What is considered rich these days??

An income 8 times the national average,plus a bonus, and you don't consider yourself rich?

How do you define the term?

I particularly like the really mangy ones. So sexy (fanning myself) 😂

And bottom line we have worked really hard to be where we are

It’s cringe enough hearing ‘we have worked really hard to be where we are’ from people who work, we don’t need to hear it from a housewife.

You must lead a very empty life to be bragging on an anonymous site.

While I get what you're saying, in a marriage, some achievements are definitely shared. My husband earns pretty well but he definitely could not have got to where he is without me holding down the fort with the kids. I work full time and I take on the vast majority of the chores and childcare, because his hours are longer than mine. He has achieved amazing things professionally/academically which are all on him, but our financial success as a family is collective.

My simple definition would be having enough to never work again. How much that is would depend on your yearly spending habits. This is probably a more modest benchmark than most though.

‘We have worked really hard’

you don’t have a job.

I’m sorry but even if my husband earnt enough for me to not work, I still would

And I should point out that yearly compensation is drawn from net profits, not gross, and is generally determined by level, which can change from year to year, and which defines percentage of ownership. Different firms may have slightly different compensation models but that's pretty standard.

It's not ridiculous at all. Mbappé was born with specific physical and mental abilities which made him able to do a job which pays well.

Here's another example if you didn't like that one. I'm a barrister, neither my brother nor my sister, however hard they worked, could ever do my job, or indeed any job which could lead to a comparable income.

It seems clear to me that your SIL is jealous of you.
If you have a much nicer lifestyle than her, that's understandable. I grew up pretty poor and would look in wonder at large, comfortable houses, and people (children) in flashy cars. They seemed to be a different type of human.
I think the point you're making is that, having paid for your expensive house, expensive cars and expensive schools, you can't just splash what's left around.
Nevertheless, your SIL is still being mean spirited in making nasty comments, especially if she is benefitting financially from your income.
It must be hard for the majority on much lower incomes to read that you don't consider yourself rich. I guess that explains the harsh comments.

Not all siblings have the same innate skills and abilities.

You're talking out your arse

what a ridiculous comparison and you know it.

Siblings have the same parental involvement and financial resources, go to the same schools, have the same opportunities. Entirely their choice if they go for a career that pays, or one that pays a lot less.

No one, but no one, has ever said there was anything wrong in being a nurse (for example) but you know before you even start your first day of training that you won't earn the same as an investment banker, even if you move towards private cosmetic practice.

It's a choice. It's just about income, it's not a judgement of value, unless you have a massive chip on your shoulder.

Indeed, my sister will never be able to earn what I do. Not through any fault of hers

Um, yes? Was there something in my reply that led you to think I didn't?

I work really hard - I would annihilate my husband if he was swanning round acting as though his part time unskilled job was paying for everything and that my hard work / high salary / status was somehow something he could claim by dint of sharing a home and kids. 🤣

That's such a stupid take, sorry.

It's like saying Kylian Mbappé's brother had the same upbringing as him so he should be earning the same amount if only he worked as hard 😂

I never understand these comments.

Saying that someone works hard never means that someone else doesn't?

The firm I was at did give bonuses (as does DH's) although they're not a huge part of total compensation.

I left a while ago to do something else, but DH's firm does monthly distributions that vary and then very large distributions at the end of their financial year (which comes at a strange time), at the end of December and then another mid-way through January. If you've had a very good year, you will sometimes get a January bonus, but as they're not a given, I wouldn't have wanted to rely on them.

But this is a US firm, London office, so mileage may vary.

My sister-in-law has never said anything about any of it.
Should say, none of my sisters-in-law. I have several, all silent on the matter of relative wealth or lack thereof.

I’d like to say this is a stealth boast but it isn’t really very stealthy.

For “earns” you really should’ve said “gets paid”, I doubt he works 10 times as hard as a nurse.