Walking alone at night

FFS 😡Have a day off, will ya?

Not all men.
But how are we supposed to know which ones?

Could he be worried for his own safety at all, OP? Men are also at risk of violence but usually don't want to admit to nervousness. Obviously they'd probably be more evenly matched if a fight arose though, compared to a woman.
If you want him to walk you home, he should. It's odd that he doesn't think to do it. And a bit lazy.

I would get an uber or taxi if single though. I wouldn't expect to spend the money if home was within walking distance and if I was out with a man who only lived a couple of minutes walk away from me though.

Because affording people equality doesn't mean treating everyone exactly the same. It means accepting that no one is superior or should have more rights than anyone else, while accepting that for various reasons, some people may be, or feel, more vulnerable than others.
My 85 year old neighbour is my equal. However, she would be more vulnerable opening her door to a stranger than I would, so I might go for her.
I am my partners equal, but if there was an attacker in the park, he would be better equipped to defend us than I would alone.
My friend has been the victim of racist harassment. She doesn't like walking through a certain area alone so I walk with her.
The majority of decent people do these things for others, it's a societal norm. Where a man chooses to deviate from it by not even offering, he's usually making a point. Not always. Sometimes he might simply be inconsiderate and uncaring.

But again, how is it weaponising equality to treat everyone equally? It would never occur to me to walk a grown adult home in the evening - I’d offer a lift if I was driving but otherwise I would assume they’d make their own way back.

This.

Have you asked him to walk you home? Has he said no?
If it would really only add 5 extra minutes to his journey, then that logically means you only live 2.5 minutes from whwrw he leaves you. Is it that big of a deal? That being said, ive never been with someone who would have not walked me home. I assume your are upset about his apparent lack of natural desire to protect you. Ask him.

My ex was fine with me walking across a city centre at midnight to fetch the car and bring it back to the pub we were in. I should have seen this as the warning it was rather than wasting the next few years with someone who came up short in so many other ways too. Any man who cares would want you to be safe and would offer, it is then up to the individual to choose whether they think it is necessary.

Basic manners.

As for NAMALT is he thick, obtuse or actively negligent? It only takes one.

I'd rather walk alone than get into a car with a strange man at night.

You misunderstand. The misogyny is a cohort of men who delight in weaponising equality, punishing women for their independence and equal status by withdrawing any form of consideration from them. I'm a woman, but I'd go out of my way to drop a friend off so she didn't have to walk home in the dark. I think most decent people of both sexes would offer this. When men make a point of not, they are sending the message that this is what equality looks like, so you should have thought about it before wanting your rights.

I have a spray called K9 it was recommended on MN as a dog deterrent. I got it from Amazon. I always carry it in my pocket when out with my little dog in case a larger dog goes for him. It’s basically Citronella which dogs don’t like. I can imagine sprayed ‘accidentally’ into the eyes of a would be attacker it wouldn’t be pleasant.

What’s misogynistic about expecting a grown adult to get themselves home?

Were you able to get yourself home at night without excess anxiety when you were single? I was, throughout most of my 20s in London, so when I went on dates it didn't occur to me that anything should be different or that this should be a litmus test. If a man had tried to "insist" on walking me home I would probably have thought I was more in danger from him than by myself.

I've never wanted a man to be my chivalrous protector though, I'd find that incredibly suffocating. I don't "see myself" as strong and independent - I actually am both.

You couldn't be less well matched. You have a traditional view of the male role as chivalrous protector, he is clearly a man who's from the 'you wanted equality, see how you like them onions' school of misogyny. This won't work.

I think it’s really sad that so many women feel this way.

I know I should be able to walk home at night on my own, and I mostly do. But it’s still scary.

It’s built in for me to be on guard and alert and the relief is palpable when home. That’s just the truth of it and I’d welcome my partner offering to walk me home.
I bet he has no idea😣

I think it’s well intentioned but it’s also part of a bigger picture where women aren’t seen as being capable of doing things alone.

Men insisting on anything is a turn off.
But a man saying "would you like me to walk you home, it's only five minutes?" is a pretty nice thing to say. There's not that many men I know who wouldn't offer that at least once.

My dh would’ve made sure he walked we me home. Even if we’re out now if we walk past rowdy people late at night, he’ll move to the other side and put his arm around me. He’s 6ft ex rugby player so can certainly look after himself more then I could.
I’m a very independent woman but I’ll risk assess a situation and usually opt for a taxi if I’m on my own and would feel unsafe.

I often hear this stat and while true it’s meaningless. It ignored that women often change out behaviour to reduce the risk of harm while out and about while men tend not to.

If both genders acted identically I bet the stats would look dramatically different.

It’s like when people in the US argue that more children are harmed in swimming pools than by guns. I think people take more care when around the latter than the former.

This is not great. Even male friends would walk me home / walk me to a taxi rank and make sure I got it etc.

You don’t have to walk through dark cut outs alone - that’s your choice. But his dismissiveness of your safety doesn’t bode well imo.