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To think my daughter is too young for her bf?

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CraftyHazelSeal · 09/03/2026 16:56

My daughter is 20 years old. A few months ago she started dating a man 16 years older than her. Me and DH didn't know about him, we assumed she was dating someone her age. She told us she never felt uncomfortable with him, he never suggested her alcohol and he treats her well. But we're still worried about his intentions. I can't confirm but as she says he's single, never did drugs and his criminal record is clean. She's suggested us to meet with him.

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70sGreenGoblin · 09/03/2026 17:01

I dated a guy 12 years my senior when I was 22 and it was the best relationship I've ever had. He completely adored me. My parents were not happy though- my mum used to call him ' Methuselah.'
The only concern imo is that they're at different life stages.

Glitchymn1 · 09/03/2026 17:01

mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/03/2026 16:59

Well shes bringing him to meet you, which is a positive

Tell her your concerns once but say that you love and will support her, whilst silently praying for this man to piss off

^ This. Keep calm and supportive, you don’t want them eloping.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/03/2026 16:59

Well shes bringing him to meet you, which is a positive

Tell her your concerns once but say that you love and will support her, whilst silently praying for this man to piss off