Husband wants me to think I’m crazy

You sound like a perfectly normal and sensible parent. Of course safety nets should be used on trampolines and of course it’s reasonable to be concerned about safety when swimming and not to want to jet off to the UAE any time soon.

Don’t let him keep gaslighting you into thinking you’re over-protective.

What a moron.
I know half a dozen children that have really annoying arm breaks that had them out of action for many weeks from a trampoline. Messing and falling off one.

He's a moron.

Your husband is not fit to be left alone with children.

after 2 broken arms and a broken elbow in this house, there’s no more trampolines.

your husband is being utterly unreasonable. Imagine a child falling out and landing on concrete 😩

I have two very close friends who call themselves overthinkers, they have ended up that way because their husbands under think at all, and then get aggressive when it’s pointed out they have put/are putting their children in danger.

Examples I’ve seen with my own eyes,

Not fitting car seat correctly and calling his wife fussy when she refused to let him put their baby in the car. Several times he hasn’t even bothered to strap the child in the car seats and I’ve seen him drive past my home with his child on his lap and unsecured.

He has done the trampoline thing too.

Plonk non swimming toddler in pool with armbands and then laid down on lounger to sleep.

Leaves power tools plugged in and laid around after doing a diy job, doesn’t consider that the children could hurt themselves if they pick them up and start pushing buttons.

Thinks his wife is being silly by not leaving their small child alone with their very large dog.

I’d be overthinking if my child’s father couldn’t be trusted to do basic safety shit.

I refused to even have a trampoline after a neighbour's child fractured a vertebra in a trampoline accident.

Horrendous things.

Your DH would hate me. We have a trampoline in the garden, but it’s fixed to the ground and had a net around it - I don’t allow other kids on it unless their parents have given permission. My kids have never been allowed on bikes, skates or scooters without full protective gear on. I check with visitors about any allergies (and let them know that our place isn’t a nut free house etc). I think you’re being sensible!

Net should be on (is this a job you can tackle yourself? 🤔) and ideally the trampoline shouldn't be on concrete.
As others have pointed out 👆it's a major cause of injuries (as are kitchen cupboard doors, incidentally 😀)

You guys are unreasonable having a trampoline period. Having it on concrete and no safety net on is fucking insane.
Your husband is a negligent parent. Document everything.

You’re not over worrying. Your dh is a joke.

It needs the safety net. My friend used to work at stoke Mandeville
spinal injuries unit and it was full of young men fallen off
trampolines or motorbikes

I wouldnt even consider to put a trampoline on a concrete, safety net or not.

Not sure what is happening. Does your husband have some sort of brain injury or did you walk down the aisle with a man who doesn't like you? At least not any more.

Dd went to a party where unbeknown to us they had a trampoline. When we picked her up she had her head slightly on one side and said her neck hurt. Had to go to A&E where she ended up with a collar for a muscular strain.

My df who is a doctor saw her and asked what she’d done. He told us never to get a trampoline as so many dc get injured on them.
Imo if you’re going to have one then bury the base so the jumping part is level with the ground.

I mean, I knew a kid at school who broke their back from jumping on a trampoline and falling off, so I would never buy one. To use one on concrete without a net is ridiculous - the kid I knew who was disabled from it fell onto grass.

So no, I don't think YABU. Personally I wouldn't even buy one

Your not unreasonable pointing this out. But were you a bit passive aggressive? Asking him had he put the net on when im guessing you saw he hadn't?

YANBU about the trampoline. YABU for worrying about every little thing.

Agree with this, safety is imperative here, but how often do you see a problem and he has to solve it?

Your DH is an absolute joke. Of course you’re right, he’s gaslighting you.

Yeah I had to pick ip my Db after he flipped off a trampoline and smashed his head open when he was 4. Given me lifelong fear of trampolines + concrete so it’s a big g YANBU from me

Of course the safety net needs to be in place, you were totally right. Is this how your dh reacts when you point out something sensible? He sounds like a sulky teenager. Was he really encouraging your son to go on a trampoline without a net? I would be furious with him putting my child at risk like that. It must be exhausting being the only parent with an idiot like him to monitor

You are completely right on this but do bear in mind that living with an overworrier is incredibly draining and would shorten anyone’s patience. He is wrong about the trampoline but you make it much less likely that he will take you seriously or have patience to listen to your concerns if on other minor stuff you are overly anxious. I would really focus on that as your anxiety will be changing the relationship.