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To think it is inappropriate for a teach to have big fake boobs?

668 replies

OonaStubbs · 05/03/2026 18:16

I picked my niece up from school today and saw her with my own eyes, my sister and her husband have spoken about her in the past. IABU to think this is appropriate in a school with impressionable young children?

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 12/03/2026 09:09

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 08:57

If they are real they do not set a bad example.

Yet you’re completely unable to say why there is a difference.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 12/03/2026 09:07

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 08:57

I have never worked in a school.

No shit

LeedsLoiner · 12/03/2026 09:02

Does the teacher walk into the classroom every morning and (in the style of the Wonderbra ads) go "Hello Boys!"...

Dextersgoneovertherainbowbridge · 12/03/2026 09:01

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 08:57

If they are real they do not set a bad example.

How will the children know if they are real or not??

FlayOtters · 12/03/2026 08:59

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 08:57

If they are real they do not set a bad example.

OP you have still in NO WAY said why having fake boobs is setting a bad example?

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 08:57

Submarinara · 12/03/2026 08:35

Tell me you’ve never worked in a school without telling me ….

I have never worked in a school.

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OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 08:57

Submarinara · 12/03/2026 08:34

How does my daughter having big boobs set a bad example to the children?

If they are real they do not set a bad example.

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Submarinara · 12/03/2026 08:35

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:40

But surely what the parents think is more important than what other teachers think?

Tell me you’ve never worked in a school without telling me ….

Submarinara · 12/03/2026 08:34

OonaStubbs · 11/03/2026 18:49

I have already said why. Because it sets a bad example to the children.

If you think that there should be no restrictions whatsoever on a teachers appearance, you are entitled to that opinion. But I believe that there should be a minimum standard that they must uphold.

How does my daughter having big boobs set a bad example to the children?

Oasl · 12/03/2026 07:42

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:40

But surely what the parents think is more important than what other teachers think?

No because you’re not running the school and you often get batshit parents or guardians with unreasonable demands. The school management is best placed to run it and make sure everyone is adhering to professional standards re clothing etc, which teacher clearly is as you haven’t mentioned anything about that.

if different bodytypes offend your family so much, you could try home schooling.
your niece will interact with all sorts of shaped and sized people throughout her life, hopefully with better grace than her family who are obsessing over and discussing a teachers body like weirdos.

Shinyandnew1 · 12/03/2026 07:37

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:40

But surely what the parents think is more important than what other teachers think?

Should schools sack a teacher because one aunt of a child in one class has decided the teacher’s boobs are a bit big? Where would you draw the line?!

We had a complaint at my school where the parent was livid that their child had lost a coat. When asked if it had their name in, they shouted and screamed that it was an £80 coat and of course they weren’t going to spoil it by writing inside it and they wanted the teacher sacked.

No, what parents think isn’t always a good reason for teachers to be fired…

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 12/03/2026 07:29

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:40

But surely what the parents think is more important than what other teachers think?

Not necessarily. I’m a school governor and we’ve currently got a parent demanding we removed IT from the curriculum as he doesn’t allow his daughter any screen time.
Parents don’t always know best when it comes to managing a school or its staff.

ActoBelle · 12/03/2026 07:24

Why are large boobs a bad example? A bad example of what? What if she was naturally large boobed? Should a person with naturally large breasts not be allowed to be a teacher? Should we be telling the kids that large boobs are bad/dangerous? 🤷‍♀️

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 12/03/2026 07:21

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:20

Plenty of people give a shit otherwise I probably wouldn't even know about it. It has caused quite a stir amongst the mums at pick-up time as well as unsurprisingly, the dads too.

Teachers should be able to look like they want to look, within limits. I think most people would agree with that, there just might be some disagreement on what the limits should be.

Has it really caused a stir? Or is it just you and your pervy family ogling this teachers body?

You’re still avoiding answering the question. You say it’s bad but don’t articulate why. I’m assuming you can’t and my initial response that you’re just outraged for the sake of it is right.

juggleit · 12/03/2026 01:30

Mmmchocolatebuttons · 05/03/2026 18:21

Are medium fake boobs okay? Or what if they're massive but really well done and natural looking? Would that be okay with you?

Imagine the recruitment process screener questions ‘ Do you have fake breasts’?
The lawyers will be all over this for discrimination!.

RecyclingQueen57 · 12/03/2026 01:21

OonaStubbs · 07/03/2026 11:11

I have only seen her once but apparently her boobs increased in size and shape a few months ago so so they are definitely fake.

The thread is about teachers in general, not this specific teacher. Should their be a minimum moral standard for teachers to follow or is what they do to their body and what they do outside of work their own business and none of everybody elses?

Is this a joke?

RecyclingQueen57 · 12/03/2026 01:19

OonaStubbs · 05/03/2026 20:14

This was a sincerely started thread. I thought her boobs were ridiculous, particularly in an educational environment. Clearly most people disagree with me.

Former teacher and breast cancer survivor so far, women come in all shapes and sizes. It doesn’t affect how we do our jobs.

Onmytod24 · 12/03/2026 01:11

You haven’t said if she’s wearing anything inappropriate. If not, you just have to ignore it. Or rather them.

BauhausOfEliott · 12/03/2026 01:04

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:40

But surely what the parents think is more important than what other teachers think?

Why? The teacher isn’t teaching the parents. What the parents (who with their seedy gossip about a woman’s breasts are setting a far worse example to their kids than the teacher isn’t teaching) think of the teacher’s appearance doesn’t have any impact on her ability to teach their children. The parents can think what they like but that doesn’t mean their arbitrary thoughts on a teacher’s appearance have to be listened to. Teachers don’t have to meet the aesthetic preferences of their pupils’ parents and thus the parents’ view on this matter is irrelevant.

What really gets me is that the teacher doesn’t even teach your kid. She teaches a niece you pick up once a week FFS. It’s frankly insane that you’d devote this much outrage to the teacher of someone else’s kid. Surely you can find a more relevant thing to poke your beak into? Like one that actually affects you and has demonstrable consequences, perhaps?

ThatAgileRosePanda · 12/03/2026 00:57

I mean if she had her big fake (or if she had big natural boobs or average sized boobs fake or natural) hanging out, it would be unprofessional. If she’s wearing clothes that’s fine as a teacher.

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:40

But surely what the parents think is more important than what other teachers think?

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JustSawJohnny · 12/03/2026 00:30

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:20

Plenty of people give a shit otherwise I probably wouldn't even know about it. It has caused quite a stir amongst the mums at pick-up time as well as unsurprisingly, the dads too.

Teachers should be able to look like they want to look, within limits. I think most people would agree with that, there just might be some disagreement on what the limits should be.

Both you and the other parents sound like a bunch of pearl clutching arseholes, frankly.

In all my years of teaching I never met another teacher who gave one solitary shit what parents thought of their appearance so I very much doubt she cares.

I wouldn't be surprised if your sneering judgment has been noted and discussed at length in the staff room, though.

I do hope this bitchy streak doesn't rub off on the kids.

Diamondsareforever72 · 12/03/2026 00:25

I was scrolling through old pics of mine and I was shocked at how much my boobs had increased in a few months.
You are overly invested in her tits and tbh, you’re a creepy fucker for even mentioning it.

OonaStubbs · 12/03/2026 00:20

JustSawJohnny · 12/03/2026 00:05

And SO WHAT?!!

HOW is that any different to someone else having naturally big tits and just switching from an unsupportive sports type bra to a structured, uplifting one?! Their tits would look much bigger and WHO GIVES A SHIT?!

They're just TITS!

Unless she has them LITERALLY out, they are NOT YOUR BUSINESS and they effect her ability to teach in no way at all!

Plenty of people give a shit otherwise I probably wouldn't even know about it. It has caused quite a stir amongst the mums at pick-up time as well as unsurprisingly, the dads too.

Teachers should be able to look like they want to look, within limits. I think most people would agree with that, there just might be some disagreement on what the limits should be.

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Diamondsareforever72 · 12/03/2026 00:19

Toddlerteaplease · 05/03/2026 18:17

How do you know they are fake. I’ve known people with huge boobs that were not fake.

Agreed. My boobs had their own postcode before I lost weight.