To feel like a right loser- anyone else?

On £60K a year you are far from failing in life.

Mumsnet can often make it look like it is common place to be reaching £100k+ salaries, but in most areas and walks of life, the majority of hard working people will not reach your salaries, let alone the £100k+

Just look at your company, how many are sitting in that top table, then how many work there. There isn't enough room at the top for them all to take a turn at the table is there.

Your bosses sound like dicks by the way, awful people. Money can't buy class.

I done a luxury 5* long haul holiday years back, my boss said you will never want to do an EU holiday again after that. Well I have done many EU breaks since, love the freedom you have being able to venture freely in safer destinations, even if i won the lottery that will never change. Also got a caravan holiday booked for spring this year. Those arseholes may hate those type of holidays as they are not status brag breaks, but there are many people who actually love them for the freedom and a good base to roam

Your twattish colleagues sound like the losers to me.

Ahh finance. Your colleagues draw their self worth from how much they make, and displaying that wealth in visible ways. Not every workplace is like that.

Sometimes it is a few execs setting the tone, with other colleagues falling into line. The culture can sometimes improve if certain people leave.

But the good news if you can’t wait is that finance skills are needed in all kinds of industries. I would advise to put your head down, engage minimally with them unless it is directly work related, and make plans to move to a less toxic workplace in the future. Make sure you use Linked In and start exploring and making connections.

You lost me at suggesting that 250k isn't a big inheritance. That's life changing for most people I know. Including if you're in an expensive part of the country.

To be honest, going to Dubai and Florida are not the type of holidays I’d be envious of. Yes, they may be expensive, but they are a bit shallow and somewhat lacking in culture.
I’m more envious of people going to places like New Zealand, Japan and Vietnam, with beautiful scenery, amazing food and a deep rooted culture. Japan and Vietnam are both amazing by the way and I’m saving up for my trip to NZ

I’m a teacher. I earn £48k. I have 2 teens, a mortgage and an injured dh earning very less than me atm. I am living pay check to pay check and feel like I’m sinking most months.

There are TAs in my school on half my salary and living a much more lavish lifestyle than me!… Holidays abroad more than once a year, designer clothes, fancy new cars etc.

They are mostly in their 20s, living at home with very little outgoings. A couple of them are at the stage of buying a house and settling down… their circumstances will change soon enough. They just don’t realise it yet.

My point is…. Comparison will just eat you up. Everyone’s circumstances are different regardless of salary

All the more reason to be grateful yes, I too had secondary infertility. My ds is now 10… if I buy some miracle fell pregnant tomorrow, I honestly wouldn’t keep it, I don’t feel guilty in knowing that fact. I’m happy as I am, I’m very grateful for what I do have.

that’s not me saying that you’re doing the wrong thing by the way, you do you, do what makes you happy and if this is what you want then isn’t that amazing ❤️

If you think that you should be better, then you are also looking down. You think that you are better because you went to private school, so deep down you agree with them. Perhaps remind yourself that the people's hands, your life and your newborns life will be in, earn less than you. You must think that the catering and cleaning staff are pure scum. Try to not let your arrogance show. These threads do remind us that higher earners aren't any more intelligent, or can think more critically, than some of the lowest earners.

Newly single mum on £19k and no CMS 🙋🏻‍♀️

They sound awful- completely out of touch and snobby. Why are you comparing yourself to such morally vile people? I’d relish not being anything like them tbh. Do not let them get to you.

We’re on 150K+ (not that it bloody matters!) and you wouldn’t know it because we live fairly modestly and plough lots into our pension and savings. We both went to state school and holidayed in caravans. What you earn doesn’t define your value as a person. It’s a shame they’re too shallow and unemotionally intelligent to know that. I’d feel a bit sorry for them.

Exactly! There are people working minimum wage jobs and struggling with infertility be grateful for your children your job pays better than the majority of people, there will always be someone richer!

@Conundrummum123 You're on a high salary yourself, and yet, you have made a completely bonkers thread trying to portray yourself as a "middle earner." The majority of people would love to earn £60k a year.

You are not a middle earner. Middle earner would be £35 - 40k.

Your workplace sounds toxic. These people are your colleagues not your friends. Here is a reason to go in, do your hours to the best of your ability, and share as little of your personal life and aspitations as possible. Grey rock.

Ok well then why not focus on the positives… you so much wanted a third pregnancy and now you have that, how blessed are you?! There are women in this world who yearn every day for a child. Focus on the positive.

Very true. Why should you care about what other people earn or their opinion of you?

What industry is this? How old are you?

I’ve been a high earner, but this is far from my experience. One of the advantages of earning well is that it gives you the freedom to do what the fuck you want with your money.

Former colleagues and friends use their money according to their interests. They don’t give a toss what others think. One breeds llamas on her hobby farm, another has her own pottery studio. Another owns a retreat centre. Their vehicles are mostly a few years old but nothing flashy and they holiday in fairly down to earth places. They are more focused on quality time with family than impressing acquaintances.

So don’t squander your opportunities by feeling inferior. Decide what you want from your life and spend / save accordingly. Ignore others.

I may get some flack for this…but if the 3rd pregnancy was not planned, you do have other options? I mean that kindly.