To think XH has outdone himself

Did you actually read the op? She wasn’t estranged from the grandfather, the DH just decided to be a dick and not include her in the list of children so the solicitor knew to pay out.

What a knob @BurnoutGP , I’m so sorry.

Estrangement or not is irrelevant. DD1 is legally entitled to inherit under the terms of the will. The ex lied to cheat her out of that inheritance and profit himself. That is fraud, a serious criminal offence.

in this case there was no estrangement from her GF but that is legally entirely irrelevant.

FFS how many more peeps are going to parrot the same response to socks rmisreading something? I should think after so many repeats she has got the message and reread.
This is why so many threads fill up with banal twaddle instead of being useful and giving productive advice.

What a helpful comment 🙄

If the ex is residuary beneficiary, if he'd got away with this he would have increased the amount of his inheritance by taking it away from his daughter. It's attempted fraud.

My husband inherited the entirely of his deceased father's estate. They had been estranged since the father walked out and never attempted contact. We saw it as 40 years of back child support and lack of a father in his life.

In my case my aunt got him removed as executor as she could prove he wasn’t executing the will as the deceased intended.

Well ex is in for two nasty shocks one with the daughter and one with the secret family.

Can I suggest that anyone who posted about socks1107 comment AFTER 07:31 today filter socks’ comments and read them all?
They have admitted they misread it and apologised!!

That's rubbish. Read the post! She wasn't estranged from her grandfather, just from her father. Who deliberately tried to deprive her of her inheritance - and bypass his own father's wishes. That's sheer spite on his part. Poor girl.

It’s not the same thing, but when my paternal grandmother died, my father told my mother she had wanted to change her will to include me (long backstory, Father had lied stating I wasn’t his child. I look very like her and when she finally met me, aged 5, she realised I was in fact his daughter.) She died shortly after, will unchanged. Father kept it all, gave neither me or my struggling mother (raising me with not a bean from him) not one penny. What a piece of work some of these me are!

Why involve the police it's for the solicitor to deal with isn't it? I don't think a crime has been committed.

Did you read it properly before jumping in there?

Hard disagree. The law is the law.

DD1 had a relationship with the grandfather. OP has said that she spent more time with him than the other grandchildren did. The will left £5k to all the grandchildren. OP's abusive ex-husband deliberately failed to provide the details of DD1 to the solicitors.

Clearly you did NOT read the post .! Honestly !

It’s more than nasty and petty, it is actually criminal fraud. You say that a specific gift of £5,000 was willed to all grandchildren. By omitting DD1 from the list of his DC, your ex has increased the value of the residual estate which was presumably left to him and any siblings he has.

Has the solicitor confirmed DD1 will now receive her legacy? They can recover it from those who received the residue of the estate even if the estate has been fully distributed. They should also report your ex to the police. I would consider doing that myself if the solicitor fails to.

Nonsense. She can expect the money to be left to her will come to her. If that was not what her grandfather wanted, he could have changed his will. She should not expect that her father will lie about her existence - especially when it means that in effect, if he is residuary beneficiary, he will be stealing the money her grandfather intended for her.

Please feel free to ignore responders who ask why you had two kids with this man etc ... emotional and physical abuse in intimate relationships are not well understood so some people can say some quite ignorant things.

I think your daughter would do well to talk to a therapist about this. There will be a lot for her to process.

Yes she can. The Grandfather's will stated 5k should be left to ALL his grandchildren and he didn't name them individually my name, so there is no evidence he intended to leave her out.

The girl's father and/or the executor has taken it upon themselves to choose not to divulge the existence of his older daughter to the probate solicitor. That's probably illegal actually. It's not for him to decide whether her rightful inheritance should be withheld or not.

He sounds like a real arsehole narcissist- your poor dd is better off without him but it does hurt them (my ex is similar and is no longer in contact with our dd but is with our son). Though I did think that perhaps the grandad wasn’t really the best guy either with the whole “secret family” which it sounds like exH also did… generational trauma and all that. I know that as much as my exH is a horrible guy, he is a product of the things in life that he went through resulting in what I believe to be a severe attachment disorder. People generally aren’t born bad… but if they’re broken they can hurt others sadly.

Of course she can, it was left to her in a will.

I expect she thought ‘this man’s awful, I know I’ll have two kids with him. That’ll make life so much better’

Or maybe she didn’t realise what a monumental shit he was at that time.

How come you decided to ask that question? What answer were you expecting/ looking for?

This is awful, your poor daughter. She's going to need therapy/counselling to help her deal with the feelings around having a father that treats her like this. I'd recommend starting now if she hasn't already, better to just get going and give her the tools to move on in her own way. She will be grateful for her strength in standing up for herself at such a young age in time but she's going to need support to feel that

Read the OP.