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Carol Vorderman has culled her lovers from five down to three.

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NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 18:11

Carol Vorderman has had to slash the number of lovers she has down from five to three, admitting: “Times are hard.”
She now only has a trio of three long-term “special” male friends on the go after previously enjoying the attention of five.
The maths whiz has always been open about loving her friends with benefits.

So...
Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.

Is it unreasonable, immoral, and just plain tacky?

Carol Vorderman makes 'burnout' admission as she's left crying on the floor

Former Countdown presenter Carol Vorderman has opened up about her health battles, including a chronic condition that left her in tears and unable to move

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/showbiz/carol-vorderman-makes-burnout-admission-36116752

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NovemberMorn · 14/03/2026 14:37

Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 14:27

I’ve not scurried off, I’ve replied and I’m right here still 😂
Keep clutching those massive pearls.

Right here, yet not given an opinion on anything. I will leave you to hover over your keyboard, desperate (yet failing) to insult.😀

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Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 14:27

NovemberMorn · 14/03/2026 14:25

And a person who hides behind a keyboard, has nothing worthwhile to add, calls others nasty, childish names then scurries off like a little coward ... shows exactly what sort of person they are too.

It's obvious (by this thread) that some women think it's fine she sleeps around, others don't. Some think her bahaviour is fine, but to publicly talk about it is tacky. I happen to think that behaviour, whether it be a man or woman, is cheap, and to brag about it, cheap and slutty.
The fact that she is an older women....makes it morso, she should have learned to have a bit of decorum and class at the age of 65.

She is giving interviews to be noticed, so no one should complain because people here have noticed and commented.

That's my opinion, and it's also my opinion that the Carol supporters would think entirely different if an elderly man in the public eye gave several interviews bragging about all the different women he was having sex with.

Some will deny it, probably the same women who would banish a man from the home if he so much as farted.😕

I’ve not scurried off, I’ve replied and I’m right here still 😂
Keep clutching those massive pearls.

NovemberMorn · 14/03/2026 14:25

pointythings · 14/03/2026 13:42

But a person's opinions speak to the kind of person they are.

And a person who hides behind a keyboard, has nothing worthwhile to add, calls others nasty, childish names then scurries off like a little coward ... shows exactly what sort of person they are too.

It's obvious (by this thread) that some women think it's fine she sleeps around, others don't. Some think her bahaviour is fine, but to publicly talk about it is tacky. I happen to think that behaviour, whether it be a man or woman, is cheap, and to brag about it, cheap and slutty.
The fact that she is an older women....makes it morso, she should have learned to have a bit of decorum and class at the age of 65.

She is giving interviews to be noticed, so no one should complain because people here have noticed and commented.

That's my opinion, and it's also my opinion that the Carol supporters would think entirely different if an elderly man in the public eye gave several interviews bragging about all the different women he was having sex with.

Some will deny it, probably the same women who would banish a man from the home if he so much as farted.😕

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pointythings · 14/03/2026 13:42

NovemberMorn · 14/03/2026 11:32

Good, because if you read back I made it plain that I regard men AND women as cheap and slutty when they sleep around.
Thats' my opinion, barging in a thread just to call someone nasty names says a lot more about you than me.

Normally I ignore people who do that, but as it's been brought up again I am happy to set you straight.

But a person's opinions speak to the kind of person they are.

Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 12:02

NovemberMorn · 14/03/2026 11:32

Good, because if you read back I made it plain that I regard men AND women as cheap and slutty when they sleep around.
Thats' my opinion, barging in a thread just to call someone nasty names says a lot more about you than me.

Normally I ignore people who do that, but as it's been brought up again I am happy to set you straight.

People who judge someone who is doing no harm to others and is enjoying themselves, deserve to be called out. Stay miserable 😘

NovemberMorn · 14/03/2026 11:32

Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 11:12

Nope I’ll say this to her face too 😂 or anyones.

Good, because if you read back I made it plain that I regard men AND women as cheap and slutty when they sleep around.
Thats' my opinion, barging in a thread just to call someone nasty names says a lot more about you than me.

Normally I ignore people who do that, but as it's been brought up again I am happy to set you straight.

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Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 11:12

JillyComeLately · 12/03/2026 00:06

Keyboard warrior alert.👀

Nope I’ll say this to her face too 😂 or anyones.

Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 11:12

EvieBB · 11/03/2026 18:14

Why is she nasty/vile for saying that? I'm curious...
I was brought up Catholic and taught that it's nasty/vile to sleep around....so it depends on perspective and what is drummed in to you.
I now (thankfully) am more liberal as an adult and think it's up to Carol how many people she sleeps with but I still thinks it's icky/cheap to brag about it.
I don't think that viewpoint makes me nasty/vile.
Please could you share you thought process...

Not because she’s against the bragging part. It was the saying she thinks it’s cheap and slutty to shag around. Basically women aren’t allowed to enjoy themselves without being judged negatively by some. Women putting other women down yet again, it all comes to down to deep seated resentment, jealousy and competition.

JillyComeLately · 12/03/2026 00:06

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Keyboard warrior alert.👀

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 19:16

Dameputtingonabraveface · 11/03/2026 19:08

Whilst I have absolutely no issue with older women having a sex life (I am an older woman, unfortunately without one) and agree the world should not be revolted or shocked by the concept of women enjoying sex and being attractive until their dying day, I find Carol Voderman pretty laughable. I know it has become 'her thing' to promote older women as sexual beings, but I really do not care about her sexlife, several friends with benefits or obvious and attention seeking. It just all seems very forced, and separate from the reality of women who are quietly finding new relationships in their 50s etc and having a lovely time. No need for an inflated bottom and boobs shoved into lycra or leather and screaming about your sex life like a teenager.

Agreed, which is why I mentioned age in the OP....she should know better.
I find it hard to understand why so many women on here get very triggered when age is mentioned. Getting old should be seen as a blessing, it's far better than the alternative.

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Dameputtingonabraveface · 11/03/2026 19:08

Whilst I have absolutely no issue with older women having a sex life (I am an older woman, unfortunately without one) and agree the world should not be revolted or shocked by the concept of women enjoying sex and being attractive until their dying day, I find Carol Voderman pretty laughable. I know it has become 'her thing' to promote older women as sexual beings, but I really do not care about her sexlife, several friends with benefits or obvious and attention seeking. It just all seems very forced, and separate from the reality of women who are quietly finding new relationships in their 50s etc and having a lovely time. No need for an inflated bottom and boobs shoved into lycra or leather and screaming about your sex life like a teenager.

JellyCatsOnToast · 11/03/2026 18:31

Carol made her sex life the business of people like OP. She don’t have to share this info with us.

I’m young enough to be CV’s granddaughter and it’s just cringeworthy and attention-seeking, like what I did at 15 (that still gives me pangs of mortification).

To see a 65 year old woman thinking this is a flex is embarrassing.

She must have discovered sex at least 50 years ago, she can’t seriously think this is impressing anyone? If she genuinely enjoys having multiple lovers, then enjoy it in private.

EvieBB · 11/03/2026 18:14

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Why is she nasty/vile for saying that? I'm curious...
I was brought up Catholic and taught that it's nasty/vile to sleep around....so it depends on perspective and what is drummed in to you.
I now (thankfully) am more liberal as an adult and think it's up to Carol how many people she sleeps with but I still thinks it's icky/cheap to brag about it.
I don't think that viewpoint makes me nasty/vile.
Please could you share you thought process...

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 11/03/2026 17:43

It should be a private thing and not for public consumption. I find it a bit “ohhh look at mee” - attention seeking behaviour. She should focus on showcasing her maths skills instead of down grading herself.

Erin1975 · 11/03/2026 17:19

As far as I know she is single, her kids are grown up and she has so much money she probably doesn't have to work unless she wants to. She must have a lot of free time and if a very active sex life makes her happy then good for her.

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 17:16
  1. And others agree with me, but that's neither here nor there...I accept people have different opinions.
  2. As the thread is still going, some posters are obviously interested in Carols love life, even if some do think she is fibbing.
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Bristolandlazy · 11/03/2026 17:13

No it should be banned. I don't understand this thread, it's none of my business or anyone else's. I can't relate to to friend's with benefits but I don't care what she does.

pointythings · 11/03/2026 17:08

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 17:02

It's not that uncomfortable that I can't speak for myself without a backup.😏

I don't need backup either. But you may have noticed that a lot of people 1) disagree with you, or 2) are quite keen on keeping their noses out of people's sex lives.

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 17:02

pointythings · 11/03/2026 14:11

There are quite a few people who agree that it's ageist, sexist and prurient to slate someone for their sex life. Hence 'us'. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable.

It's not that uncomfortable that I can't speak for myself without a backup.😏

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PolkaDotPorridge · 11/03/2026 14:54

She’s hot mess which makes me sad because I used to like her.

pointythings · 11/03/2026 14:11

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 12:22

Us??
Concentrate on your own posts and the replies I give rather than use a collective 'us'.

There are quite a few people who agree that it's ageist, sexist and prurient to slate someone for their sex life. Hence 'us'. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable.

Hoolieghoul · 11/03/2026 14:08

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 13:06

I've said plenty about the two men you mention when it's been topical, so you can toddle off now and try to think of something to mention that isn't yesterday's news.🤔

Course you have

Thebellistolling · 11/03/2026 13:54

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 12:53

I doubt anyone would give it a second thought whether she was 'sexually active' or not if she didn't keep talking about it.

Probably not! I think that's the likely point, exposure and publicity. Maybe she needs the money for ailing parents or some financial issues.

Who knows?

I genuinely wouldn't like it though.

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 13:06

Hoolieghoul · 11/03/2026 13:01

Just because you claim you would use misogynistic terms to describe men as well as women doesn't mean those terms aren't misogynistic.

I look forward to your threads complaining about how slutty and cheap Charlie Sheen and Tom Jones are. Toddle off and start them now.

I've said plenty about the two men you mention when it's been topical, so you can toddle off now and try to think of something to mention that isn't yesterday's news.🤔

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Hoolieghoul · 11/03/2026 13:01

NovemberMorn · 11/03/2026 12:50

I think her behaviour is tacky, and the fact she needs to keep talking about it tackier.
The other words I have used to describe both women AND men, so I'm afraid the misogynistic title doesn't work.

Once more I will say it....when a man in the public eye chooses to keep banging on about how many females he has on the go....I will have the same opinion.
I also know for a fact that some of the women who are cheering Carol on will be pearl clutching and calling him all the bastards under the sun.

Just because you claim you would use misogynistic terms to describe men as well as women doesn't mean those terms aren't misogynistic.

I look forward to your threads complaining about how slutty and cheap Charlie Sheen and Tom Jones are. Toddle off and start them now.