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To think influencers lack of safety is frustrating

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Collectivethoughts · 07/03/2026 21:45

I follow an influencer on instagram. She actually lives local to me and seems to be a nice person. However she's moved home and just done a complete home tour and put this on youtube.
She went into every single room and described where the room was. She is going to continue uploading videos around how they are decorating and furnishing the rooms. The house is very grand and lovely so I would imagine the items in the house will also be that.
She is not the only one who has done this. Mrs Hinch has previously and other influencers.
Do they not think about theirs and their children's safety. Do they not think people may try to burgle their homes. They have just given them the blue print to the home. Do they not worry they tell strangers what room their child is sleeping in, that their back garden has no fence. I just don't get it? Is money and views more important than safety?

AIBU for thinking this?

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tooloololoo · 09/03/2026 08:31

I find it so strange Rochelle Humes has posted where her son goes to school!

the school posted a photo of the two of them - I think they were reading a book to the classroom.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 09/03/2026 08:29

Quite a few footballers have been targetted as a result of them posting on social media that they're on holiday. It does beggar belief to be honest.

There's a guy on social media who parodies influencers. It's brilliant, he sticks post it notes on his fingers for the fake talons and rips the shit out of them.

Collectivethoughts · 09/03/2026 08:23

BigGra · 09/03/2026 02:46

Completely agree. This is a good campaign to show the dangers in sharing your children online. It’s really creepy

dataprotection.ie/en/children

Thanks for sharing this, I was not aware of it. Might use it in my work.
I even had to speak to my ex partner about sharing our child on SM. He didn't see the problem until I had to spell it out to him about images being used on the dark web.

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Itsmetheflamingo · 09/03/2026 08:22

Collectivethoughts · 09/03/2026 02:20

Sorry but if you cannot see the risks of having a kids face plastered all over social media for strangers to see then you are very naive.
People seem to have an attitude of, it would never happen. Well it does, there are alot of weirdos on the internet/social media that I definitely would not want them viewing my child. Not even to mention AI, deep fakes and the dark web.

What is it that you’re worried about though? As I see it:

kidnap- never going to happen
deep fakes- can happen to anyone whose image is recorded
grooming- this is a risk to all children- however at a young age is easily preventable by them having no access to messaging services.

What is your realistic worry ? I mean the burglary one is already pretty tentative so I’m expecting this to be the same

BigGra · 09/03/2026 02:46

Collectivethoughts · 09/03/2026 02:20

Sorry but if you cannot see the risks of having a kids face plastered all over social media for strangers to see then you are very naive.
People seem to have an attitude of, it would never happen. Well it does, there are alot of weirdos on the internet/social media that I definitely would not want them viewing my child. Not even to mention AI, deep fakes and the dark web.

Completely agree. This is a good campaign to show the dangers in sharing your children online. It’s really creepy

dataprotection.ie/en/children

Collectivethoughts · 09/03/2026 02:20

Itsmetheflamingo · 08/03/2026 23:05

I also don’t get the security issues around the children’s faces and schools and locations- what do you think, someone is going to kidnap their kids for ransom?!?

there are privacy issues with children on social media, but security issues I imagine are as overblown as the security issues from doing a house tour

Sorry but if you cannot see the risks of having a kids face plastered all over social media for strangers to see then you are very naive.
People seem to have an attitude of, it would never happen. Well it does, there are alot of weirdos on the internet/social media that I definitely would not want them viewing my child. Not even to mention AI, deep fakes and the dark web.

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eyupemily · 08/03/2026 23:07

I find it very weird and invasive when influencers show their kids bedrooms. I know one who is notorious for this and her eldest is a teen now. It just feels so wrong, that’s their private safe space and they are showing it off to the world for freebies and likes. Vom.

Itsmetheflamingo · 08/03/2026 23:05

I also don’t get the security issues around the children’s faces and schools and locations- what do you think, someone is going to kidnap their kids for ransom?!?

there are privacy issues with children on social media, but security issues I imagine are as overblown as the security issues from doing a house tour

Shutuptrevor · 08/03/2026 22:58

I’ve seen posts from several of some serious unsafe DIY, esp “garden kitchens” without proper heatproofing etc.

Collectivethoughts · 08/03/2026 22:42

Amberlynnswashcloth · 08/03/2026 03:34

Presumably they haven't had any security issues which ironically goes to show that nobody really cares and that most of the crap these 'influencers' promote has no real value. Nobody wants to steal seasonal decor or laundry fragrance boosters. I doubt they have harassment at the doorstep unless they're content is political or controversial in some way and the ones who do this don't tend to vlog their homes and families for obvious reasons.

Shes Just moved in and only posted the video so no none YET.
She has way over 1 million on insta and tiktok so she usnt a smaller influencer. Funny thing is she used to be a teacher so you'd think she would have thought about safeguarding etc. She does occasionally show her child on SM too. Which I dont agree with.

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keepswimming38 · 08/03/2026 10:27

The less influencers there are in the world the better it will be. If they want to put themselves in harms way so be it.

BadSkiingMum · 08/03/2026 10:25

I don’t really follow lifestyle influencers as such but there is someone who posts cooking videos online (she did well in a TV show a few years back) and she also sometimes posts ‘get dressed with me’ videos including herself in underwear. These come up on Facebook reels.

She is a very attractive woman and I think this is a gift to perverts and stalkers, especially as she also sometimes posts videos of herself outside on the street. Plus described her general area of London when buying a new house. I don’t even follow her but the algorithm has sent me this information.

Those who live in London know that the housing stock tends to fall into a few different styles by area, so it really wouldn’t be too hard to use Rightmove and Streetview to narrow down the area in which she lives. It seems risky to me, especially since this was illustrated by the plot against Holly Willoughby.

ValidPistachio · 08/03/2026 10:16

Burglars already know where the grand and lovely houses are. Garden fences are no obstacle to them. If they were of a mind, they could easily and quickly locate a child's bedroom. They don't need online "blueprints" to carry out their misdeeds.

HortiGal · 08/03/2026 10:10

I would think they should be more cautious for personal safety, we see how unhinged ppl can be in comments on SM. One I follow on TikTok, routinely shares the view of her street; the school in it so very easy to pinpoint her home, posts her kids with school badges on show. Seems a nice person but I’m mystified why she’s not a bit more sensible.

Collectivethoughts · 08/03/2026 09:56

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 07/03/2026 23:06

I vaguely follow Mrs Hinch, and I know her kids names, ages, vocabulary levels, medical history, pets names, holiday locations, family members names, home address, bedroom decor and layout of their house.

I can’t stress how little effort I’ve put in for this information to cross my consciousness. It blows my mind that any adult would be that irresponsible.

I know and her mum has had stuff stolen and I believe at her old property people were showing up.
I'm part of another forum and I remember on that thread crazy people on there found the location of her new house just based on the pictures she had posted of her home on instagram. Honestly it was mental!

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Collectivethoughts · 08/03/2026 09:51

FreshInks · 07/03/2026 22:51

I agree with this. It’s very similar to other crimes where some suggest women should or should not behave in certain ways to avoid being victims of crimes. Very “what was she wearing”

Oh come on! They are two very different crimes. One wouldn't matter what they were wearing and is definitely not the victims fault.
Videoing your home with all your fancy stuff in your home and telling someone where all your jewellery, handbags, silverware is stored is silly and if anything were to be stolen of large value could have been preventable.

Also I'm really sorry to the people who have been burgled, it must have been awful. I agree alot of them are smash and grabs and not thought threw. However, these are slightly different as there are organised crime gangs who do look for these planned opportunities. It's happened many times.

Someone asked why I was bothered, well I guess it's to do with the job i'm in and I find it hard the lack of common sense sometimes to keep themselves and their families safe. There are so many nut jobs on the internet.

With the rightmove stuff, I guess you're right. Personally I think you should only be able to see the homes if you sign up and they have your details or some other way of doing it.

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Dancingsquirrels · 08/03/2026 08:37

Perhaps not so different from estate agents posting sales particulars online?

GladHedgehog · 08/03/2026 08:25

DarkForces · 07/03/2026 22:09

I don't think burglars generally put a lot of thought into it. They just chucked a brick through my front door then rifled through my things. They used my pillowcase to carry my jewellery out. They headed straight upstairs and started emptying drawers. It was shit and definitely didn't need thought or blueprints.

Oh some definitely do. Especially the ones that target antiques or high end jewellery. Back in the day they loved the lifestyle magazines where the rich and stupid invited in photos and advertised their possessions in full colour spreads.Nothing new under the sun.

PinkLegoBalloon · 08/03/2026 07:31

My main concern is their kid's general safety and well being rather than them being burgled but yes YANBU, they seem to lack any common sense.

Sophie May Dickson (Blinging up baby) is the most concerning "influencer"/social media poster I've ever come across in terms of concern about her children and over a decade of people shouting their concerns hasn't been enough for her to pack it in. Her eldest's struggles have ended so sadly. 😔

I don't think influencers should be allowed to monetise their children. It's exploitative and just .... Grim. 😔

EvangelineTheNightStar · 08/03/2026 07:29

GuiltyPleasure · 07/03/2026 23:24

All influencers are grifters who think of nothing but the profits they make off the stupid people that buy into their brand. They consider it their job and choose to monetise every personal detail of their life and exploit their children for likes, follows and brand deals with crap products. If there’s consequences to that, so be it. I have no sympathy for them.

This and re She went into every single room and described where the room was. She is going to continue uploading videos around how they are decorating and furnishing the rooms. The house is very grand and lovely so I would imagine the items in the house will also be that how else do you think she’s going to fill it? #sponsored items?!

Keepoffmyartichokes · 08/03/2026 07:25

I agree but I think anyone who flashes their wealth, big houses, every detail of their lives etc are asking for trouble. I remember Helen Flanagan getting robbed after posting pics of her house she shared with a footballer and then posting that he had gone out for the night and she was home alone.

GreyfriarsJobbies · 08/03/2026 07:20

UniquePinkSwan · 08/03/2026 07:14

My 18 year old son makes more money than me making videos on YouTube. I’d say that was a proper job. Are you jealous or something?

Depends how much money you make I suppose.

UniquePinkSwan · 08/03/2026 07:14

Bertiebiscuit · 07/03/2026 22:48

Not the biggest problem with so called "influencers" in my opinion. "get a proper job" I'm inclined to say

My 18 year old son makes more money than me making videos on YouTube. I’d say that was a proper job. Are you jealous or something?

OvernightBloats · 08/03/2026 07:13

Kim Kardashian learnt the hard way that it is not a good idea to put your whole life on social media flashing your money about. She was robbed of over £7 million worth of jewellery in a Paris hotel room! Must have been terrifying. After this, she must have cut down how much she posted on social media.

What happened to Kim Kardashian was extreme but being so open about your life on social media is very risky.

Owly11 · 08/03/2026 06:55

I think anyone who advertises their life on line is nutty but everyone seems to be doing it 🤷🏻‍♀️