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Carol Vorderman has culled her lovers from five down to three.

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NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 18:11

Carol Vorderman has had to slash the number of lovers she has down from five to three, admitting: “Times are hard.”
She now only has a trio of three long-term “special” male friends on the go after previously enjoying the attention of five.
The maths whiz has always been open about loving her friends with benefits.

So...
Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.

Is it unreasonable, immoral, and just plain tacky?

Carol Vorderman makes 'burnout' admission as she's left crying on the floor

Former Countdown presenter Carol Vorderman has opened up about her health battles, including a chronic condition that left her in tears and unable to move

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/showbiz/carol-vorderman-makes-burnout-admission-36116752

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YerMotherWasAHamster · 07/03/2026 19:58

Carol Vorderman makes 'burnout' admission as she's left 'lying on the floor crying'Former Countdown presenter Carol Vorderman has opened up about her health battles, including a chronic condition that left her in tears and unable to moveCarol Vorderman, the beloved former Countdown presenter, has revealed she is facing another health struggle, just months after stepping back from work due to burnout.
The 64-year-old star explained that, alongside battling burnout, she was also coping with rheumatoid arthritis, which at times left her collapsing in tears.

Speaking to amanda holden and Jamie Theakston on Heart Radio, Carol shared the ordeal, which began shortly after taking a break from her professional commitments.

“I had burnout and then, it’s a really weird thing. I had sudden and chronic rheumatoid arthritis and I literally would lie on the floor crying for a day and I couldn’t move my shoulder,” she said. “I had to keep my elbow in at my waist. I’ve been on steroids on and off for many months because they have to try certain drugs, and it can take months for them to take effect. But now I’m on the right ones, and I’ve been off steroids for three months. It’s like, ‘Yeah, I like this.’”

This isn’t the first time this autumn that Carol has spoken about her experience with burnout. Earlier, the Countdown icon spoke candidly to OK! magazine ahead of the Pride of Britain Awards.

The 64-year-old star explained that, alongside battling burnout, she was also coping with rheumatoid arthritis, which at times left her collapsing in tears.

RobinInTheCrabApple · 07/03/2026 19:51

The 'times are hard' comment refers to the fact that she's suffering from debilitating rheumatoid arthritis.

RobinInTheCrabApple · 07/03/2026 19:48

What women around Carol's age (65) need to be told that sex can be great?

Most women with an interest cottoned on to that fact some time back.

Disturbia81 · 07/03/2026 19:48

TwistedWonder · 07/03/2026 18:40

And where does she find them because as a woman of a similar age, the pickings out there are very very slim

Also, most of them will probably be younger. Which widens the options.

I’m glad she’s said it, it should be normalised.

AgentPidge · 07/03/2026 19:48

tobee · 07/03/2026 19:06

I’m too lazy to read the article in the link but what does that mean “times are hard”? Why does times being hard mean you have to give 2 of your lovers the elbow? Am I just very naive?

Perhaps she pays them

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 07/03/2026 19:47

I wish I had the energy 😂

Disturbia81 · 07/03/2026 19:47

Makemydaypunk · 07/03/2026 18:49

I don’t believe she had five men on the go in the first place, she is just desperate to be seen as desirable and sexy, she will say anything for attention.

It’s not hard to do if you see a couple a week.

Disturbia81 · 07/03/2026 19:44

TwistedWonder · 07/03/2026 18:40

And where does she find them because as a woman of a similar age, the pickings out there are very very slim

It’s not hard for women to find fwb at any age. It’s a womans market. A proper relationship with a decent man.. is hard at any age.

I’ve never been happier than having 3 men on the go at the moment. No commitment, lots of variety, no getting sick of each other. I’ve realised one man can’t give me everything. I love the different personalities, looks, way they touch etc. And one is being annoying or isn’t available then there’s other options.

NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 19:42

GoldenGeishaGirl · 07/03/2026 19:28

The phrase ‘woman of a certain age’ is sexist. You never hear ‘man of a certain age’ being used.

I think you need to consider why you’re uncomfortable reading about a sexually confident older woman OP.

It wouldn’t be my choice of relationship but consenting adults shouldn’t be barred from publicly talking about their love life unless they’re young and/or married.

The media sites you’re reading about her love life on are probably wording the articles with the intention of trying to get readers to judge and dislike her.

I'm not uncomfortable, she can have 50 lovers if she likes...and actually, I am older than Carol, so I am certainly not ageist....so unclench your buttocks.

I posted it because it is unusual for a woman (of a certain age) to talk publicly about having multiple lovers.

Personally I think it's tacky to announce it to the world, but as I said, in one way it may help other older single women to read that sex can be great, as long as one has the interest, the will power, and the energy .

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RobinInTheCrabApple · 07/03/2026 19:39

Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.

It's definitely reasonable for women Carol's age to have energy.

Fair play to her.

Foundress · 07/03/2026 19:38

Blocksfruity · 07/03/2026 18:21

It's all very "I have sex" isn't it.

Or to put it another way, we don't know her boyfriends because they go to another school.

😂

BunnyLake · 07/03/2026 19:38

She’s an attention seeker so this gives her attention. I doubt anyone is actually interested and couldn’t care less about her love life. It’s rather like telling strangers in the post office queue, no one asked and no one cares.

JohnnyBraggtheyretalkingaboutmeNsoul · 07/03/2026 19:38

Goinggonegone · 07/03/2026 19:03

The Daily Star is not a reputable news source...

Nor toilet paper in an emergency.

Mydogisagentleman · 07/03/2026 19:36

She's ghastly.
You go shagging as much as you want treasure.
No one gives a shiny shit

StormyLandCloud · 07/03/2026 19:33

I do like Carole! I didn’t know about this revelation but hey ho, go for it IMO, and if she’s bend up front then the press can’t use it against her!

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 07/03/2026 19:32

Sesma · 07/03/2026 18:14

I find her annoying

Probably because she is annoying.

ETA: She can have as many partners as she wishes, provided everyone involved is a consenting adult then it's entirely her own business. But Christ, she irritates the life out of me.

YerMotherWasAHamster · 07/03/2026 19:29

Has anyone actually read the piece linked to?

She's talking about her arthritis and suffering with pain.

I cant see anything about 5 men or 3 men or anything like that.

Poor woman is in pain from arthritis.

Yasyasyas · 07/03/2026 19:28

Last year I read Gransnet and there's some women on there who are happily dating multiple people at once!

Let them 😁

GoldenGeishaGirl · 07/03/2026 19:28

The phrase ‘woman of a certain age’ is sexist. You never hear ‘man of a certain age’ being used.

I think you need to consider why you’re uncomfortable reading about a sexually confident older woman OP.

It wouldn’t be my choice of relationship but consenting adults shouldn’t be barred from publicly talking about their love life unless they’re young and/or married.

The media sites you’re reading about her love life on are probably wording the articles with the intention of trying to get readers to judge and dislike her.

Yasyasyas · 07/03/2026 19:26

NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 19:17

Not patronising at all.
Many women, especially older women have been conditioned to not sleep around, her making it public that she does, could be helpful to them.

Like I said, I doubt that's the reason she tells all, but if it helps...every cloud.

Ugh. Can't wait until that attitude is in the bin.

FWIW I'm 40 and my friends are mostly late 40s - late 50s and nobody has this attitude you mention. In fact most women I know delightfully talk about when they slept around before married. And good for them.

I never did, and I regret it tbh!

BauhausOfEliott · 07/03/2026 19:23

NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 18:35

Most women 'of a certain age', have learned to hold their own council.

Yes, I do think it's tacky, especially for a woman her age to be bragging...because that's how it comes across to me.

Sexist AND ageist, then. Well done.

Why shouldn’t she talk about her relationships? She hasn’t done anything to be ashamed of.

dunroamingfornow · 07/03/2026 19:20

TwistedWonder · 07/03/2026 18:40

And where does she find them because as a woman of a similar age, the pickings out there are very very slim

This is what I want to know although to be fair I have neither her figure or her profile !

B1anche · 07/03/2026 19:18

You are unreasonable for using the term "woman of a certain age"

NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 19:17

likelysuspect · 07/03/2026 19:05

Oh you think she's some sort of public service?

Women in their 60s dont need 'reassurance' to do something they want to do. How patronising.

Not patronising at all.
Many women, especially older women have been conditioned to not sleep around, her making it public that she does, could be helpful to them.

Like I said, I doubt that's the reason she tells all, but if it helps...every cloud.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/03/2026 19:09

If they're all freely consenting adults, then it's none of my business what they do.