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…to want my cake tin back?!

156 replies

GimmeMyCakeTin · 07/03/2026 17:00

DH made a cake a while ago that he took to his sister’s, in the baking tin 🙄 he left the tin there. I then went to make a cake a few weeks later and couldn’t find the tin anywhere, which was very irritating as I was mid way through baking. Realised what had happened, and that he’d obviously left it at his sister’s. It’s a 20cm cake tin, but a good quality one.

Anyway, he met up with his sister yesterday and she gave him the tin back - but it’s not my one! It’s a cheap poundland one! Just thin aluminium, not my nice thick one.

Is it ridiculously petty to ask for mine back? It’s the same size, so I can imagine it would look petty. But not all cake tins are created equal! Maybe I am being unreasonably irritated about this. What would you do? Would you accept the tin with a smile? Would you say something? Am I being unreasonable?

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EverythingGolden · 07/03/2026 17:06

Of course it isn’t unreasonable. Just say SIL sorry I think you’ve got mixed up. That isn’t my cake tin can I have mine back please.

FuriousInventions · 07/03/2026 17:06

I’d be cross too! My cake tins do not leave the house, for this very reason. All cake tins are definitely not created equal. The last person I lent one to, put it in the dishwasher and it’s not been the same since.
Yes, absolutely ask for yours back - and if she’s damaged it/“lost” it, send her a link to one of similar quality that she can order for you.

FOJN · 07/03/2026 17:05

Just tell her she returned the wrong one and ask for yours back. It's not petty to want what belongs to you.

NewPinkJacket · 07/03/2026 17:05

For goodness sake what's wrong with people.

"Hi Vera, you gave us the wrong cake tin. I'll send your brother round on X date to pick ours up. Thanks".

Why the handwringing over something so normal and simple?

GingerPants · 07/03/2026 17:04

Of course you aren't being unreasonable. I agree with @CrustyBread1977.

CrustyBread1977 · 07/03/2026 17:02

Just be matter of fact about it: “Thanks for returning the cake tin, but actually that one’s not mine. Mine is blah blah blah (link to it online if possible) - could you have a look for it?”