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Vinted buyers that never actually buy!

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areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 19:27

I’m selling a decent backpack on Vinted. I’ve accepted five offers on it this evening and not one of the buyers has come back to actually buy it! What’s the point in even sending an offer if you don’t want to buy it?!

AIBU to message them all and tell them I’ve had other offers and if they don’t buy soon, they won’t be able to?

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tutugogo · 08/03/2026 21:16

This evening? Perhaps they are having dinner. I wouldn’t check back for 2-3 hours

Vgbeat · 08/03/2026 21:15

By this rule though surely you have broken the law by accepting 5 offers if your belief a contract has been formed by making an offer and your acceptance. I presume tou do not have 5 different backpacks

Satsuma55 · 08/03/2026 21:14

No one is "messing sellers around " 😂
You are in the exact same position you were 5 seconds before you accepted their offer. Maybe they're shopping around, or maybe they haven't seen their notifications.
Chill the fuck out.

singingintherainnn · 08/03/2026 21:09

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nomas · 08/03/2026 21:08

The thing that annoys me is all the buyers questioning my pricing.

They act like I’m forcing them to buy.

nomas · 08/03/2026 21:07

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 19:47

Offer + acceptance = contract though, consideration need not be adequate.

Vinted need to change how they do it, when you make an offer a holding charge is applied to your debit card with a final price (as displayed when you see how much it’ll cost in total) to be applied to your card when the offer is accepted. Way too many people are messing sellers around!

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You’re not being messed around unless the same buyer does it to you repeatedly. I get it’s annoying, it happened to me today.

But you need to stop counting your chickens until
they've hatched and not see offers as a promise to buy.

QuaintMauveCrow · 08/03/2026 21:04

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 20:34

Evidently not as apparently this thread is full of people who like to mess sellers around on Vinted!

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Come on OP, it’s just how Vinted works it’s no big deal…
people send offers, test out the waters seeing what they can get for what price. In the same way that you are by accepting 5 offers to see who coughs up first!
it’s not personal or wasting time, it’s just a selling platform 🤷🏻‍♀️

nomas · 08/03/2026 21:02

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 19:34

Technically under contract law an offer and then acceptance of that offer forms a contract, so really it should be a commitment

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Except Vinted is super clear that buyers can absolutely change their mind even after making an offer.

Have you read the T&Cs?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/03/2026 21:02

KusamaYay · 08/03/2026 19:55

How funny. I have something on Vinted and this is happening to me today for the first time. (Accepting offers but they don't pay)

I wouldn't bother messaging them though! I just think "hmmmmm" and move on.

I "heart" / "like" stuff because it helps remind me it's there for when I have the money or it's pay day. In case it's still for sale. Sometimes it gives me inspiration on payday and I can remember what I "liked" previously and go and find similar (if it's sold)

But then I'm quite poor at the mo due to redundancy and I don't have an endless amount of cash available and have to pick and choose my buying carefully.

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I heart stuff sometimes to save it so I can look again later, or because I want to make the algorithm send me more stuff like it.

I don’t really like it when I then get pressurising messages from sellers saying “oh I can post tonight, I’ve got more stuff like this, please take a look” etc

Abd80 · 08/03/2026 21:02

This is how Vinted works. If you make an offer and it’s accepted you’re not obliged to buy.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 08/03/2026 20:57

I’m regularly getting offers that aren’t then followed up for a week or two. They’re only for a few quid (today’s was £2.40) which seems daft to me. Why offer if you either can’t afford it or don’t want to actually buy it?
and don’t get me started on people who ask to reserve items that are a couple of quid 😕

AfternoonTeaPotDictator · 08/03/2026 20:51

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 19:34

Technically under contract law an offer and then acceptance of that offer forms a contract, so really it should be a commitment

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If you believed this you wouldn’t be accepting more than one offer.

ThejoyofNC · 08/03/2026 20:40

Sorry OP but you are being pretty crazy.

nopalite · 08/03/2026 20:39

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 19:51

why like it if you don’t actually want to buy it?

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To see if the price drops, to keep an eye on things to compare choices later, to buy it when I get paid, to look at the item in-store first. Loads of reasons.

I don’t think Vinted is the platform for you.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 08/03/2026 20:37

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 20:34

Evidently not as apparently this thread is full of people who like to mess sellers around on Vinted!

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I get the feeling that if you offered on something, the offer was accepted, and then when you responded the seller told you they’d accepted multiple offers and it was no longer available, you’d have a problem with that as well.

Tableforjoan · 08/03/2026 20:36

I sell and buy on vinted. I don’t see people
making offers and not going though as messing around. Just like people who offer way less than I want.

They are just throwing offers around and will
buy what they want when they want and when they get the right price.

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areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 20:34

QuaintMauveCrow · 08/03/2026 20:33

😂
surely if we’re thinking about contract law then OP is also under the same, having accepted 5 offers

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Evidently not as apparently this thread is full of people who like to mess sellers around on Vinted!

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QuaintMauveCrow · 08/03/2026 20:33

AutumnClouds · 08/03/2026 20:16

To bring some joy to five random people’s evenings

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😂
surely if we’re thinking about contract law then OP is also under the same, having accepted 5 offers

LittleLapwing · 08/03/2026 20:31

areyoulisteningyet · 08/03/2026 20:08

Whoever comes back first and pays gets it.

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But have you not formed a binding contract with all the others, as per your other posts?

Chipper28 · 08/03/2026 20:17

Well by your own logic you should only accept the first offer and then immediately reserve the item to allow them time to pay for it, because you've "entered into a contract" with the first person whose offer you accepted.

Midnights68 · 08/03/2026 20:16

It’s a bartering site. It’s designed for price negotiation.

AutumnClouds · 08/03/2026 20:16

FaceEatingLeopard · 08/03/2026 19:37

To what end? She's hardly going to sue for breach of contract is she?

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To bring some joy to five random people’s evenings

Tableforjoan · 08/03/2026 20:15

Likely they have made an offer on a few similar items and waiting for the best price to come back.

Also maybe they just haven’t been back online yet.

I like things to basically add to basket as if Amazon and to go back to later.

I’ve also made offers on multiple of the same item. The best condition at the Best price wins.

Anyone that comes across begging for a sale doesn’t get the sale from me either.

KusamaYay · 08/03/2026 20:14

Just chill OP. It's only Vinted. Most people selling on it need the money, most people buying on it need to save money because they need the money.

Literally everyone is in the same boat

FishersGate · 08/03/2026 20:13

PolkaDotPorridge · 08/03/2026 19:50

I don’t recommend it. I deliberately hid my likes because sellers would message to ask if I want it. If I want it, I’ll buy it. If I make an offer and you then message me, I lose interest immediately.

Snap. Really irritates me people chasing me.