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Pillow, pillows, PILLOWS!

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TheBeaTgoeson1 · 05/03/2026 19:31

Am I being unreasonable in that I can never find the perfect pillow!

Even when I sleep somewhere, and look at the exact pillow, and buy the same thing, it never seems to be the same, so I’m asking for help, can anyone hit me with your perfect pillow suggestions?

… and yes, I understand they are individual! But I’m looking for something that’s plump but soft, and keeps it shape.

Also, does anybody else really struggle to get the perfect pillow?

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Anyahyacinth · 06/03/2026 01:09

GrateWay · 05/03/2026 20:16

Reading this all intently.

Fell down a pillow rabbit hole last year and almost bought this, which a few were recommendeding as an alternative to cervical pillows:

https://browfarmonlinestore.co.uk/products/organic-buckwheat-pillow-standard-size

Wondering now if I should just go for it. My current pillow is ok-ish.

Loved mine, my only question was how often to replace them

SnowFrogJelly · 06/03/2026 00:59

Following

thatsthatsaidthemayor · 06/03/2026 00:54

Wool filled one. Fool or similar

Oohd · 06/03/2026 00:53

BatsInHibernation · 05/03/2026 19:41

Oh I have such a crunchy perimenopausal neck and shoulder pain! I shall scuttle off down this cervical pillow rabbit hole immediately.

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I had a neck and shoulder injury and bought the most amazing neck pillow of Amazon. I took it to Australia for my holiday. So worth using the baggage room 😂Shall look for the make tomorrow.

PickAChew · 06/03/2026 00:40

I bought this one, last year. I stack it with a cheap, firmer pillow, when I need to. Feather and down no good for me, due to allergies.

You might like this at John Lewis:
https://www.johnlewis.com/bedfolk-down-alternative-standard-pillow-soft/p110553332?sshare=jlappdroid

StarCourt · 06/03/2026 00:33

I have been on a hunt for my perfect pillow for a least 10 years. I have spent a fortune o. Pillows which just aren’t right. Memory foam, wool, removable inserts, cervical pillow, sprung pillow, squishmallow pillow, water pillow. I get very bad neck pain which radiates to my shoulders and often turns into a migraine. I’m still searching…

JellyBeanSpring25 · 06/03/2026 00:08

Sunshineandrainbows23 · 05/03/2026 21:35

Another Princess and the Pea here! Tried sooo many pillows!

This is the best I've found as a side sleeper.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/MULISOFT-comfortable-supportive-ergonomic-sleeper/dp/B0D83CDPYC/ref=mp_s_a_1_19?crid=26T007K79B1Q&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZZFS9lm8j8ZBRs6uMb-dfR64J8PdV7TQyblZliND7LnJL-Tubocv15X4HTBRbFIeZqFC6YWVdH8Z_SGdcWOUXs1GDhoA7ocQkjKFkMFDttQTO1vuufRFHa85BKnrmh5Bzasx09DODDAwUuaHQiB20y_JaZT3_zUril0qpgXbruSI-oRZ5ee274K42fJg3ZU1_qRaJOg1erQcEr84vBNGgQ.w-bpd8R0Iacw8eKDKm_hVvc6iggIrrPo8InnMnOniZ8&dib_tag=se&keywords=pillow&qid=1772745934&sprefix=pillow%2Caps%2C265&sr=8-19#averageCustomerReviewsAnchor

This is the exact one I bought about 6-weeks ago and it’s fab! Sleep so much better, I was astonished. Only wish I could find a cover with the popper in to use while it’s in the wash.

toddlertoenail · 06/03/2026 00:03

I am peeved with my current replacement (like for like!) V pillow I got in December as it’s gone totally out of shape and unsupportive. Pained literally to buy another one this quick - I usually replace it every 6 months 🥴

Morepositivemum · 05/03/2026 23:53

For me it’s just a modern pillow thing. They just all seem too puffy!

HollywentLightly · 05/03/2026 23:50

FizzingAda · 05/03/2026 19:36

I've tried,so many pillows - I had a frozen shoulder, so if I sleep on my side with my shoulder hunched it niggles it. Feather pillows tend to flatten during the night so you wake up with your neck to one side and achey. I've found that a pillow with a central dip helps and I've got a memory foam one that helps a!ot and prevents neck ache, it it’s a bit long front to back and is a bit too firm, so still searching for the perfect one. Best of luck!

Could you please share you pillow? My shoulder has started freezing and I can't sleep the way my other, previously frozen, shoulder prefers at the moment so they are both aching 😔

JoanThursday · 05/03/2026 23:34

Another one with a tempur cloud pillow. It feels like a sack of sand (and just as heavy) but I really wouldn't be without it now.

I bought it about 4.5 years ago when I had a horrendous frozen shoulder and stiff neck. It took a few nights to get used to it I can't even begin to tell you what a difference it's made. And now dh has bought one after trying mine out.

They're a bit of an investment , but it's basically cost me 5p per night so far. A small price to pay in my book.

TEMPUR® Classic Pillows | TEMPUR® UK https://share.google/tkHDSnB9lXRcxYNUk

Classic Pillows

Tempur

https://uk.tempur.com/pillows/browse-by-collection/classic-pillows/?_gl=1*bqxm4h*_up*MQ..*_gs*MQ..&gclid=Cj0KCQiA8KTNBhD_ARIsAOvp6DILK6d2lbC3HJqbnmXaj55NMEdSXofrCIhtvXpvEz6nwVfSPC0DQ94aAu98EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

ticktock19 · 05/03/2026 23:14

I was sceptical but this has been an absolute game changer and has even stopped me grinding my teeth as I’ve relaxed when sleeping, we’ve bought extra cubes from Amazon and it’s brilliant

https://simbasleep.com/products/simba-hybrid-pillow

Hybridâ„¢ Pillow

With adjustable height & firmness, plus Stratos cooling technology, the Simba Hybrid Pillow is a must for a good night's sleep. Machine washable. Free delivery.

https://simbasleep.com/products/simba-hybrid-pillow

LittleArithmetics · 05/03/2026 23:12

Does anyone know where to buy a cheap thin pillow? Just a normal pillow, nothing fancy, but thin.

I have an orthopedic pillow which I love, and under it I have a thin normal pillow, around 5cm thick, which makes the height perfect. All good. But DH is jealous of my thin pillow and would like similar for his setup. When I look for thin pillows, I can find memory foam ones and expensive ones with special features, but really the requirement is just for a basic thin pillow, and I can't find it.

landlordhell · 05/03/2026 22:57

Ophir · 05/03/2026 22:47

I did not like the premier inn ones

Oh I do! Going to order them now. Thanks PP!

Thedogscollar · 05/03/2026 22:57

goz · 05/03/2026 19:42

The dunlopillo is the perfect pillow.

💯 Love my Dunlopillo it's perfect.

landlordhell · 05/03/2026 22:51

I want a squishy, bouncy pillow. I like 2. They always turn into pancakes. I worry about down as some birds are live- plucked .Check for responsible production!

Ophir · 05/03/2026 22:47

I did not like the premier inn ones

Matildahoney · 05/03/2026 22:33

Jamfirstnotcream · 05/03/2026 19:34

This has been my lifelong search
Marks and Spencer Duck feather and Down
£39.50
One set firm one set medium
Heaven

I will second these (I haven't rtft so I'm sure others may have already)

Fluffywabbits · 05/03/2026 22:33

Same here. Spent an absolute fortune on all sorts of pillows including expensive goose down ones from John Lewis.

I ended up buying Premier Inn firm ones from the PI website. They're made by silentnight but I've found them much better than any of the many silentnight ones I've bought elsewhere. They're among the cheapest of the pillows I've tried too but work well as someone who alternates between side and back sleeping during the night. No more shoulder pain after about a year of ache!

Ophir · 05/03/2026 22:23

LibertyLily · 05/03/2026 20:35

We have a pair of these and agree they're fab. Our second pair (which we actually bought first) are also goose down from TK Maxx. They were £100 each (RRP £400). Finally we're happy with our pillows after trying soooo many over the years!

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Yep, goosedown all the way! So comfy but supportive enough, I feel I’ve found the holy grail

DareDevil223 · 05/03/2026 22:16

I'm a side sleeper and I hate fluffy soft pillows. I like hard, flat ones. I have an Emma Adapt pillow that has layers so you can adjust the height. I take one layer out and it's perfect for me, so comfortable and such a relief after buying so many pillows that I hated!

CharlotteFlax · 05/03/2026 22:07

My favourite pillow was from M&S about 25 years ago. I can't tell you any more than that, other than it was synthetic, not feather or down. Never managed to replicate it.

Edwardbear1 · 05/03/2026 21:47

somanychristmaslights · 05/03/2026 19:56

We bought the premier inn pillows. DH has the firm and I have the soft. https://www.premierinnathome.com/premier-inn-luxury-pillows.html

Same! Love these pillows and I’ve had all the pillows over the years.

100% recommend

Solost92 · 05/03/2026 21:41

I like a very thick firm pillow. I bought a pack of two that are zippered so you can remove the filling to adjust and I shoved all the filling into one. It was good for a few years but needs topping up. I hate that sinking in feeling when it goes up around your face and I have cptsd so I kinda sleep quite upright as I can't fully relax as I need to feel alert.

nagnagnag · 05/03/2026 21:37

Latex pillows are the best - expensive but worth it.

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