I may have found the hack for mismatched sex drives!? I could happily go weeks, maybe months without sex and wouldnt think of it much. DH OTH has a high sex drive. After years of arguments, debates and heart to hearts, a few weeks ago I came up with the magic minute and I feel there's is somwthing in it. AIBU?
My theory is, I can do anything for just 1 minute a day. So the rules are:
1 minute a day
- sex/bj/hj/cuddle/kiss
- appropriate moment/place i.e. no kids could walk in etc and not i.e when I am ready to sleep.
- obviously some days I will be up for longer but no obligation.
- its not scheduled so its whenever a minute works
I retain the right always to say no of course.
When we first implemented I had a cold so DH opted for a cuddle for 7 days. So its got him reviewing the days too, whereas previously he said there was always opportunity and would say "its been x days/weeks" without thinking of what may have affected those dates.
Its working well for us, what do you think if you are in the same boat? Could you do just 1 minute and then its done?