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To be annoyed at the GP receptionist for being arsey about this?

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SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 16:30

Had a GP phone appointment booked for 13:10 today, for something that needs sorting today (think medication review/replacement). Took my break at work from 13:00-13:30. 13:35 came, still no call, so I went back to work.

Finished work at 4:00 p.m, checked my phone and saw a missed call at 13:41 - so I rang back asking could I possibly get the GP to call me now as I'm not longer in work.

GP receptionist huffs, says she'll try but I should have kept an eye on my phone as they can't always help when it's the patients who missed the appointments. When I then point out to her that actually they rang half an hour after my scheduled appointment, which is why I missed it, she said that that shouldn't be relevant and I should always be by the phone because it's known that GPs run late sometimes.

AIBU to want to complain, or at least mention to the GP who I'm still waiting to call that some of us can't stop doing our jobs and wait for a call just because THEY are running late? If they'd sent a text or something that they were running behind I could have taken my break later and probably kept the appointment.

It feels like I'm being told off like a naughty child because THEY were late.

OP posts:
Giraffemug30 · 09/03/2026 18:27

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 18:20

I was told I could have my break around the appointment time - which I did! I had no way of knowing they were running late.

But then when your call was obviously late as it hadnt arrived?

Again the issue is your work being inflexible. You had no way of knowing they were running late, but it is also incredibly normal and predictable.

Once again the NHS are expected to solve problems that are actually incredibly simple to deal with, just have your phone with you throughout the afternoon.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 09/03/2026 18:27

Hobbitfeet32 · 09/03/2026 18:23

Kindly if you are a hotel receptionist you absolutely could have had your phone on you. On vibrate. Nothing bad would have happened if you took the call.

Sure except she might get disciplined if her manager saw. Or lose some pay. Never mind eh!

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 09/03/2026 18:26

The thing is, this system absolutely entrenches inequity of access to care.

I have a nice cushty leadership job with my own office and a PA. If I need to block my diary or decide to WFH to accommdate a GP appointment, I can generally do that without having to take a day's leave.

And if I do take a day's leave, I don't lose pay as I am on a salary.

If you work in an hourly paid job with little autonomy and rigid management, or you work in a big public space with no private space you can commandeer at a moment's notice, then it is way harder. Sometimes impossible.

This is absolutely a social equality issue and in the sector I work, would be called out as such.

Hobbitfeet32 · 09/03/2026 18:23

Kindly if you are a hotel receptionist you absolutely could have had your phone on you. On vibrate. Nothing bad would have happened if you took the call.

QuinqueremeofNiveneh · 09/03/2026 18:21

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 17:48

Oh no to be clear I'm more annoyed at the attitude of the receptionist - I understand the GP has an insane workload but so do I! I can't have my phone on me unfortunately

That does make telephone appointments super tricky!

It's definitely a good idea to mention your work rules/circumstances to your GP when you do get to speak to them (hopefully soon!) and also remind the practice every time you book your appointments (if this is an ongoing thing). They should be able to prioritise you if they're aware. Also, depending on the issue, the GP might be able to communicate by text message and go by photographs.

HoppityBun · 09/03/2026 18:21

MarchUsername · 09/03/2026 18:12

I once had a phone call back at past 9pm! So ridiculous

But that means the GP was working after 9pm. They’re so under pressure.

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 18:20

Giraffemug30 · 09/03/2026 18:17

What did your manager say when you asked to have your phone with you today as you had a telephone consultation?

Because that seems to be the real issue. GPs can run late, and you did miss their call. 30 minutes late isn't an unusual amount of time for a GP to run late for. A small amount of flexibility from your workplace would solve this issue

I was told I could have my break around the appointment time - which I did! I had no way of knowing they were running late.

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Changednameagain999 · 09/03/2026 18:18

Iheartmysmart · 09/03/2026 16:52

We don’t even get given a time slot for a telephone consultation, it’s an abrupt text message saying a GP will call you on whatever date and to be available until 6pm. God forbid that you need to go out or even have a toilet break during that time. The phone will ring twice then the GP hangs up and you’re marked down as missing your appointment.

same here. Phone in hand scrabbling to answer it and they hang up!

Giraffemug30 · 09/03/2026 18:17

What did your manager say when you asked to have your phone with you today as you had a telephone consultation?

Because that seems to be the real issue. GPs can run late, and you did miss their call. 30 minutes late isn't an unusual amount of time for a GP to run late for. A small amount of flexibility from your workplace would solve this issue

dizzydizzydizzy · 09/03/2026 18:17

Growlybear83 · 09/03/2026 17:25

I think you’re being very unreasonable. A phone consultation with a GP is just the same as a face to face one in that doctors often run late and can do little about it. I don’t think half an hour after your appointment time is unreasonably late on the part of the doctor, and of course you should have kept your phone ready for the call.

I pretty much agree with this to be honest. Although
I definitely understand how annoying it is to wait, especially if you have timed your break at work to coincide with the appointment or if you have a job that prevents you from taking calls.

The issue for GPs I assume is that they only have 10 or 15 minutes allocated to each patient, including reading the notes beforehand and writing the notes up afterwards. Some of us cannot be dealt with in that time. Last week, I had a 40 minute phone call with my GP, so all appointments after mine must have been very late. The week before, I had a 30 minute face-to-face appointment with the same GP. This particular GP nearly always runs late. She is good.

Happyjoe · 09/03/2026 18:17

This pisses me off too, same at my GP. If I was half hour plus late for my appointment in person they'd not see me, why isn't that courtesy extended?

I'd complain about the attitude..

MrsHaroldWilson · 09/03/2026 18:13

You're lucky yours gives a time for phone calls. Mine just says 'between 8am and 5pm'. They don't seem to have any concept of people actually being at work during the day. It's fucking pathetic.

MarchUsername · 09/03/2026 18:12

I once had a phone call back at past 9pm! So ridiculous

lanthanum · 09/03/2026 18:12

Wouldn't it be great if there was a way to respond to appointment times to indicate the latest you could cope with the call being, so that a late-running GP can see something like:
13.00 Patient available until 18.00
13.10 Patient available until 13.40
13.20 Patient available until 14.20
13.30 Patient available until 14.00.
13.40 Patient available until 14.00, also 15.00 - 18.00
They could then prioritise those who only have a limited window of availability, until such point as they are caught up. They might even be able to flag to the reception team to let the first person know that it's going to be a while later.
Maybe someone will design a system like this eventually.

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 18:09

ScarlettSarah · 09/03/2026 18:05

I'd be looking to make better allowances at your work. Can there not be an exception for you to answer the phone? Is there really no one else who could have covered for a few minutes?

Unless it's an emergency, no, and a GP appointment doesn't class as an emergency. I'm on minimum wage I can't take the whole day off for one appointment unfortunately

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Soontobe60 · 09/03/2026 18:08

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 17:20

I'm a hotel receptionist so my phone has to be kept in the back while I'm working on the front, so if I'm not also in the back on my break I can't answer it.

The response from the surgery aside, your employer should be understanding enough to know that you are expecting a call from the GP so will need your phone on you. That by accepting a telephone consultation you’re avoiding a lengthy chunk of time away from work to visit the GP

ScarlettSarah · 09/03/2026 18:05

I'd be looking to make better allowances at your work. Can there not be an exception for you to answer the phone? Is there really no one else who could have covered for a few minutes?

Shatteredallthetimelately · 09/03/2026 18:04

It's a ball ache but whether face to face or phone consultation you never know what previous patients problems are.

Just the chat could be a life saver, they could be given bad news and just need some extra time to understand.

It's really the 10 minute allocation that's a bit out of kilter.

Having said that when we get a phone consultation sent over they inform you it could be up to an hour late.

Isittimeformynapyet · 09/03/2026 18:04

JenniferBooth · 09/03/2026 17:44

Its not GPs being overworked we are objecting to. Its when they pass the blame onto the patients by gaslighting and saying they missed appintments that is the problem.

That's not gaslighting.

QuinqueremeofNiveneh · 09/03/2026 18:00

WhatAMarvelousTune · 09/03/2026 17:55

So because the NHS is a good thing, GP receptionists can be a rude, and as factually inaccurate, as they like?

Do you think there is a realistic chance that this is what I was attempting to say?

Please take a deep breath and have a think.

It's OK to take a balanced view of things, you know.

muddyford · 09/03/2026 17:59

My cousin had a telephone appointment with a cardiologist. They didn't ring and and when he rang to find out what was going on he was told he was down as a DNA (did not attend).

QuinqueremeofNiveneh · 09/03/2026 17:58

JenniferBooth · 09/03/2026 17:51

The OP is being told she missed an apppintment when she didnt That is gaslighting.

Do you also think these women should shut up and be grateful?

https://www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/north-east-news/four-women-share-horror-stories-32973828

Not by the GP, as the OP hasn't spoken to them yet, as far as I'm aware.

And could you perhaps try to be a little bit less extreme in your response? There is, I am sure you would accept, a vast difference between a delayed telephone appointment for a non-acute issue and the kind of clinical errors that I'm assuming the article discusses.

For the avoidance of doubt: absolutely no one should be expected to feel any kind of "gratitude" for any service provided by the NHS (and everyone is entitled to safe, professional, thoughtful, compassionate care). That said, patients do need to be realistic about how the service is these days. It is under severe pressure. There's an awful lot GP practices and other NHS organisations could be doing to communicate what the reality is and managing patient expectations better.

FordExplorer · 09/03/2026 17:58

Growlybear83 · 09/03/2026 17:25

I think you’re being very unreasonable. A phone consultation with a GP is just the same as a face to face one in that doctors often run late and can do little about it. I don’t think half an hour after your appointment time is unreasonably late on the part of the doctor, and of course you should have kept your phone ready for the call.

OP was at work! Some of us have REAL jobs where phones cannot be present! I used to work in an airport behind the security point, my phone was the other side of the airport! My partner is an airline pilot and cannot have his switched on for 12 hours at a time.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 09/03/2026 17:55

QuinqueremeofNiveneh · 09/03/2026 17:48

It doesn't sound like anything resembling that has happened here?

When you feel aggrieved at the NHS, it's genuinely a really good idea to take a little step back, appreciate that it's free at the point of use and consider how much more tax you'd be willing to pay to bring it up to par.

Because despite what the politicians like to tell you, more money absolutely would make a huge difference.

So because the NHS is a good thing, GP receptionists can be a rude, and as factually inaccurate, as they like?

WhatAMarvelousTune · 09/03/2026 17:54

Justthethingsthatyoudointhisgarden · 09/03/2026 17:42

Telephone appointments aren't for a set time, because so many people don't pick up. This should have been made clear to you when you booked it. I'd say only 50% of patients pick up on the first call.

In between, the clinician is dealing with other urgent queries such as incoming calls from paramedics and district nurses.

If you want to look like a complete dick, go ahead and complain. Your med review probably wasn't the most important thing on the GPs radar.

What do you mean, telephone appointments aren’t for a set time? At my surgery they absolutely are - a pre booked phone appointment is for a set time, an on the day phone triage for urgent issues is not, you’re just on the list.
And if a phone appointment isn’t for a specific time, they should say that, and not give a specific time.