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Carol Vorderman has culled her lovers from five down to three.

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NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 18:11

Carol Vorderman has had to slash the number of lovers she has down from five to three, admitting: “Times are hard.”
She now only has a trio of three long-term “special” male friends on the go after previously enjoying the attention of five.
The maths whiz has always been open about loving her friends with benefits.

So...
Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.

Is it unreasonable, immoral, and just plain tacky?

Carol Vorderman makes 'burnout' admission as she's left crying on the floor

Former Countdown presenter Carol Vorderman has opened up about her health battles, including a chronic condition that left her in tears and unable to move

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/showbiz/carol-vorderman-makes-burnout-admission-36116752

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Thebellistolling · 10/03/2026 19:22

The thread is longer than I thought! It's all a bit tawdry really, off-putting whether a man or woman. Of whatever age!

pointythings · 10/03/2026 19:19

As soon as some ageing, publicity hungry male celeb is making news banging on about shagging multiple women, I may start a thread about that.

So if it's a young publicity hungry male celeb you have no issues at all? Ageism isn't a good look either, you know.

Thebellistolling · 10/03/2026 19:12

StillFeelingTired · 07/03/2026 18:35

This! ( but also… how does she have the energy?)

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One a month? 😀

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 19:09

pointythings · 10/03/2026 18:43

As pp said, let's have a shaming thread about a male celebrity then. I find it very telling that you picked on a woman and are now backpedalling.

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Carol Vorderman was in the news bragging about times being hard, cutting her 5 lovers down to three.
As soon as some ageing, publicity hungry male celeb is making news banging on about shagging multiple women, I may start a thread about that.

When that happens, I look forward to your own posts encouraging his behaviour.😎

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pointythings · 10/03/2026 18:43

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:21

I don't have to prove anything.
Especially when someone posts in such a dismissive manner.

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Cheap judgemental posts deserve dismissiveness.

pointythings · 10/03/2026 18:43

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:13

I include men.🙄

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As pp said, let's have a shaming thread about a male celebrity then. I find it very telling that you picked on a woman and are now backpedalling.

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:21

baroqueandblue · 10/03/2026 17:15

Prove it. Make a sensationalising slut-shaming thread about some male celeb then.

Yep, didn't think so.

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I don't have to prove anything.
Especially when someone posts in such a dismissive manner.

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baroqueandblue · 10/03/2026 17:15

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:13

I include men.🙄

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Prove it. Make a sensationalising slut-shaming thread about some male celeb then.

Yep, didn't think so.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 10/03/2026 17:13

She's the same age as me. I'd probably shag around if I could be bothered, but just doing the dusting knackers me these days.

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:13

pointythings · 10/03/2026 17:10

Calling women slutty is the depths of misogyny.

ETA I'm not young.

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I include men.🙄

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pointythings · 10/03/2026 17:10

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:08

That's your opinion then....mine is it's slutty and cheap to shag around, and incredibly tacky to brag about it.
Young people have a lot to learn, older people should know better.

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Calling women slutty is the depths of misogyny.

ETA I'm not young.

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 17:08

pointythings · 10/03/2026 13:57

Well, I'm happy to answer it. I don't care how many simultaneous sex partners someone has, as long as they all know about each other and are OK with it. I also don't care about age, as long as they're all adults.

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That's your opinion then....mine is it's slutty and cheap to shag around, and incredibly tacky to brag about it.
Young people have a lot to learn, older people should know better.

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Lugol · 10/03/2026 14:30

I'd find it gross from a man and gross from a woman.

From that particular woman, I don't really believe it anyway.

That woman is such a try-hard.

pointythings · 10/03/2026 13:57

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 12:39

So if people get old, why get so upset when age is mentioned.

Very telling that you didn't answer the question re males.

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Well, I'm happy to answer it. I don't care how many simultaneous sex partners someone has, as long as they all know about each other and are OK with it. I also don't care about age, as long as they're all adults.

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 13:02

MmeWorthington · 10/03/2026 12:55

Because you referenced her behaviour as her being 'a woman of a certain age' . As if her age makes a difference as to how she should be judged - if at all. Why did you mention her age?

And I am allowed to comment on one aspect of your OP which IS mentioned in your OP, and leave comments about comparison with men's behavipur to the many pp who have posted.

You put up an OP - be prepared for a range of responses.

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I have answered the responses....and thanks for the interest.

However, you seem unwilling to answer a counter question that's been asked throughout the thread several times..

Let's just call it double standards, and move on.

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MmeWorthington · 10/03/2026 12:55

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 12:39

So if people get old, why get so upset when age is mentioned.

Very telling that you didn't answer the question re males.

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Because you referenced her behaviour as her being 'a woman of a certain age' . As if her age makes a difference as to how she should be judged - if at all. Why did you mention her age?

And I am allowed to comment on one aspect of your OP which IS mentioned in your OP, and leave comments about comparison with men's behavipur to the many pp who have posted.

You put up an OP - be prepared for a range of responses.

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 12:39

MmeWorthington · 10/03/2026 12:11

People do get old, yes,

But why does it affect your view of their morality, tackiness etc?

You calm down - about Carol V's sex life!

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So if people get old, why get so upset when age is mentioned.

Very telling that you didn't answer the question re males.

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Hoolieghoul · 10/03/2026 12:22

Absolutely fine for an adult to have as many lovers on the go as they want, provided everyone involved is aware of the arrangement and enthusiastically consenting. I don't find it immoral / tacky or any other perjorative for women (or men) to have the kind of sex that makes them happy, so long as they're not hurting anyone.

Do I personally care? I do not, because it's boring and irrelevant to me.

MmeWorthington · 10/03/2026 12:11

NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 11:35

Calm down ... I'm not sure why women get so upset at other women when age is mentioned. It strikes me that some women don't want to face the fact that people INCLUDING WOMEN...do actually get old.
Embrace it instead of trying to pretend it's not important.

It's been asked a couple of times...

Would all the 'Whoohoo, good on Carol' brigade think it was great if an old man in the public eye gave repeated interviews bragging about the fact that he had several women on the go?

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People do get old, yes,

But why does it affect your view of their morality, tackiness etc?

You calm down - about Carol V's sex life!

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NovemberMorn · 10/03/2026 11:35

MmeWorthington · 10/03/2026 10:15

Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.
Is it unreasonable, immoral, and just plain tacky?

It’s fucking unreasonable to judge a woman of ANY (consenting) age for ANY (legal, consenting) relationships. Unreasonable, immoral and just plain tacky to be so judgmental.

Personally I find it questionable to publicise one’s sex life , but presumably the lovers in question have no issue and it’s refreshing to hear of ‘women of a certain age’ (FFS , what ageist shit) being open and guilt free in the face of the cats-bummed.

Calm down ... I'm not sure why women get so upset at other women when age is mentioned. It strikes me that some women don't want to face the fact that people INCLUDING WOMEN...do actually get old.
Embrace it instead of trying to pretend it's not important.

It's been asked a couple of times...

Would all the 'Whoohoo, good on Carol' brigade think it was great if an old man in the public eye gave repeated interviews bragging about the fact that he had several women on the go?

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MmeWorthington · 10/03/2026 10:15

Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.
Is it unreasonable, immoral, and just plain tacky?

It’s fucking unreasonable to judge a woman of ANY (consenting) age for ANY (legal, consenting) relationships. Unreasonable, immoral and just plain tacky to be so judgmental.

Personally I find it questionable to publicise one’s sex life , but presumably the lovers in question have no issue and it’s refreshing to hear of ‘women of a certain age’ (FFS , what ageist shit) being open and guilt free in the face of the cats-bummed.

Disturbia81 · 10/03/2026 10:10

JillyComeLately · 10/03/2026 00:43

The men in question could be old, ugly and grateful, who knows.
It's not hard for women to collect men, if they are open to variety.

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Nah they’ll be young studs.

jazzybelle · 10/03/2026 00:44

She made it all up just for attention.

JillyComeLately · 10/03/2026 00:43

HRTQueen · 10/03/2026 00:27

😆

not sure I believe it either

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The men in question could be old, ugly and grateful, who knows.
It's not hard for women to collect men, if they are open to variety.

JillyComeLately · 10/03/2026 00:39

EvieBB · 10/03/2026 00:23

I'm curious....would you make the same comment if it was a man in the public eye advertising he had 3 or 5 female lovers?

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The OP asked the same question, no reply.

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