To let dd self initiate potty training?

Of course you have to train (aka teach) her for potty training.
from birth she’s worn a nappy since birth, weeing / pooing in it is completely ingrained in her.
you need to basically reconfigure her brain patterns to not do that anymore.

download the Oh Crap! Potty Training book and dedicate a few days to it. She’ll most likely make the switch pretty easily with some proper guidance. I trained mine at 2yrs1 month. Accidents are to be expected, doesn’t mean they’re not ready. Just means new mental pathways are being developed

Having worked in education for many years, lots of children would and do happily wear nappies at 4. It’s a growing problem (I’m not talking about dc with additional needs)

As you're a teacher I'd do it over the summer.

What you are describing is perfectly normal. You need to tackle each thing at a time.

Mine didn't like potties so I stuck them on the toilet on toddler seats (when I knew they needed to go), while reading to them or distracting them. They can't hold on in that situation. Enormous reward for 'good behaviour' when it happens.

Perpetuated by Pampers.

The concept of readiness was literally invented by the people who sell nappies, OP.

Think about that before you buy into it and give up after a single day.

She’s the perfect age, but cracking it in one day is not realistic. The nightmare scenario is one where you stop now and have a few half arsed attempts. Keep going.

Seriously 😂

You'll have May half term or the whole summer to potty train then!

I have five children. They were all born within 4 years. With my oldest I did all the things - took time off from work to concentrate on potty training, give rewards, etc. He had no interest. It got to the point where it was easier for me just to change the diapers, so I didn't push it. All of my boys were completely trained at 3 years and 3 months with no involvement from me. They were just ready. And when they were trained that was it - they almost never had an accident. One did wear pull ups at night for quite a while but I think that was because he was lazy!

People seem so delusional about how easy potty training is. Yes some kids are pretty good with a few days a week but some kids take months to really get the hang. It's a very complicated a process that can take time. Children are very unlikely to initiate it themselves. Multiple accidents is par for the course early on. Just buy loads of knickers and trousers and crack on. Expect more washing. For my LO going commando was the way we cracked it. Knickers felt too much like nappies.

Not really sure why you’ve asked when you’ve already decided and are so confident about it. I’d give it another try in a few months if she doesn’t ask before then, but obvs if you want to wait until right before school she’s your kid and you no her best.

Nursery will be on board with it, just send her in with loads of spares. And don’t worry too much. Agree with others you need to spend some dedicated time working on this with her.

We trained DC at 2.5, when we went on holiday for a week, gave a chance to start bedding in the changes with only ourselves impacted in the event of an accident (there were loads when we were out and about, all part of the process).

if you leave it to your child, what will be driving them to initiate it?

Assuming this is your first DC, it’s so much better when they can use the loo themselves.

How old is she? Both my daughters basically decided themselves when to stop wearing nappies. Eldest was 2 and half and told me friend at nursery doesn’t wear nappies anymore and she didn’t want to either.
Second one basically went off, took her nappy off, put knickers on and told me she wasn’t wearing them anymore. She was 3.
We had potties around and both saw me and dad go to the toilet. I realise I am very lucky in this scenario and this is not the norm but it can happen!

Some kids absolutely do if their parents aren’t trying

I think the myth that if they don't crack it within a day or have accidents that they're not ready is a very harmful one.

How old is she? How’s she going to ‘self initiate’? Do you just mean waiting until she shows interest?

I was a nanny for a child who had been left until 5, waiting for her to show initiative. She was very happy in nappies. Modern nappies are so good at wicking away the wet feeling that they are far more comfortable than wet pants.

Easter is coming. Take that time to get it done. Bribery is the way

It is completely normal to have lots of accidents at first, it’s a hard skill to learn. You’ll need to carve out a few days at home with her to really give it a go though, agree with PPs that sending her to nursery isn’t really potty training - especially sending her in on day 2. We’ve day trained DS now, I was really worried about how it was going to go as he has an expressive speech delay but he’s been brilliant. We did the Oh Crap method (minus shaming any accidents, which we were just matter of fact about). First couple of days were rough, but he soon got it. Just need to night and nap train him now but he’s almost there as it is to be honest, 9 times out of 10 his training pants are dry in the morning now.

Take a weeks annual leave and potty train your kid. How lazy not to.

Hahaha, yes she may. I had a nightmare pottery training DS he was over 4 1/2 before he finally got it or was finally preswaded into it. Had to have help from the health visitor and GP, they don't all just suddenly decide they don't want to wear nappies (he has no SEN before anyone asks).

I'd already potty trained DD so he wasn't my first either. You do actually have to spend time training them, if she had a bad day today it doesn't mean she can't do it. Being at nursery was probably distracting, which is fine but accidents are to be expected to start with.

It all depends on how old she is. If she has just turned 2 then yes it's fine to wait, if she is 3 and shows no interest then you need to initiate it

How old is she? Wait till Easter when you have a long weekend or book a Monday/Friday off work.

Potty training takes time.

Nursery usually helps.

How old is your dd op?

It does take time, I've just took it very slowly with my 2.5 year old son, he was just turning two when we started. He's a master now. Think bigger picture.

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