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Do I live with an arsehole?

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Vcal2017 · 06/03/2026 06:14

I don’t know if the language will offend. I’m in a bar having a drink and I rarely drink so who knows?
My son 17 is in his last year of high school. He’s a smart kid. He’s very politically motivated. He’s very active in a high schoolers for Palestine group.
He went out last night until 10.45 with this group despite needing to be on site at school for 9. They count attendance even though he just has study periods and 1 formal class .
He doesn’t understand that I am concerned for his safety at night, or the impact on his schooling. This is a weekly thing. He turns 18 in June.
AIBU: you should be grateful he’s not doing drugs and hanging around a park.
YANBU: his results will impact the rest of his life and it’s a safety issue to be wandering the streets at 10.30 in a Black Flag t shirt.

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JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 06/03/2026 06:29

I don’t see a problem with the time he got home. What does he do with the group he meets up with? If they’re just aimlessly wandering the streets I wouldn’t be happy with that. But if they’re meeting to discuss and debate political issues I don’t have a problem with that. Is his once a week outside interest really having an impact on his schoolwork? Or is it that you don’t agree with his politics?

Marwoodsbigbreak · 06/03/2026 06:27

DallazMajor · 06/03/2026 06:21

No but he does.

Wins the thread!

Robertplantgoddess · 06/03/2026 06:23

It sounds like his behaviour is absolutely fine. He comes home at 10.45 and engages with school.
At 17 this is absolutely nothing. Your anxiety about him being out late won't magically stop when he is 18 so that's more on you than him.
Is he missing school the next day?
Also not sure of the relevance of high schoolers for Palestine but that may be on me.

DallazMajor · 06/03/2026 06:21

No but he does.

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 06/03/2026 06:21

What does the group actually do? Not particularly nice to call him an arsehole…

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