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International women’s day. Sick day or go in?

57 replies

Sickorno · 08/03/2026 11:02

I want to start by saying that I don’t have strong feelings towards trans people.

I believe if you were born a woman then you will always be a woman and vice versa.
I believe in women’s only spaces.

But apart from that I’m not really bothered.
If you want to wear a dress and grow your hair long then crack on.

However I have been struggling the past few days with my workplace.

Firstly, it started with asking for donations of women’s clothing and make up for the trans residents.
This wound me up but I just said I had nothing to donate.

But we were told on Friday that on Monday there will be a celebration of international women’s day where the trans women residents will receive a party and gift packages.
The male residents and female staff won’t get the same and therefore won’t be celebrated.

I have been wound up all weekend and I genuinely don’t want to go in tomorrow.

Am I going mad or does this seem so unfair?

My AIBU - should I go sick tomorrow?

YABU - no don’t call in sick, go and do your job.
YANBU - yes call in sick so you don’t have to deal with it.

OP posts:
GardenGaff · 08/03/2026 11:38

Where do you work that has enough trans women residents to make it a party?

Edit: X post. Ah a prison. No, would I fuck take part in celebrating male prisoners on International Women’s Day. In fact, I’d be going to the press about it.

Sickorno · 08/03/2026 11:36

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/03/2026 11:30

Go in or don't, who cares.

Me obviously which is why I started a thread lol

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Sickorno · 08/03/2026 11:36

LittleBearPad · 08/03/2026 11:03

Residents? Is it a care home?

Men’s prison.

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BlueMum16 · 08/03/2026 11:34

I would go in and ask to celebrate IWD.

Trans can be celebrated Trans Visibility Day which is Tue 31st March 2026.

There's a day for everyone if you look

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/03/2026 11:30

Go in or don't, who cares.

Createausername1970 · 08/03/2026 11:08

I wouldn't be happy about it.

It comes across as OTT virtue signalling.

I wouldn't go sick though. I might buy some cupcakes and make a point of "celebrating" IWD with colleagues who have been overlooked.

LittleBearPad · 08/03/2026 11:03

Residents? Is it a care home?

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