Confronted mum speeding in nursery carpark - husband embarrassed

Well the husband was not the one speeding the only one at fault here is the idiot who didnt care about anyone else

Well done for saying something, sometimes people just don't think and sounds like the speeding mum didn't think. She may do in future though hopefully.

Your partner was a bit of a wimp tbh.. cared more about saving face than the possibility of a kid being hurt.

Firstly, thank you for going to speak to her. She's an obnoxious twat with her happy Friday bullshit but that's not your problem, it's hers. She might be so irritated by the whole thing that it will stick in her mind and she will inadvertently be more cautious in there.

Secondly, even if your husband wasn't behind your actions he should not have publicly shamed you like that. What a tosser.

Unless he's generally a knob I'd forget about it now though.

Telling her to slow down and pointing at the speed limit sign is cringeworthy in my view. It’s like you’re her manager or parent or something. You telling her would have irritated the hell out of her not made her go home and do a speed awareness course!

I think you 100% done the right thing

Good for you and hopefully she will think twice about such a dangerous and selfish idiot! No one has any reason to risk lives because they're in a rush. I see it too often, people speeding, screeching round corners, overtaking, all in places like schools and hospitals. It's a disgraceful entitled attitude they're more important.

Looking at driving safely, basically being in a weaponised machine, imagine hurting/killing someone because you were too wrapped up in your own world of rushing. Thay moment will change yoir life forever, was it worth it being a few seconds earlier?

You definitely did the right thing . My husband is non confrontational but would have been pleased that I spoke up! I approached a parent a couple of years ago parked next to my car who hadn’t strapped her child into car seat! I knocked on her window and ‘reminded’ her . She was actually ok about it.

Yes.

Wasn't even going to do it himself.
Never saw his wife at drop off so not sure when he was expecting it would happen.
The child was sat in the front of the vehicle without even a booster seat too.

Sounds like he needs to grow up

I wish I was brave as you. I would just sit and scowl at her and not say anything 🤣

Well done to you. When I was pregnant with DD (18 in a few weeks) a 2yr old boy was killed in our nursery car park and it was devastating. It only takes a minute.

“Happy Friday!” What a passive aggressive twunty reply.

He threatened you with a slap from his wife, they sound like a classy pair.

You did nothing wrong @ConflictedBeagle

you need to have a quiet word with your H and tell him that he has no right whatsoever to try to humiliate you by dragging your child into situations that HE himself finds embarrassing or whatever

reiterate that you very much did the right thing, and you’d do it again if you saw it happen again.

ffs, I can think of more than one person has been killed in school run parking situations that I’ve heard of.

tell your h that you find his sensitivity a massive let down and you expect more backing than this.

Good on you. She needed telling.

She sounds like a knob. Good on you, OP.

Oh, and I'll bet she's feeling worse than you are tonight, because she knows she was a knob. Hopefully now she knows she's been caught out, she won't do it again.

Whilst it is a selfish point of view, I tend to think "how will I feel if I don't say anything and someone is injured or killed?"

That means that I do say something when I witness dangerous behaviour and I don't really care if that is embarrassing for my DH or DDs.

I spoke to a nursery parent before due to them driving on and off the pavement when the children were walking past. He was also driving a high way maintenance lorry, so not even a car.

He took exception to it and on a threatened me ( when my husband was sat next to me in the car) that his wife would slap me.

The nursery were made aware and were great. They agreed with me. They got signs to put outside to try and stop people parking there.

We also had a few pcso visits, and they spoke to anyone parking there to drop off. ( but also had a word with him).

There was a public car park next to the nursery, and while not much space in that street, plenty of space in the next street, about a minute walk.

As far as I was concerned, I had taught my child road safety. I couldn't then argue with her logic that pavements were for people, and cars should be on the road not the pavement.

He was wrong, you were right, precisely because there were children around that could have been hurt. Young kids wouldn’t have had an opinion about what was going on between you and this woman.

I would’ve been embarrassed if my DH had done what you did.

Partner sounds spineless

You are right. I'm sorry you are married to a wimp.