was temporarily somewhere else or maybe it was a genuine mistake but I am sure if you talk to them it will be easily resolved. Be polite, ask the question and say you were looking forward to it and I am sure they'll resolve it. No harm done.