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Nameisntmine · 09/03/2026 20:22

We live in a rental property (me, DH, DS and DD)
There’s a slab of concrete in our garden which had a beam of wood on the outer edges that’s now gone rotten and has started to just fall part. I asked if we could have the wood either replaced or removed and the landlord said no and to just put the wood in the general waste - which Ive checked on the counsil website and it isn’t even allowed!! They also said that they won’t be removing the concrete (which I didn’t ask them to do, I was only referring to the wood)
we are now going to replace the wood and dispose of the old wood correctly. But I’m not going to be asking permission to replace it as it’s something I feel HAS to be done- the concrete edges are sharp! And I feel it’s unsafe for the children if they were to fall on it etc.
the landlord has previously said we can’t do certain things around the house e.g. paining, putting up curtain poles etc. previously. However I feel like this is probably different?

I just wondered generally if this is even our responsibility as it doesn’t state in our contract regarding the garden.

AIBU to replace it without asking? I’m a bit miffed about this tbh

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Hoppinggreen · 11/03/2026 10:09

You can just sort that out yourself, no need to bother your LL with it
As for curtain poles and painting you CAN in theory do these things without permission but you would have to restore everything to how it was when you moved in when you leave
From May its going to be so much harder to evict you as well so if you do decide to make any changes I woudl wait until after that

kiwiane · 11/03/2026 09:56

It’s just a normal part of a garden that’s not perfectly paved and tidy so I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. Children benefit from some risk and hazards - this seems minor. The wood can go behind the shed.
The concrete doesn’t look dangerous but if it’s sharp you could use soil, gravel or wood against it.
You know what your landlord is like so I’d save your complaints for serious safety issues.

YourShyLion · 11/03/2026 09:48

I think you're being a bit overly sensitive and fixated on the supposed danger to your children. They're both old enough to be told and understand that they should be careful or avoid this small area. Children trip and fall it's life and not the end of the world. Much as I'd love to they can't be wrapped in cotton wool.

Nameisntmine · 11/03/2026 09:10

@Snaletrale i think it was potentially left by the previous tenants. I can’t actually remember the situation now but I managed to get a free one from a friend so we decided not to kick off 😅

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Snaletrale · 10/03/2026 23:20

How did they justify not replacing the cooker? They have to, unless it wasn’t built in and they expressly gave it to you so it’s not included in the inventory.

dizzydizzydizzy · 10/03/2026 19:08

Nameisntmine · 10/03/2026 19:01

@dizzydizzydizzy I have to say I was a bit surprised too. Anything we’ve asked to do to improve it has been met with a no. I actually asked to make the wall WHITE 😂
When the cooker broke they said they wouldn’t be replacing it etc too. I think it’s a basically a situation where they aren’t willing to invest ANY money but also don’t want us to either which doesn’t really make sense!

Sounds very bad. If the landlord provided the cooker, it would normally be their responsibility to get it repaired or replaced.

Nameisntmine · 10/03/2026 19:01

@dizzydizzydizzy I have to say I was a bit surprised too. Anything we’ve asked to do to improve it has been met with a no. I actually asked to make the wall WHITE 😂
When the cooker broke they said they wouldn’t be replacing it etc too. I think it’s a basically a situation where they aren’t willing to invest ANY money but also don’t want us to either which doesn’t really make sense!

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dizzydizzydizzy · 10/03/2026 17:54

YANBU. Your landlord is responsible for sorting this out. I am surprised to hear about them not allowing you to paint and put up curtain poles. Most will want you to ask permission but would normally be glad if the tenant wants to make the properly nicer. I’m assuming you weren’t planning on painting the wall black or some other colour that would be unacceptable to most.

BlueMum16 · 10/03/2026 17:46

Nameisntmine · 10/03/2026 11:52

@NotAnotherScarf fgs why would you find it offensive?! I’m the one replacing it, but I gave them the option to if they wanted to. I genuinely didn’t know who’s responsibility it was… but I’m willing to do it myself. 😂

I simply want to make it safer what’s wrong with that? I have a 2 and 5 year old- I’m sorry but it is unsafe to have a gap with sharp edges and metal bolts sticking out 😂

Maybe buy a bag or two of bark and fill the border.

Kids will try and fall you can bubble wrap anything.

Nameisntmine · 10/03/2026 11:52

@NotAnotherScarf fgs why would you find it offensive?! I’m the one replacing it, but I gave them the option to if they wanted to. I genuinely didn’t know who’s responsibility it was… but I’m willing to do it myself. 😂

I simply want to make it safer what’s wrong with that? I have a 2 and 5 year old- I’m sorry but it is unsafe to have a gap with sharp edges and metal bolts sticking out 😂

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NotAnotherScarf · 10/03/2026 09:13

Bloody hell are you worried your child might fall down the cracks in the pavement too. It's a step. They exist everywhere. If you are worried about that then I think you need to buy your kid a crash helmet, full American football pads and have the air ambulance on standby

Nameisntmine · 10/03/2026 09:09

A planter is a much better idea thanks!
we thought about decking it because our neighbours offered us some remaining decking of theirs, but I think a planter will actually work great

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hattie43 · 10/03/2026 08:19

Just remove it and take it to the top or gravel fill the gap and put a planter on it . Job done .

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 10/03/2026 08:19

Buy a few sedum plants. They'll grow into a kind of spongy mat that will cover the sharp edge. They're good for insects to live in. Pick pink or purple flowering ones to attract bees and butterflies.

Snaletrale · 10/03/2026 08:15

I don’t think it’s really up to the LL as it’s not particularly dangerous, but if you want to improve it then you can get plastic or stone edging for gardens which you can embed a little in the gravel in front.
I’d be finding the cheapest and most attractive solution and doing it myself.

Polythene · 10/03/2026 08:09

Or leylandii. Then when you move out they'll be massive and your landlord will be wishing he'd bothered his lazy arse .

user1492757084 · 10/03/2026 08:06

Put some gravel there or plant some Forget-me-knots or Geraniums.

Nameisntmine · 10/03/2026 08:00

So this is the gap which I’m guessing is why the wood was originally there. Maybe we could use something else to fill it but I just think a little foot could easily get caught under it. As I’ve said we offered to replace it- I haven’t made a fuss to the landlord and have only ever been OVERLY polite because we live in fear of eviction.

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Monty27 · 10/03/2026 01:19

I'm sure it's not the only danger in your garden. Id just chuck the wood behind a shrub or something and forget about it. I don't get the fuss tbh.

Catroo · 10/03/2026 01:12

Its a basic concrete step and they would not usually have a timber front to them as they dont last, and become an extra hazard.
If you feel you must put something there then just make it so its removable should you leave, and take before photos for records.

UncharteredWaters · 10/03/2026 01:00

It’s the same as any step or kerb? why would you be so anxious about kids unwell they are under 2? In which case you’d be supervising closely?

Rayqueen2026 · 10/03/2026 00:32

Erm looking all around there's been hazards for ages it's not flush with pavement, background shows other hazards etc, just jumping on something I would never bother a landlord with tbh...and you would have known about what you could and couldn't do before signing a contract... For us we refused houses until we found one not strict and allowed us to put our stamp on it

AnOldCynic · 10/03/2026 00:22

Plant some plants in the gravel to the front of the concrete.

Friendlygingercat · 09/03/2026 23:53

Make sure you have a written record of warning your LL you think the concrete is dangerous. Remind him that he has a duty of care towards his tenants. If one of your DC has an accident on the concrete get a rotweiler pay-if-you-win solicitor and sue the ass off the LL.

HoskinsChoice · 09/03/2026 23:04

Isn't it just a normal step? No sharper or more dangerous than any normal stone flagged step?