To think XH has outdone himself

This

I would view this as a positive. Theres nothing worse than having doubts about whether being no contact is the right choice, this solidifies her understanding of his personality and will hopefully avoid her being manipulated into being used by him as he ages and likely then tries to guilt trip her for support.

The solicitor does sound behind the times. The law firm I work for uses a company for ID checks and we frequently check people living abroad. A link is sent to them by email. Not sure how the proof of address would work but presumably there's a way.

Would solicitor accept an online call where dd could show her passport?

Petty stalling tactic to cause upset. He knew she would find out through her sister so done it deliberately

The solicitor should have done a family history search using a genealogy company to check that they had all beneficiaries and not relied on one person from the family stating who is entitled

Hey technical IFA here. Your daughter is in a 'class' of beneficiaries so equally entitled legally to her grandfather's estate. I assume your ex is the executor? If so, and he is not acting as per the will he's in breach of his fiduciary duty and can be held liable legally. Write a formal letter, then instruct a solicitor if necessary

The ex’s actions constitute fraud whether or not he was the executor of the will. He made a false statement to obtain monetary benefit. That is the definition of fraud.

She had a relationship with her grandfather. It says so in the OP

She is also stating DD1 needs to have her identity document confirmed abroad at an embassy (near impossible DD1 is in rural Asia) they say they have no means to do this electronically. I only live in Europe BurnoutGP and I sometimes find it difficult to follow the demands of the UK government,
I have also lived Asia maybe there is a Europe doctor/school etc who can verify her papers. It is for her security. Otherwise for such a sum she should make a little holiday to the nearest place that the solicitor agrees to.

When my parents died their will stated that the monies be divided equally between their 4 DGC and they named them, however because the will was five years old it did not name the last DGC. The solicitor wrote to the the four who were named and because they agreed the money was split 5 ways instead of 4. This meant less for the original four but they were in agreement that it was fair.

Regarding *BurnoutGP *maybe paying out for DD1 would mean less in the kitty for ex.

Most firms require that originals of ID be seen by them, or certified by someone else with appropriate professional standing. There are a few software products, for example thirdfort, but most firms don’t have access to those as the alternative works and they don’t want the additional costs burden (which is significant and cannot be recharged to clients). I appreciate it is frustrating and they sound at the more formal end of the spectrum but the requirements are certainly not outwith the normal range.
As an alternative they can hold on to the cash til your daughter is back, if you would prefer.

They need to see that person exists as well. Probably why they are asking for her to go to an embassy to have someone official verify who she is. Especially as she is not named in the will, only listed as grandchild.

If a solicitor is involved, I doubt XH is an executor. Perhaps grandfather selected a solicitor in the hope that the will would be executed to the letter. Which seems sensible given the complicated backstory to this family. I am surpirsed that noone else has been involved to verify who was to benefit from the will.

I am an executor of my mum's estate and things are rarely as straight forward as they seem.

Did you read the post ?

If he was set to financially benefit from his fraud - do make sure he is reported.

No doubt so the money grubber could get the extra £5k himself. What an utter creep. But look on the bright side, this is utter validation that her no contact is exactly the right way to behave towards him. Hope her sister takes note.

Did you not read it?! The op said DD1 visited the GP regularly. It was his will and money, not her dad's!

@socks1107 58 times mentioned on the thread.* *Socks may not have read the OP correctly and apologised for it early on, but the irony, the number of posters who have kept banging on, obviously not reading the thread.

Did you read…she did have relationship with gf. More so than younger dd2 who was notified

her inheritance has nothing whatsoever to do with her father, especially if he’s not executor. He’s not the one who died

I do see it is not responsibility of father to tell solicitor all the grandchildren’s name, and leave out his estranged daughter. That’s why there is a period between probate granted, when will becomes public, and distribution of assets that is strongly recommended by office of probate. For 6-10 months, For people like the daughter to see the will and come forward as beneficiary. I’m surprised the solicitor, as executor, didn’t do a check up on this himself. If father was executor or joint executor and failed to make contact with someone re his estranged daughter entitlement, then that would be potentially fraud, if daughter could prove he was trying to deliberately remove her from her benefits.

Everyone seems to be speaking as though the XH is the executor - but that doesn't seem to be the case does it? (Sorry if I've missed OP saying that he is.)

Surely the solicitor is the executor? That's why OP's DD is having to prove ID to them. If the XH was the executor, he'd be the one sending out cheques or whatever and distributing the estate.

In which case the solicitor has asked the XH for the names of the grandchildren just so they have the information and can distribute - not because the XH has a role as an executor.

I'd still say this means the XH has committed fraud, but it doesn't mean OP has to avoid "rocking the boat" or maintaining leverage over the XH, as it's not him but the solicitor who's in charges of giving DD her share (and has a legal duty to do so).

1. it was the grandfather not the father

2. if shes been left it in the will, it doesn't matter if she has a relationship or not.

No it’s not. It has to be done correctly.

I think you are out of order not telling the solicitor that you believe there are other grandchildren. You are withholding information in the same way as XH who you condemn.

I can't imagine the solicitor is making the process more difficult than necessary. You need to go along with their requests.

She wasn't estranged from the grandfather though. OP even stated in her post that she bothered more with the grandfather than the grandchild who was contacted to claim her inheritance