To have a shower while a contractor works at our home?

Please do this, just for fun!

Honestly this is one of the most batshit things I have read on here!

Yep. It’s his “man thoughts” 😂

He thinks the contractor will be thinking about you all soaped up in the shower while you’re in it and he can hear the water running.

My DH would be funny about this as well. I’d still carry on. Probably.

I’m with your husband. I’d feel odd about having a shower while a contractor was walking past the bathroom door or in the next room. It would be different if it was in a completely different part of the house.
There’s nothing wrong about doing it tbh, but it’s just something I’d never do. It feels socially very awkward somehow.

ETA I’d feel the same way if DH had his male friends round, I wouldn’t be going for a shower in the room adjacent while they were there.

We’ve had tradesmen in for weeks at a time over the years. I ensure they know where the tea, coffee, milk etc is, and show them the downstairs loo. I remind them I work nights, reassure them that they don’t need to worry about any noise, as the work needs doing, take the dog to bed with me so he’s not in their way. Then I sleep. Admittedly it would be trickier in a small flat, but in my experience, and DH as a tradie, tradespeople expect customers’ lives to carry on.

All the people saying “I wouldn’t feel comfortable” - can you actually explain why?

He's worried that the contractor will suddenly go berserk, smash down the bathroom door, and re-enact the shower scene from Psycho.

In fact the last time I had two people in working on the blocked radiators in the house, they were there all day! I was able to use the toilet - quick pee is okay, but I showered the day before, so at least I felt clean.

Or maybe a Victorian style bathing machine. They look fun.

I think everyone is different - those are my feelings and it is not for anyone else to try to invalidate them. I did indicate to the OP that it was up to whatever she felt comfortable with.

When you are in your house alone with several men you don’t know very well, I just would not feel right having a shower. It has never presented an issue as I would just shower before they arrive.

It is not about “bodily functions”, it is because when you are in the bathroom, it is when you are at your most vulnerable and if I can avoid that, I will.

Also, for a period of time when our doors were being replaced and hardware being installed, we didn’t have a lock on the bathroom!

I would imagine that the vast majority of contractors are used to working in households, where life goes on.

in my case its not really necessary anyway - I'd rather just have them do whatever they need to do, and then I can relax when they leave and feel more comfortable doing what I need to do. I usually shower at odd times compared to other people anyway as I work from home, so I don't do early morning showers before work because I can take a break at any time and shower later.

We had loads of work done in the summer, I’d routinely go to the gym in the morning, and when I was back the builders would turn the water on so I could have a shower. I didn’t for a minute think it was inappropriate, neither did they. I’m baffled as to why your husband thinks it’s a problem?

The workman will be glad you're just carrying on around him, he'd feel more uncomfortable if he thought he was preventing you from doing what you need to do.

What you did is fine.

No none of that, it just somehow feels wrong not to be showered & dressed, ready for the day when they turn up to work.

However, it wouldn't bother me to have a shower if I'd been out for a run & DH was home to answer any questions/do anything the contractor might need.

@FryingPam it seems more odd to me that this is a conversation you've had prior to it actually happening.

Your contractor doesn't care what you or anyone else is doing in their house whilst they're working. Your husband is strange.

I wouldn’t do it if I was on my own in the flat, I would just feel vulnerable. Not necessarily a rational feeling but I just would.

But fine if another person is in the flat.

Ask your DH what he thinks about when a woman showers and what he is projecting on to the contractor that could make him feel uncomfortable??

Does he think the world is one long Carry On film where double entendres are exchanged through the door as the water flows?

Are you locking yourself in with the contractor because that would be wierd.

with your husband in the house at the same time?

What kind of experiences?

Your husband is weird. How does he feel about you using the loo when there's a contractor at home?

Would he feel weird having a shower himself? Contractor is allowed to be gay.

I wouldn't be comfortable if I was home alone, or just with my kids, but with husband in the house? Fair enough you get ready before anyone comes in the house, but getting changed after sport or before going out? Surely it's normal.

I wouldn't just because I would feel vulnerable, although less so if my DH was at home. Nothing to do with the workman himself or specially what he might do, I just wouldn't feel comfortable.

I would also be concerned that the workman would probably need to ask me a question as soon as I got in the shower - if my DH is working at home he's on calls all day and not easily able to extract himself so I wouldn't want to inconvenience the workman if he needed something while I shower.

How long will the shower take? It's behind a locked door, right? Either just go for it, or don't go for a run.
I agree with pp - your DH seems to have got some strange ideas from somewhere 🤔

I don’t see the problem with the contractor hearing the shower water from the next room?? Better not go for a wee either in case he hears the toilet flushing. Is DH a bit of a jealous man and doesn’t want other men to think of you naked?

Same. I wouldn't do it as I can't relax.
They might be tramping muddy boots through my house if I'm not there to stop them.

Can I ask the people who say they would never shower with a workman in the house why not? What is it they imagine will happen? The workman going through your knicker drawer or checking cupboards for rolls of fifties? Slacking off? Lustfully imagining you soaping your bosoms?