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Original poster

To ask she goes in an Air BnB

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TinselandTiarasRightNow · 07/03/2026 21:21

Mil is really nice. She's wanted to move house for a while and has had a quick sale. She needs to be out ASAP and hasn't found another property. She doesnt want to lose the sale as its been hard to come by. We're looking at houses. However its likely she'll soon be homeless and have to stay with us. This could be a few months. Aibu to ask She goes to an air bnb instead ?

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Purplecatshopaholic · 07/03/2026 22:34

If you want to continue having a good relationship with her I wouldn’t have her stay for long! What does your DH think? It’s his mother.

LucyLoo1972 · 07/03/2026 22:18

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/03/2026 21:32

I find it hard having close friends that I really like staying for longer than 3 nights. The idea of having anyone for months would make ME move into an air bnb.

my DH had our parents in law stay with us with their cat too for three weeks at a time. I was trying ot wrote my phd and also doing there other jobs.

this kind of thing ended up breaking me and I went into a horrific psychosis from stress

Snowyowl99 · 07/03/2026 22:13

I would feel bad not helping family out in this situation. It's only a few months

TheBlueKoala · 07/03/2026 22:12

Don't let her move in or you will never get rid of her! Personally I wouldn't impose myself if I wasn't broke and homeless. It's hard to live with other adults even if it's family. Longer than a week and I feel like screaming.

Lovemycat2023 · 07/03/2026 22:08

At least 3 months, could be up to 6 months easily. I had to move back home in a similar scenario and took from October to May (from first viewings to move in).

TomatoSandwiches · 07/03/2026 22:06

I would let her stay for a few weeks max whilst she finds a suitable short term rental, I couldn't cope with more than that.

Ilikewinter · 07/03/2026 22:04

tilypu · 07/03/2026 21:57

I'm a bit confused as to how the sale was hard to come by, but also quick. These two things don't usually go together.

I would rather not have to live with someone else but in those circumstances I would suck it up for a defined period.

I thought the same, but wondering if OP means that the house was up for sale for a long time, but once her MIL accepted an offer, the sale has progressed quickly, and this is why her MIL doesn't want to hold anything up?

Hellohelga · 07/03/2026 22:03

She will get interest on the proceeds of her house that she can use to pay for a rental. A few weeks would be ok but not months. I’m sure she’ll want her space too.

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TinselandTiarasRightNow · 07/03/2026 22:02

tilypu · 07/03/2026 21:57

I'm a bit confused as to how the sale was hard to come by, but also quick. These two things don't usually go together.

I would rather not have to live with someone else but in those circumstances I would suck it up for a defined period.

As in it was on the market for a while so we didnt want to lose the sale.

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Tink3rbell30 · 07/03/2026 21:59

What does DH think?

tilypu · 07/03/2026 21:57

I'm a bit confused as to how the sale was hard to come by, but also quick. These two things don't usually go together.

I would rather not have to live with someone else but in those circumstances I would suck it up for a defined period.

wherearethesnacks · 07/03/2026 21:54

I'd be careful. A family member moved into short term accomodation after selling their house but it ended up being for a year by the time they found a suitable new purchase and moved in.

BlackCat14 · 07/03/2026 21:51

More information needed I think about what has been discussed so far. Has she actually asked if she can stay at yours? And the reason you “feel bad” is outright saying no to her? What does your husband think?

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TinselandTiarasRightNow · 07/03/2026 21:51

She may well do but typically it can take a good while can't it ? Im thinking from my experience on house buying etc its 3 months minimum.

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mindutopia · 07/03/2026 21:50

Surely there is ground between living with you and a (very expensive) Airbnb. She could look for a (more affordable) short term let. She could become a lodger. There are lots of older single women her age who let rooms. It seems more sensible for her to lodge with someone short term to keep a bit of emotional distance within the family. Moving in with family is stressful. Being a lodger is more of a business arrangement and very different.

EvangelineTheNightStar · 07/03/2026 21:49

Why will it take months? Why can’t she get a quick sale too?

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TinselandTiarasRightNow · 07/03/2026 21:48

Im thinking I could request a time limit then maybe consider an air bnb. I don't know how it would be received

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Roselily123 · 07/03/2026 21:48

I think she needs to find her new property and move into that - like the rest of us - rent until she finds something.
It could be a year before she finds the ‘right’ property (if ever). Beware.

MaryBeardsShoes · 07/03/2026 21:46

I couldn’t do this to my own mother and we don’t get on. I would have to put a time limit on it though.

Nofeckingway · 07/03/2026 21:44

I would and I have enough room but I know that doesnt suit everyone . How about suggest if it goes on too long that she might want to think about Airbnb. What does your DH think ?

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TinselandTiarasRightNow · 07/03/2026 21:36

She's lovely. She does have money but I feel bad. It's just a lot.

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VickyEadieofThigh · 07/03/2026 21:32

I find it hard having close friends that I really like staying for longer than 3 nights. The idea of having anyone for months would make ME move into an air bnb.

parietal · 07/03/2026 21:31

My mum was in this position staying with my sister for 3 months. She arranged a lot of trips to visit cousins for a few days or mini holidays so she ended up spending only 50% of the time with Dsis and the rest away.

how much space do you have and how is MIL?

ProfessorRedshoeblueshoe · 07/03/2026 21:28

Can she afford it ? Especially if it goes on for months

Blueuggboots · 07/03/2026 21:28

Honestly? My mum lived with us for 7 months when she left my dad and they sold up and both bought somewhere.
it was hell.

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