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Ex threatening to move back into house

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April2013 · 06/03/2026 13:20

Separated from angry volatile ex a year ago, he moved out about 6 months ago. We have kids. He is threatening to move back in - no financial settlement yet or divorce house in both names. Do I just call the police? How do I get an occupation order? Worried will happen this evening. Any advice would be amazing thanks so much.

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LVhandbagsatdawn · 06/03/2026 13:35

BillieWiper · 06/03/2026 13:33

That her abuser who has moved out due to DV is now threatening to force his way into the house against her consent and she's terrified as he's violent?

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Where did OP mention violence or DV?

Assuming there's not any orders already in place, her consent is irrelevant in this instance as it's his house too. He doesn't need her consent to access his property.

BillieWiper · 06/03/2026 13:33

TallulahBetty · 06/03/2026 13:29

Ring and say what? He is trying to enter the house that is legally just as much his as it is hers?

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That her abuser who has moved out due to DV is now threatening to force his way into the house against her consent and she's terrified as he's violent?

TallulahBetty · 06/03/2026 13:29

BillieWiper · 06/03/2026 13:24

Yes ring the police. Get the locks changed now if you haven't already.
Do not answer the door to him or speak to him if he comes other than to say you've called the police and firmly to go away.

Ring and say what? He is trying to enter the house that is legally just as much his as it is hers?

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TallulahBetty · 06/03/2026 13:29

You need legal advice. You cannot keep him out of his house, same as he cannot do with you. Obviously, if he does anything illegal, you can call the police.

LVhandbagsatdawn · 06/03/2026 13:27

Moonnstarz · 06/03/2026 13:26

Surely if it's his house too then you can't just change the locks.
I would seek legal advice.

Well OP could change the locks but he could change them again if he so chose. So I'd not waste time and money pursuing this route.

LVhandbagsatdawn · 06/03/2026 13:26

You can ring the police but unless there's something in place or a documented history of abuse there isn't likely to be anything they can do.

You could change the locks, but equally he'd also have a right to call a locksmith to get him access.

Your best bet is going to be to telephone a solicitor.

Moonnstarz · 06/03/2026 13:26

Surely if it's his house too then you can't just change the locks.
I would seek legal advice.

BillieWiper · 06/03/2026 13:24

Yes ring the police. Get the locks changed now if you haven't already.
Do not answer the door to him or speak to him if he comes other than to say you've called the police and firmly to go away.

MNOP · 06/03/2026 13:21

Did you ever raise anything with the police about previous DV?

Unfortunately he has the same legal right to be in the house as you do.

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