Mum keeping whole of grandmother’s inheritance

If there was no will then the money belongs to your Mum and Aunt. They can do what they want. It would have been nice for them to help their children but they haven’t. You can either talk to your mother about it or forget about it.
When my mother inherited from her parents she used the money to ‘buy’ her way into other people’s lives. She offered to treat people to holidays, meals and days out with her. My sister and I chose not to accept these ‘gifts’.

I could never treat my adult children that way. Legally you don’t have a leg to stand on as there was no will, but morally your mum is not being fair. Sorry you have such a miserly parent.

You are not a beneficiary under the law so you have no direct claim. Not your money to pine over.

If it wasn’t in a will then you are not entitled to anything. Money, especially inheritance, changes people. It’s horrible. Especially as your mum promised you some money from your grans estate and it hasn’t materialised. Promises mean nothing.

If there's no will, you're entitled to nothing. The rules of intestancy split the funds between your Mum and Aunt. It is their money.

Stop being so grabby. The money is not yours. If gran had wanted you to have it, she'd have written a will and left it to you.

Assuming there is no will and the promises were only made by mum and aunt, there is no legal claim here.

The only option, if you think it would be of any use, would be to gather your sibling / cousins and have a frank but civil conversation and ask once and for all what is to happen. Make it clear you have no expectation of a legal claim but in light of <X promises> made you would all like to know where you stand.

You could tell them that you quite understand mum and auntie wont be sharing out the 100k , but they did lead you to believe you would be getting a share of 15k, and please could they keep to that.

It’s quite normal for estate proceeds to just follow the legal path of inheritance - just because you need it more doesn’t mean you get it.

I received nothing from any of my grandparents and now my mum wants to give her money directly to the grandchildren. Her money, her choice, even if it does feel a bit rude!

I also think you need to raise it. Ie. Mum, you said to the four of us that we could expect to receive a proportion of GM's assets. What is happening with that?

If there was no will, then technically there’s no wrongdoing.
My MIL constantly does this over money - makes promises, and then nothing ever materialises. It’s like once she’s vocalised the promise, she forgets about it. It’s just the sort of thing she’d have done, liking to think to herself and others that she’s generous and benevolent, and then once the 20k became 100k, she wouldn't have been able to bring herself to hand it over! We’ve all learnt not to believe anything she says.

I have a will and have debated whether to leave anything to 3 DGC. I decided to split anything I leave 50/50 to both DDs instead
Up to them if they want to give something to DGC.
Your mum and auntie shouldn't have promised you anything they couldn't then give you but legally they don't have to.

Ah. There's still no change. OP's mom and her sister had to administer the estate and there may have been bills to settle and costs that ate into that sum more than they expected. They spent time on administration. It they both just changed their minds after looking at their financial positions.

If GM had wanted something to go to the grandkids, that could have been spelled out via a will. But she didn't make one and that meant she knew her estate would go to her kids, not grandkids.

OP has no valid claim here.

Is it worth the consequences of raising it? Would she give it in good spirit if you talked about it, or would it spoil your relationship?

You didnt know it was so much money, so only thought you might get it momentarily. You haven't lost anything.

I think a lot of posters are missing the point. OP knows that legally she's not entitled to anything, but the issue is her mother and her aunt both said the grandchildren would get a share of the c£15k assets. Not following through on that promise is the issue.

I promised my DC some money from my small inheritance when my mother died. I gave them the money. It would have been shitty not to after raising their expectations. I don't blame OP for being upset about this.

I think you need to raise it with her. Worry less about how it looks and put your own thoughts and feelings first. Maybe get some help in the best way to frame it to her (counselling Cha GPt) and think about the outcomes you want

Where there's a will, there's a way

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Sorry

But yeah op, that's rubbish but your ma can do what she pleases with her money

There was no will. Under the rules of intestacy, the deceased's children inherit equally (assuming she had no spouse).

Why has she not behaved well?

Whatever was promised, and by whom, if there is no will you don't get anything. That is what a will is for.

Perhaps your mum has ‘helped you out’ numerous times and therefore thinks you’ve been helped out enough.

If there wasn't a will then you're not legally entitled to anything.

Unfortunately if your gran wanted you to have something, money or assets etc, she would have made that clear in a will.

It's easy to think 'oh yes I'll give X to the grandchildren' when you are at the beginning of the process, but your mum is probably exhausted from all of it and perhaps there is less than she expected. If she's only got 50k odd after 4 years of admin and hassle, it's understandable that her and her sister might have changed their minds.

Either way, you can't say or do anything. Just make sure you have your own will in place!

She didn't make any promises, based on what the OP has said.

Mum and aunt apparently made promises at the time which they don't seem to have kept.

It says in the OP that it was promised by mum and aunty. Not the grandmother.

If your grandmother didn't make a will, she knew she was leaving it up to her kids to disperse as they chose. It sounds like she made promises but chose not to make what she said legally binding for her own reasons.