What is considered rich these days??

Why so many threads about how much money people have. Do people just think, oh, I'll go on MN and talk about my money

Oh I missed that. Assume OP wasn’t expecting lawyers on the forum.

I did work but went job share. My parents and MIL looked after my children on the 2.5 days I worked.

I didn’t use paid child care.

Yes, we live on fresh air apparently.

She later updated that he's not a barrister of any kind, but in fact a solicitor (who's an equity partner). Apparently she said "barrister" when she meant "solicitor" because she thought that for "lay people" that would be easier to understand. Despite that a barrister is completely different to a solicitor - not least in how we get paid! If you're lost, join the club 😂

I wouldn't call the lifestyle you describe here as modest for the average household & just because you 'budget' non essential items doesn't mean that you can't be out of touch with the folks who budget as well but do so to pay for basic things.
Like others have said rich is subjective. IMO I would not class you as rich, unless you have a few million in assets but you are very well off.

A barrister working in a law firm is an employed barrister. He works in a regional office of a law firm.

I confused.

You were replying to someone saying they needed to use childcare because they worked.

You said you didn’t use childcare. Now angry at idea this suggests you don’t (didn’t) work.

So, what did you do with your children, given you apparently worked full time but didn’t use childcare?

I feel that wording should be: us rich/higher income women have the choice now-a-days.

To be honest, it does feel as though you don't realise how privileged you are... your income gives you options that many women can only dream of. Your lifestyle and attitude is very different compared to people who don't have the same income. That's probably understandable (the shift is likely gradual), but I feel you probably do need to be more aware/try to acknowledge it.

I responded to your unpleasantness with my own. Don’t give out what you can’t take back.

Her husband doesn’t “pay for her life”, they have a thing called a “marriage” which means that two people decide to spend their lives together, then think about a baby.

As grown adults they then discuss who will bring up their baby.

Some think “strangers, but we’ll do the bed times and the weekends” and some think us, but we will be completely skint as one or both of us will have to reduce our hours at work.”

At no point does one of them say “I’m paying for your life as a mother to children that are mine”.

That you think jointly deciding what’s best for the children you both produced is paying for your life is weird.

You don't get a pension as income? Mad

He’s not a barrister.

I’d imagine your barrister husband would be pretty embarrassed by you boasting about his income. How does a barrister get a bonus? Speaking as someone working in the legal profession who understands how chambers work.

Well in the OP”s example her husband pays for her life so that’s how she has no income.

In the absence of any information about your age who is to know you aren’t also a SAHM posting about how you don’t pay anything for childcare.

I’m not sure why you choose to be so unpleasant.

Fuck 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I am RETIRED.

I retired on my 60th birthday two years ago. I own my house mortgage free. I have a private pension, as does my husband who also retired on his 60th birthday three years ago.

How on earth do you think people survive with, as you put it, “no income”?

You sound unwell tbh.

You choose how to live your life.

You actively choose not to work. That is a luxury. I don’t think you’re rich but to pretend you have a modest lifestyle is a bit embarrassing.

Yes it is hard work but someone saying you re also lucky doesnt have to be negative.

luck is

• working class parents who valued education, prioritise education
• smart enough to pursue education beyond grad level
• smart enough to understand the politics in a company and work up the career ladder
• luck to be at the right place at the right time
• luck to meet people who value tour opinions and give you a chance, a promotion, etc

so yes you worked hard but you were also very lucky

i had luck of birth and all the luck above, but I did work very very very hard to be where I am now with an undiagnosed - at the time - dislexia and no prescription glasses because my vision was 20/20 so here you have it. I am very lucky and so are you

The cliff edge for childcare support is so wrong and leads to all sorts of unhelpful consequences.

But who cares? If you didn’t use childcare then it won’t have cost you anything. You also don’t work so you have no income. I don’t think that’s a better place to be.

Possibly, I read it as covering both

”nursery fees/ mortgage for a 4 bed terr (7k per month)”

Just saying…

By average you mean a couple on £99k each yeah?

The OP’s quote suggested that was the mortgage.

£7k mortgage plus nursery very possible with two small kids in London though - I spend this myself.

Over £4k a month on nursery this year, shocking.

And?