What is considered rich these days??

Regardless, your SIL and her brother have been raised in identical conditions, been given the same opportunities etc.

She could have earned just as much if she had wanted to. She chose a different path, then she's BU to be resentful and jealous. No one stopped her?

MN posters always blame their "circumstances", but when you talk about a brother and sister, these don't apply between siblings.

It depends on what you say to her or how you portray your life to others. If I had a SIL who was boasting about the type of car they drove, what their husband earned, saying that her DH was a barrister instead of a solicitor etc frankly I’d laugh at her. We have family and friends from different backgrounds, some who earn much less than us and some who earn more than us but it’s never an issue or commented on. For me, personally, anyone that uses the word rich (as in financially rich) is vulgar. It’s not a term we’d use. There’s been a few odd posts recently on here about being ‘rich’ and women not working. I often wonder why people post threads like this? Is it for some sort of reassurance or is it simply goady? If you’re comfortable with your life choices surely you don’t need the attention from anon posts on a forum to ask why your SIL makes these comments.

In what way do you work hard. Given you do not work ?

@OneBreezyHelper What's with the "Support" reaction? Are you just being sarcastic? Bit childish don't you think?

Its privilege for starters. Maybe not luck but there is a degree of privilege to even be able to study further. I can't comprehend the amount your dh earns. I feel comfortable to well off and I earn a fraction with zero security behind me. But I am comfortable, I have savings and I earn enough to afford housing, food, pets, occasional drink with friends or day out, presents for my family, modest holidays.
Its not that you didnt work hard, its that it is much harder here and now for people who didnt get what your family did. I have friends who also earn a fraction of what your dh earns but a load more than me but constantly complain they're underpaid and act like they're on the breadline. Despite feeling comfortable myself, I find it grating.

Sorry this was to @answersonly

How rich is "rich"? Supposedly rich people on here (with the income similar to you) moan about tax hike on their private school fees - so how rich are you if you can't afford extra grand a month on something that you consider essential?

To me, rich is someone who never have to worry about not having enough money, whatever their spending. So its a proportional thing and can relate to different levels of income.

first rule of MN - work hard but never be successful in monetary terms as this is attributed to being lucky…

OP your SIL is rude to make those comments unless you were openly discussing finances

It seems to come as surprise - all people need to budget no matter what the level of income

Yes, you can do the qltt. (I’m also a solicitor married to a solicitor who is an equity partner 😂) But there’s no suggestion OP’s husband did that. I think she’s just trying to wind people up.

You'd hope she's not managing the household finances if she doesn't even know how much "they" are earning or how "they" are getting paid?

I guess I need to give my head a wobble

Definitely that

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Your posts do give me a laugh. Thank you.

Is that a Royal “We” have worked very hard?

I am sure your amazing Maths skills gave you the key to the best paid jobs so you are one of the "rich" people, good for you!

You are obviously not bitter, enjoy your big salary 😉

It hasn't "upset" rather than baffled and aroused suspicion. There seem to be several solicitors on the thread including me, possibly some barristers too. Most people are well aware that equity partners are self employed within a law firm. That isn't the same as a barrister being self employed within chambers.

What is this 'bonus "? Do you mean the drawings? How is that extra to the 250k "salary" which isn't really a salary at all. Isn't it all drawings?

Yes that's true. But he didn't do that. He's (allegedly) a solicitor and EP like your DH, and for some reason she described him as a barrister. Maybe she's got a thing for the wig? (They are very fetching tbf)

To be fair, if you're already a solicitor with experience, you can sometimes be exempted from the training requirements for the Bar, although you might have to take the transfer test.

Not saying that's what the OP's DH did, but it's not that uncommon. I'm a lawyer, DH is a solicitor (also an equity partner in a firm) and he went that route.

Not just more, 8 times as much. Maths not your strong point?

And yeah, pointing out foolishness does amuse me. So thanks for your posts. Cheered me right up.

I never fully understand what people want from these threads.

Do you want everyone to say you're not rich?

Ok, you're not rich.

Better?

It didn't upset me at all I thought it was hilarious.
I am much less confused about why your SIL thinks you're pretentious now I know you go around describing your solicitor husband as a barrister.

if you are too narrow-minded to realise that someone having more than someone else automatically makes them "rich", then I can't help you. And frankly, I don't really care what you think.

I was just asking if you felt better by calling people thick when they have a different opinion. Obviously you do!