Rude Neighbour

Have you had babies yourself? Do you realise in those early weeks that entertaining your neighbours is not a priority? She hasn’t been rude, just not responding.

She can hardly ask you where her present is, can she? That would be rude. Also the fact you've waited so long makes it rather awkward now

Did you buy the present as it's a nice thing to do for the child... or did you do it because you want to go into their house dor some strange reason?

Bring back the gift if its the latter. I find it so strange you wouldn't just knock on the door and hand in the gift? A post partum parent really does not need the neighbours popping in.

I don't think they're being rude. Are you actually friends or is this just someone you live next to? I wouldn't particularly want my neighbours to come round for a present-giving ceremony, but it would be kind if they came to the door with the present and if the baby is awake I would invite them in. Getting me to think of when you can come round in between naps, then me telling you, maybe you're busy and we have to think of another day etc. is adding to my mental load. It's also awkward for me to say "please come round on XX day to give me the present" and making it a bigger deal than it needs to be.

Just go and knock the door with the present and hand it over?? (And ask if baby is awake as you'd love to hold her for a couple of minutes if you do want to)??

But that’s weird as I would feel awkward saying - yes come around so you can give me your present. Just hand it in.

Just knock on the door and hand over the present

I agree

Did you have a friendship with your neighbour prior to the birth of her child or her pregnancy? I'm assuming not by the way you've written your post. I don't blame her for not wanting you (essentially a stanger) to waltz in to her home to gawk at/snuggle her baby because "you got them a present". Presents don't give you access to someones home and children and those parents are not rude for not giving you it. Honestly take the presents back, you haven't brought those presents with the right intentions so doubt they'd want them. They've been far kinder to you then I'd be to my neighbour if they'd tried demanding to come over to give a present for the baby without building a relationship with me prior.

Perhaps they don't want a visit from a neighbour. And you bought a gift because you wanted to. If your generosity is conditional on being granted entry to her house it might be better to return the present and get a refund. Did you offer any practical help if she needs it?

I'd appreciate the gift but I would expect that a neighbour would just drop it in. I wouldn't expect them to come into my house! Why do you think that's what should happen? It's a strange assumption.

I'd guess your neighbour is either knackered, struggling has PND or just not up to entertaining anyone, especially those who aren't friends or family.

Try not to be offended or harsh. It's only been 3 months or so, they might be utterly exhausted and entertaining the neighbours is just not on their radar.

I'd probably leave it on the doorstep with a nice note.

YABU

You bought them ‘a congratulations on your baby’ present not a ‘ticket for entry to come into your house’ present.