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To be annoyed at the GP receptionist for being arsey about this?

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SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 16:30

Had a GP phone appointment booked for 13:10 today, for something that needs sorting today (think medication review/replacement). Took my break at work from 13:00-13:30. 13:35 came, still no call, so I went back to work.

Finished work at 4:00 p.m, checked my phone and saw a missed call at 13:41 - so I rang back asking could I possibly get the GP to call me now as I'm not longer in work.

GP receptionist huffs, says she'll try but I should have kept an eye on my phone as they can't always help when it's the patients who missed the appointments. When I then point out to her that actually they rang half an hour after my scheduled appointment, which is why I missed it, she said that that shouldn't be relevant and I should always be by the phone because it's known that GPs run late sometimes.

AIBU to want to complain, or at least mention to the GP who I'm still waiting to call that some of us can't stop doing our jobs and wait for a call just because THEY are running late? If they'd sent a text or something that they were running behind I could have taken my break later and probably kept the appointment.

It feels like I'm being told off like a naughty child because THEY were late.

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Dobequiet · 09/03/2026 19:31

Annoying but can’t be helped.

The GP was likely running late because other people’s needs were greater than yours.

You’ve got it sorted and have been able to provide feedback which is great.

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 19:30

Talkingfrog · 09/03/2026 19:22

Glad you managed to get the phonecall in the end.

I can see both sides.

GP could run late for lots of reasons. I don't know how easy it would be to notify everyone they were running late. Also, what would happen of they then had appointments not take as long, and they caught up.
However, there are a lot of jobs where people can't have their phone with them at work.

I am fortunate in that I would from home most days. It means it is easier to answer a GP call. Our gp gives a time frame eg after 2pm. It could be anytime between 2pm and 6pm when they close. If i have a call i try to ve at home.
Not as easy in the office, in an open plan room. I could take the call to a meeting room, but my phone signal isn't great in and around the office, so I could loose the call before getting there.

It's also that I don't necessarily want to discuss everything in my workplace....

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AnAudacityofinlaws · 09/03/2026 19:27

beeble347 · 09/03/2026 19:19

That is ridiculous! NHS dentist I assume?

Correct!

muddyford · 09/03/2026 19:27

Binglebong · 09/03/2026 18:52

I had very similar. I had a phone call booked and nothing - I then got a letter telling me off for being a DNF. Apparently the consultant was expecting me in person despite all correspondence saying phone call (and I had to get permission at work for my phone call to not be on silent). I did point this out to the consultant's secretary but she was determined it was my fault for not knowing. I did request both they and my GP address accurate notes about it but no idea if they did.

Forgot the letter like yours! Yes, everything said telephone. What a waste of everyone's time and a substantial amount of money.

dizzydizzydizzy · 09/03/2026 19:23

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 09/03/2026 18:48

Before Covid, I don't think there were tel. consultations - it was all F2F.
There certainly weren't in my GP practice.

It was a good idea at the time, but there was a F2F if needed.

It's never gone back to all F2F, & I do wonder why.

My GP told me that 80% of the diagnosis is in the history - hence phone calls can be very effective.

There is also a shortage of GPs and GPs will be able to fit more patients in with phone calls because there’s no time wasted with the GP waiting for the patient to get to their consulting room. Elderly people often move ever so slowly. I would imagine that they can fit in one extra patient per hour by having telephone appointments.

Talkingfrog · 09/03/2026 19:22

Glad you managed to get the phonecall in the end.

I can see both sides.

GP could run late for lots of reasons. I don't know how easy it would be to notify everyone they were running late. Also, what would happen of they then had appointments not take as long, and they caught up.
However, there are a lot of jobs where people can't have their phone with them at work.

I am fortunate in that I would from home most days. It means it is easier to answer a GP call. Our gp gives a time frame eg after 2pm. It could be anytime between 2pm and 6pm when they close. If i have a call i try to ve at home.
Not as easy in the office, in an open plan room. I could take the call to a meeting room, but my phone signal isn't great in and around the office, so I could loose the call before getting there.

beeble347 · 09/03/2026 19:19

AnAudacityofinlaws · 09/03/2026 19:16

They did back her up because the time of arrival was on the computer system- computer says no scenario. They graciously agreed to not mark it on my record (three lates and you’re off their list) as a concession “this time”. The fact that the dentist wasn’t there either was irrelevant apparently 🙄.

That is ridiculous! NHS dentist I assume?

beeble347 · 09/03/2026 19:18

YANBU! I feel bad for overloaded GPs but the system is ridiculous. I've had some worrying blood test results back recently, and had to push for an appointment to go over them and change my medication concerning one of the results (seriously undertreated thyroid). Earliest they could schedule me was with a phone appointment almost two weeks after the results came back, so this Wednesday.

The practice texted me this morning saying I was going to be called by the GP between 9-12 today "as requested" - I only realised this when I managed to check my phone after 13.15, on lunch, when I had 3 missed calls and had been teaching the entire morning.

Rang back and the receptionist said I'd now missed this appointment and my original one on Wednesday had been canceled for some reason, so she could offer me next Thursday...

Luckily she did listen to the situation and managed to fit me in this Thursday but what a bloody ridiculous pallava.

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 19:17

AnAudacityofinlaws · 09/03/2026 19:16

They did back her up because the time of arrival was on the computer system- computer says no scenario. They graciously agreed to not mark it on my record (three lates and you’re off their list) as a concession “this time”. The fact that the dentist wasn’t there either was irrelevant apparently 🙄.

How generous of them Hmm

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AnAudacityofinlaws · 09/03/2026 19:16

Grawlix · 09/03/2026 17:25

On another occasion at the dentist, 08:30 appointment, I was there at 08:25, surgery was closed. Receptionist appeared at 08:30, made me wait outside while she opened up, logged on etc, let me in and then said she would have to mark me down as late because it was now almost 08:40. The dentist wasn’t there either and when I pointed out that I couldn’t possibly be late when I was in fact the only person involved who was on time, she held her ground. I complained to the practice manager because that situation was so ridiculous as to be unbelievable

Steam would be coming out of my ears at that, @AnAudacityofinlaws ! What was the response? They can’t possibly have backed the receptionist up?!

They did back her up because the time of arrival was on the computer system- computer says no scenario. They graciously agreed to not mark it on my record (three lates and you’re off their list) as a concession “this time”. The fact that the dentist wasn’t there either was irrelevant apparently 🙄.

Reepycreepy · 09/03/2026 19:14

These telephone appointments are ridiculous. I had a morning appointment for something urgent. By 1pm I hadn’t had a call. As getting through on the phone takes forever, i.e. “you are 34th in the call queue”, I drove to the practice. The receptionist said, “ah yes, you’re down for a morning telephone appointment” I pointedly looked at my watch, and then she said “it will probably be later this afternoon now”.

I finally got my urgent morning appointment call at 3.20 pm. I’m retired so yes I can hang around all day waiting for a call. When I was at work phones were left in your locker.

Natsku · 09/03/2026 19:13

So frustrating but glad the GP called again

I had a phone appointment a few weeks ago, no time given just told to make sure my phone is on and available all day from 8am. Luckily I can have my phone with me at work but that day I was working in the oven a lot and there's no signal inside it (all that metal and insulation I guess) so of course the doctor called while I was in the oven. Tried calling 3 times in fact which is good but unfortunately each time was while I was in the oven!
I called back and explained about the oven situation and they made a new appointment and they asked if the doctor could possibly aim to call within a two hour window so I could organise my work so I wouldn't be in the oven then and he did and it all worked out great (because the original doctor that was supposed to call me isn't very helpful if I remember her right, whereas the one who did end up calling me was really helpful)

JustMerelyHere · 09/03/2026 19:10

This is a practice management issue and if it were me I'd complain politely to the practice manager. As the OP has also said above, it's not the doctor's fault and not their issue if the systems they have aren't suitable for many people who have to work.

I have a dog who has to be walked (she won't even wee in the garden) and twice now I've been left explaining personal medical issues in the street have waited hours and eventually had to go out. I've also had the situation where the doctor finished at 12 and there wasn't a system in place to notify me so I waited til 5 when I rang only to be told he'd gone 5 hours earlier.

These are all easily solvable issues that would give everyone an equal chance to access their GPs services which they've paid for with their taxes. I imagine it might also reduce the stress for the GPs.

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 19:08

PuppyMonkey · 09/03/2026 19:07

I suppose you have to think that if this was ten years ago, before they really started doing phone appointments, you’d have been in the surgery waiting room for your appointment. If the GP had been running late then, would you have left and gone back to work or home - or would your have waited?

I'd have left cause I'd be in the same position of being unable to wait all day.

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PuppyMonkey · 09/03/2026 19:07

I suppose you have to think that if this was ten years ago, before they really started doing phone appointments, you’d have been in the surgery waiting room for your appointment. If the GP had been running late then, would you have left and gone back to work or home - or would your have waited?

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 19:03

Rshard · 09/03/2026 18:58

Reading your thread prompted me to check my NHS app as I’ve been waiting for an appointment. Good job I did, it’s tomorrow!! No text or notification received. Thanks very much.

I've learned to do this several times the week of an appointment now

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/03/2026 18:59

I do think it’s odd that some professions or services are give a free pass to mess you around no end, and also claim it’s your fault, and others are not. Like they don’t even have to tell you they’re running late.

For other things, the time is the time and everyone accepts that.

Rshard · 09/03/2026 18:58

Reading your thread prompted me to check my NHS app as I’ve been waiting for an appointment. Good job I did, it’s tomorrow!! No text or notification received. Thanks very much.

TheAutumnCrow · 09/03/2026 18:58

As others have said, I think it’s important that we don’t have false ‘Did Not Attend’ (and ‘Attended Late’) statistics floating about in the NHS, both for primary and secondary care.

Who are these statistics supposed to be helping? What purpose do such false stats serve?

Who benefits from the blame-the-patient narratives? Because it isn’t the patients or the GPs. It isn’t the hospital HCPs.

Pricelessadvice · 09/03/2026 18:58

Don’t even get me started on GP’s and GP receptionists at the moment! It’s like they think a GP’s time is more precious than anyone else’s and they can run late, but god forbid anyone who doesn’t respond when they finally do get in touch.

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 18:57

Sirzy · 09/03/2026 18:53

I do love this idea that everyone works in a job where they can just drop everything and answer the phone! Fantastic if your job offers that flexibility but lots can’t for many reasons.

I'm too busy answering the work phone nevermind my own, but it must be lovely having a manager who lets you do whatever you want whenever you want.

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Firtreefiona · 09/03/2026 18:56

Binglebong · 09/03/2026 18:52

I had very similar. I had a phone call booked and nothing - I then got a letter telling me off for being a DNF. Apparently the consultant was expecting me in person despite all correspondence saying phone call (and I had to get permission at work for my phone call to not be on silent). I did point this out to the consultant's secretary but she was determined it was my fault for not knowing. I did request both they and my GP address accurate notes about it but no idea if they did.

I’ve had this too. Totally infuriating. Why if you wanted me there in person did your communication all state phone call? My fault for thinking it would be a phone call apparently.

Ive worked in a banking department where all phones are banned for security reasons and there are land line phones on the desks for emergencies from school, kids etc. it’s not uncommon.

VoltaireMittyDream · 09/03/2026 18:56

The assumption that everyone has the sort of job where you can just keep your phone on hand and answer the minute it rings is ridiculous. What if you’re a driving instructor, or a teacher or a chef or a pilot or a paramedic?

jessycake · 09/03/2026 18:55

I think we need joined up thinking somewhere , because many people cannot take time off work for a phone appointment or have their phone on them at work .

BlueMum16 · 09/03/2026 18:54

SneakyGremlin · 09/03/2026 18:47

As it happens, I wasn't supposed to be in work today but I don't think that's relevant to the original point of being grumbled at by the receptionist for missing an appointment when they called half an hour after the SCHEDULED time which they gave me. I could have been on the loo, out and about, at work.... It doesn't matter where I was, if I'm told 13:10 I make myself free around that time but I can't sit twiddling my thumbs all day.

GP has just rung and sorted me out, and she did apologise. I did say it wasn't her fault she was running late but I'd appreciate a notification of some kind of possible next time and she said she'd raise it with the practice manager.

Glad you finally got to speak ot the GP

Can't believe the hard time you are getting for not having your phone switch on and next to you outside of your break. There are many many jobs where you can't to this and I'm in the camp GPs need to call around the agreed time (if you were 10 mins late they wouldn't see you) or leave a voicemail to say they'll try again later.