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What is considered rich these days??

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Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 22:55

So my husband and I live a pretty decent life but not one that warrants being called ‘financially out of touch’ and ‘how the other half live’ in my opinion which is just a couple of example of my sil many comments towards us.

My husband earns around £250k a year, I don’t have to work so don’t. We live in a nice 4 bedroom detached house with a lovely sized wrap around garden. We’re lucky enough to send our children to private school. We don’t go on extravagant holidays or wear high end designer clothes etc. We both drive Range Rovers but one is second hand (5 years old). And bottom line we have worked really hard to be where we are but don’t consider ourselves ‘Rich’ more so comfortable that we can live a modest life without financial restraints

it really bugs me when she says stuff like ‘you wouldn’t know what it’s like to budget’ and ‘it’s alright for some’ etc. I do budget monthly and am very much aware of how much things costs etc

Am I being unreasonable in this situation?

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Doingtheboxerbeat · 07/03/2026 23:29

randomchap · 07/03/2026 23:26

Is this a joke?

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I suspect a couple of bored mates and thought let's start a goady thread on that site where posters are so easy to wind up.

SplodgeWaddler · 07/03/2026 23:27

You might be rich but you drive Range Rovers. Unless you're famous or a member of the royal family, that really is a bit naff.

Porky28 · 07/03/2026 23:27

Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 22:55

So my husband and I live a pretty decent life but not one that warrants being called ‘financially out of touch’ and ‘how the other half live’ in my opinion which is just a couple of example of my sil many comments towards us.

My husband earns around £250k a year, I don’t have to work so don’t. We live in a nice 4 bedroom detached house with a lovely sized wrap around garden. We’re lucky enough to send our children to private school. We don’t go on extravagant holidays or wear high end designer clothes etc. We both drive Range Rovers but one is second hand (5 years old). And bottom line we have worked really hard to be where we are but don’t consider ourselves ‘Rich’ more so comfortable that we can live a modest life without financial restraints

it really bugs me when she says stuff like ‘you wouldn’t know what it’s like to budget’ and ‘it’s alright for some’ etc. I do budget monthly and am very much aware of how much things costs etc

Am I being unreasonable in this situation?

"My husband earns around £250k a year..."

We both drive range rovers... "but one is second hand".

"We don't go on extravagent holidays or wear high end designer clothes" (so where do you go and what do you wear? Guaranteed it isn't staycations and Primark)...

What a way to boast how well off you are and how hard you work. Bully for you.

Yes you are out of touch. Yes you are being unreasonable. Yes you have no idea how the half (90%) live.

OneBreezyHelper · 07/03/2026 23:26

When people are one redundancy away from being unable to pay the mortgage and the bills, I don't call them "rich".

You are much better off than many people, and a lot worst off than others.

But on MN, anyone earning more than £30k is considered "filthy rich"

randomchap · 07/03/2026 23:26

thatsthatsaidthemayor · 07/03/2026 23:19

You’re not rich. You’re richer than your SIL. Her comments are unjust. Unless it’s z250 after tax I’m sat here wondering how you afford private school TBH.

Is this a joke?

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Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 23:25

SleepyHollowed84 · 07/03/2026 23:20

Being self made and having no help to get there does not mean you’re not rich, OP. But I think you know that. You’ve mentioned all of your privileges without being asked about them.

So you:

  • drive nice cars
  • spend presumably £60k~ on school fees
  • dont have to work
  • own a nice house

and you think you’re not well off?

Please get some perspective. I assume if you did grow up working class, as you claim, this won’t be difficult.

I was giving the background
I don’t live in a mansion and have extravagant holidays etc. Why would I claim I’m working class if I wasn’t? What would I gain from this?

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randomchap · 07/03/2026 23:23

He earns 8 times the UK average wage

You're rich. If you don't feel rich then that's because you're being foolish with money

MsPug · 07/03/2026 23:22

get to fuck ya wrong un

Brewtiful · 07/03/2026 23:21

HoskinsChoice · 07/03/2026 23:20

I mean clearly this thread is fake but 'rich but thick' still made me laugh. 🤣

Do people really fall for this goady bullshit?! 🎣 1/10

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I've genuinely met several people like the OP in real life. Whilst this thread may indeed be bullshit these people do indeed exist.

365RubyRed · 07/03/2026 23:21

Why don’t you have a job if you’re as hard working as you claim? You are wealthy, that’s obvious, but I don’t understand the need to brag about it. You must realise there are hard working people educated to graduate level and beyond, earning significantly less than your husband, and consequently struggling to pay the bills, living from payday to payday.

LaMarschallin · 07/03/2026 23:21

Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 23:09

I suppose I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable to be offended by her comments. She says something everytime we see her and it’s in a negative way. I wouldn’t dream of being so rude to her but thought maybe I’m being sensitive

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Perhaps you are a bit.
Look at the responses you've got here after you've outlined your husband's salary, nice house with "wrap around" garden, children in private schools etc
Presumably your SiL comes from the same working class background as your husband and hasn't been able to "work her way up the ladder".
Unless there's a major drip feed coming it doesn't sound like she's saying anything that awful.

HoskinsChoice · 07/03/2026 23:20

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I mean clearly this thread is fake but 'rich but thick' still made me laugh. 🤣

Do people really fall for this goady bullshit?! 🎣 1/10

SleepyHollowed84 · 07/03/2026 23:20

Being self made and having no help to get there does not mean you’re not rich, OP. But I think you know that. You’ve mentioned all of your privileges without being asked about them.

So you:

  • drive nice cars
  • spend presumably £60k~ on school fees
  • dont have to work
  • own a nice house

and you think you’re not well off?

Please get some perspective. I assume if you did grow up working class, as you claim, this won’t be difficult.

Confuserr · 07/03/2026 23:19

Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 23:12

It really has been hard work educationally. We both come from working class backgrounds but studied far beyond post graduate level and worked our way up the ladder as such. We have never had any financial help. So yes I do consider that hard work and entirely lacking of any luck 😊

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Of course it's luck, don't be dim.
It's lucky to be born in a wealthy country, to be born and remain healthy, to have children that you wanted, to have lived in peacetime your whole life. It's lucky to be born clever enough to get a postgraduate education! I make more than your DH, and work extremely hard (probably harder than him, certainly harder than you!), but still recognise that I'm incredibly lucky.

But yes your sister is law is spot on, you are out of touch.

Whether it's rude of her to make comments about your lifestyle is a totally different issue. If she's bringing it up out of nowhere that's rude. If she's bringing it up because you're doing faux moaning about needing to budget and working so hard and how you got where you are by hard work then I can see her point tbh

Fleur405 · 07/03/2026 23:19

Our household income is a little less than yours (not by a huge amount, though we do both work) and while your sister in law is extremely rude and clearly a bit jealous … yes you are being unreasonable. Your household income is many many times what the average household earns and while clearly you could be richer you are comparatively very well off.

thatsthatsaidthemayor · 07/03/2026 23:19

You’re not rich. You’re richer than your SIL. Her comments are unjust. Unless it’s z250 after tax I’m sat here wondering how you afford private school TBH.

MotherofPufflings · 07/03/2026 23:18

Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 23:12

It really has been hard work educationally. We both come from working class backgrounds but studied far beyond post graduate level and worked our way up the ladder as such. We have never had any financial help. So yes I do consider that hard work and entirely lacking of any luck 😊

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I'm not saying that you haven't worked hard, but that lots of people also work hard without earning £250k. There are loads of professional jobs where people have multiple degrees, work ridiculous number of hours and still earn less. The luck is in working in an industry that pays that much, plus being able to access that education in the first place.

This isn't coming from a place of envy BTW, our household income is several multiples of yours but we recognise that this is largely good fortune.

CeciliaMars · 07/03/2026 23:18

I hate the line ‘we have worked really hard to get where we are’. I’ve worked bloody hard as a teacher and will never be a fraction as comfortably off as you. Will never own a Range Rover, second hand or otherwise. Read the room for God’s sake.

ThatFairy · 07/03/2026 23:18

Soccermomsavestheday · 07/03/2026 23:12

It really has been hard work educationally. We both come from working class backgrounds but studied far beyond post graduate level and worked our way up the ladder as such. We have never had any financial help. So yes I do consider that hard work and entirely lacking of any luck 😊

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I wish I had done well too and I could have and fully intended to but I was 17, met the wrong guy, got pregnant. I was only a kid and with my family background the odds were stacked against me. If I could only be young again. However I am considering doing a degree in a STEM subject. It's just daunting to think I'll be in class with a bunch of 20 year olds

havingoneofthosedays · 07/03/2026 23:18

Yeah you sound insufferable. I’m with SIL

watchuswreckthemic · 07/03/2026 23:17

Depends on your interpretation of ‘modest’. It sounds like you are in touch with what you can afford, and I wouldn’t think you are ‘rich’ like the super elites.
However working hard has lots of strands, and it’s not always financially rewarded.

Babsandherwabs · 07/03/2026 23:15

Since when is private school a ‘modest life’? Of course you’re well off OP, you surely know that. Give yourself some credit for gods sake, you look a bit stupid by not acknowledging that. Our household income is £100k less than yours and we feel pretty flush.

Brewtiful · 07/03/2026 23:15

. So yes I do consider that hard work and entirely lacking of any luck

Of course it's luck. You don't even work so you're lucky you married someone who works in a well paid job.

Floradon · 07/03/2026 23:14

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Tiptopflipflop · 07/03/2026 23:13

Yup. You're out of touch. And I say this as someone with a similar income.

He will be bringing home c.£11k a month net. You are able to put two kids through private school, have a lovely house and nice cars. You are not living a modest life.

I think you're missing that his income gives you freedom of choice that others will never dream of. You could have extravagant holidays if you sent your kids to the local state school or didn't have two Range Rovers. Meanwhile others are choosing whether to heat or eat.