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Dd doesn't want to go back to school after giving birth

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LighterDays · 06/03/2026 10:26

Reposting from Education forum in hopes to get more advice/experiences

You might remember me from my other threads but I've name changed again as I've posted some outing things.

My DD is 15 and she gave birth 2 nearly 3 weeks ago. She is supposed to be in year 10 and attended school up until Christmas, she had a horrible few weeks with her ex and his friends bullying her, name calling and he’d wait outside her classes to try and talk to her when she told him she didn't want to talk to him and it was quite intimidating to her. School weren't very supportive about this and it caused her a lot of stress so she didn't go in the last week or 2 but he isn't at the school now

Anyway after Christmas she was on what would probably be maternity leave, she studied at home though but since baby has been here she obviously hasn't. We never chatted about when she’d go back with the school or anything they just said let them know and keep them updated

She has said now she doesn't want to go back after Easter (he will only be 8 or 9 weeks old so I don't really blame her) so I don't think she will go back until September and even then she is sorta worried about leaving him from like 7:45 am (she left this time to get the bus) until nearly 4pm at 7 months but I guess that's how all parents feel

I'm just worried about how behind she will be in her GCSE year as she will have missed so much. I know 14+ colleges are a thing, I don't know if there are any locally but it would also help if it were more flexible rather than 8:30-3 days 5 days a week. I'd be caring for him most likely as that was agreed and I don't mind I just want her to do well.

If you/your dc have any experience of these colleges can you tell me know what its like? Also any advice in general would be appreciated

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 06/03/2026 10:34

Can you delay talking about it until the summer holidays? Just enjoy the baby stage, she probably isn't up to thinking clearly anyway - congratulations to you all x

Catecatecate · 06/03/2026 10:32

Hi I gave birth at 16 just over 8 years ago now. I had a year out of education to raise my child and then went back at 17 when my child was almost one, most colleges these days have nurseries. Even if she doesn’t go back in time for GCSEs she can still go to college and start at a level one course and work her way up. Or study for GCSEs at home and then do the test at a testing centre

sashaski · 06/03/2026 10:27

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