To let dd self initiate potty training?

Its a completely new experience for a toddler who up to now has peed and pooped at will without interrupting what she's doing, and involves sitting on a cold pot.

No toddler that I know has magically 'got it' after being introduced to the idea one day before.

If other parents are telling you that's how their children managed it, they're lying or they're trying to erase their own memories of what a slog it was.

School run put pull ups on or a towel in the buggy if you'd rather do it while her brothers not at home?
With my second we did a lot of wet proofing stuff like buggy and car seat with towels or puppy pads because we couldn't be home all day. He famously pissed all over a friend which was pretty awkward!

Or park it a for a bit!

Eldest was trained by 3. He was a grumpy about it but got it within a couple of weeks.
Middle dc basically whipped nappy off at 2 and refused to wear it anymore
Youngest is a blur. But we used cloth nappies with 2 and 3 whoch really helped with them feeling wet

You haven't failed at all, and nor has she.

If its easier to leave it a while and put her back in nappies, do that.

I really do think your friends are truth stretchers!! Almost everyone I know spent a week or so at home or locally, and it took an average of 3 weeks to be mostly there with it.

That's just rude if you read the rest of my comments.

I think the OP has unrealistic expectations set by friends who have either lied, forgotten or trained vvv late.

It's the problem we create for ourselves in the so-called Western countries, where we stick babies in plastic nappies, teach them nothing at all about natural elimination and expect them to learn in some weeks after 2-3 years of never having to worry about it.

So basically, we destroy their natuiral instinct as babies, and then we expect them to learn "naturally" as children.

We are the only society which ends up with children with massive psychiological elimination issues, such as encopresis, due to this utterly stupid way to "toilet-train".

Ignore the unhelpful comments OP, some people just love to pile on!

‘Waiting until they are ready’ is a concept promoted by disposable nappy manufacturers, purely to increase their sales. Most children can be potty trained by 2, if you introduce the potty slowly from about 8 months. There’s no need to make a big deal of it, just sit them on the potty for 5 minutes each day, congratulate them if/when they do anything. They then just get used to the potty, they know what it’s for, and there’s no active teaching. No fuss. No angst. No sticker charts. They just figure it out by themselves.

However, if you’ve missed this window and now have an active toddler that’s still in nappies you need to be more proactive and encourage her to use the potty. Everytime you go to the toilet, take her and get her to try going on the potty at the same time. Be positive, encourage rather than instruct.

But no, you can’t just wait to see if she’ll decide to do it by herself.

Just stick at it. DD was having accidents multiple times a day and then, suddenly, it clicked.

Ds figured it out when we were away on holiday with my parents, my dad had bladder problems so every time my dad went to the toilet while we were out he took ds with him, we had daytime cracked in 5 days.

YABU to think you can 'give it a try' and send her off the next day.

Get a few books on potty training and accept it will take a lot of work on your part to teach this new habit.

Learn to spot signs of readiness - wakes from nap with dry nappy, seeks out a private place to poo in the nappy, shows curiosity about what you're doing in the bathroom when you use the loo...

You will need to prepare your child well ahead of training, by letting her go with you when you use the loo, narrating what you're doing there and why, and there are many books on the market about learning to use the potty that you should read with her.

Park the training for now and do it when you feel better x

I didn’t potty train mine. I mean, I intended to but she initiated it herself. So that can happen. Could you wait until the summer hols and have a good go then?

I let my daughter initiate it. She went straight to using the toilet and barely had any accidents. This was when she was 2y 10m and she’s been dry through the night since she turned 3 with no bedtime accidents whatsoever. We’ve maybe been lucky, but it felt so effortless letting her decide herself

If she was relieved to have a nappy back on maybe just wait until the summer. Also some children do have a lot of accidents so don't worry too much of the first few days are hit and miss. DD2 showed no interest in training or signs of being ready so I just decided to train her age 3. She was happy to try, not scared or upset or anything but it took her a couple of weeks to fully crack it.

You're doing the right thing by putting her on the potty when she wees. Even if she's done, pop her on for a few seconds so she links the sensation.

Sorry my message was possibly abrasive. If you consider Thursday that sounds led by her, Friday doesn't really count so you're one day in.

You're not lazy at all. I think almost all posters have said that it takes time and effort and it's not particularly fun or enjoyable.

You might be best to give up and try in a solid block over Easter.

You do seem very down about everything. Are things OK elsewhere in your life?

I'm not being harsh here at all but I don't read any of what you have done as really trying. As in you being proactive about either putting her on the potty, or watching her (apologies if I am wrong and you have been, and this was the result). Friday at nursery doesn't count, she needs to have more success at home before trying at nursery imo.

I'm not t trying to argue. Potty training is shit and the 3 days is 3 intense days of watching like a hawk and hope the links are starting to be forged. It's not 3 days to be done. Took us more like 2 weeks (teacher here too who did it over Christmas).

You either know liars, people with rose tinted glasses or people who left it ridiculously late. Ignore them.