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Cat versus human a&e

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catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 21:46

My cat was a bit poorly last night so I took her to the out of hours cat hospital. I called them at 8 pm and within 1 hour, I had booked the appointment, had her checked over and was back home.
My friend’s mother also took a turn for the worse last night. They drive to a&e at the same time as I went with my cat, but had to wait to be seen until 4 am. Suspected heart issue so quite serious.

I paid 350 pounds for my cat to be seen. I have pet insurance. I really wish I could pay £350 to be seen if I needed a&e too. I rather pay that than wait a. Ight to be seen.

My AIBU is in the different health care offered to pets versus humans in this country. As a human you can’t even pay your way to be seen in an emergency. Brits seem to think as long as it’s free, it’s good, but is it time to start thinking about charging in the NHS too? I think so!

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catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:28

HoskinsChoice · 04/03/2026 23:25

This is the second version we've had of this story in as many days. It's almost as if someone has an agenda...

I don’t know the other thread. I am not on MN at all times nor is my cat.

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suki1964 · 04/03/2026 23:27

The NHS is collapsing under its own weight

Think back to its inception and the ailments it was expected to treat then to now, how far we have come, what we all want - and add an aging population

I worked for the NHS 1984 to 2000, and it was back then that treatments were being limited

Mum died Sunday, in an NHS hospital. Yes she sat in A&E for 5 hours before being called forward. She was shown to a bay and a bed - not a trolly. Yes she was there for 18 hours but whilst there they did the initial investigations

From there they transferred her to a hospital more suited to her care

She spent 2 days short of a month in hospital, She was treated like a queen, Nothing was too much . After 10 days we agreed pain relief and dignity, and believe me, that's how she was treated to the very end - I sat with her for her last 48hrs, so I saw first hand

Yes the place was chaotic at times , yes it was hard to find someone who was going to sit and explain , yes sometimes things were lost in translation.

But mum was well cared for and I do believe she had a great time for her first 3 weeks being on a ward of women for company and a lot of nurses and care assistants checking in with her

She was kept clean, tidy and comfortable. Even her last day, the nurses knew and didn't subject her to anything other then comfort need

For the NHS to survive it has to withdraw treatment for more problems . Mum had to turn to private care for her eyes, for her knees etc and we are looking to fund an op for DP. Its not life threatening, and it probably wouldn't have been a problem 20 years ago as he would have been retired and not having to still be working at 64

The NHS is just overwhelmed with an aging population and too many answers for too many ailments

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:27

XenoBitch · 04/03/2026 23:24

Just look at what happened to dentistry, if you think having to go private is best.

Well “British teeth” is a saying in Europe, so not keen on NHS dentistry myself. Again, I go private.

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XenoBitch · 04/03/2026 23:26

HoskinsChoice · 04/03/2026 23:25

This is the second version we've had of this story in as many days. It's almost as if someone has an agenda...

I noticed that too. It was a cat in the previous thread as well.

emilysquest · 04/03/2026 23:26

There are private emergency departments in England for all but the most serious conditions. I have gone to St John and St Elizabeth in St John's Wood over the years for several miscarriages, a broken leg, and several other things. Insurance does not pay for the initial consultation (was £100, now possibly more), but (BUPA at least) pays for further investigations/procedures.

In Ireland you pay for HSE A&E if you have not been referred by a GP. It's about €100 currently I believe (paid that in 2021 for reduction of wrist fracture).

HoskinsChoice · 04/03/2026 23:25

This is the second version we've had of this story in as many days. It's almost as if someone has an agenda...

CactusSwoonedEnding · 04/03/2026 23:24

If the system currently in place for cats was in place for humans:

  • the wealthiest 10% would get truly excellent, world class care, hardly any waiting, minimal fuss. The premiums would be steep but these people can afford it
  • the next 10% would get decent care. Not quite at the gold standard but most things covered. Every so often you'd hear of a difficult situation where a family had to make the heartbreaking decision to have Aunty Maud PTS because although a treatment for her condition exists, it's excluded by the conditions of their insurance as they have a basic policy
  • the next 30% woukd have very limited health insurance where only the first set amount of health costs in any year are covered so while illnesses that are cheap to treat are fine, most serious illnesses aren't.
  • The remaining 50% would have no direct access to health care at all and would rely on charities if they got seriously ill, or woukd just commit suicide in order to be the keast possible bother.
  • for all, the quality of care and your chance of survival is determined not by doctors prioritising the people with greatest need, but instead based on ability to pay.

Personally I believe that for humans Illness is neither an indulgence for which people have to pay, nor an offence for which they should be penalised, but a misfortune, the cost of which should be shared by the community. Meanwhile taking responsibility for the welfare of a cat is entirely optional and those who can't afford to do it well are not obliged to do it at all, so the situations are not comparable.

XenoBitch · 04/03/2026 23:24

Just look at what happened to dentistry, if you think having to go private is best.

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:23

CoffeeAndPretzels · 04/03/2026 23:21

I inferred from your OP "I really wish I could pay £350 to be seen if I needed a&e too. I rather pay that than wait a. Ight to be seen."My apologies If this is not what you meant, but logic would suggest that if you paid to be seen without waiting, someone else is going to have to wait longer.

I am not denying changes are required, but I don't believe a private funding model is what is required. And wouldn't work in A&E anyway.

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I think those can pay and I think that’s a lot of people should pay a charge. I already said in my home country I would pay £50 to be seen I a&e. That’s the price of a take away. I know some people cannot afford that, but don’t hide behind that small percentage.

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Chinsupmeloves · 04/03/2026 23:23

Getting an emergency vet appt costs. Unless you have private health, are on top lost of NHS triage then this is reality.

CoffeeAndPretzels · 04/03/2026 23:21

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:12

I am not sure where you are reading I said skip the queue

I inferred from your OP "I really wish I could pay £350 to be seen if I needed a&e too. I rather pay that than wait a. Ight to be seen."My apologies If this is not what you meant, but logic would suggest that if you paid to be seen without waiting, someone else is going to have to wait longer.

I am not denying changes are required, but I don't believe a private funding model is what is required. And wouldn't work in A&E anyway.

Figcherry · 04/03/2026 23:20

TheDaysAreGettingLongerAtLast · 04/03/2026 22:56

Once you start down the road to private medical care you end up like the USA where millions of people cannot afford basic medical treatment even when dying. No thanks.
Big Pharma is rich enough.

Vet bills have gone through the roof in the past decade because the profession was deregulated and now any business person can run a chain of veterinary practices with vets as employees instead of running their own practice.

Many poor people can no longer afford to bring their pet to the vet.
They don't have £350 to spare even for themselves.

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No, not necessarily.
I live in an EU country.
Health is notionally covered 70% and the user pays 30%.
However those on low incomes don’t pay, those with life long illnesses, diabetes, m.s., cancer etc, don’t pay for treatment connected to the illness.
I pay a monthly insurance according to what options I pick. The insurance you choose always pays up regardless. Scaremongering to say you won’t be covered and end up like the USA is not helpful and insulting to the many countries who run a better healthcare system than the UK.
I plan on returning to the UK soon and the state of the NHS scares me.
Compared to where I live now It’s basic and woefully inadequate in many areas of specialty.

I’m a huge advocate of the NHS but it needs more staff and resources.

Paying a properly regulated insurance would, imo, benefit everyone.

Biznaga · 04/03/2026 23:19

Aren’t cats put to sleep when the owners can’t afford the bill?

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:19

patchysmum · 04/03/2026 23:17

go private then, one less for the NHS

i already said I do go private, but there is no orivate -‘a&e. I also do not believe going private is the solution. I think nhs straying chafing like other European countries will contribute towards a solution.

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patchysmum · 04/03/2026 23:17

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 21:58

I don’t spend all my time on MN so haven’t seen the other thread. I kicked this off after my experience last night. Cat versus human healthcare in this country. I would like to pay to receive good healthcare. I am not stinking rich. I just don’t think the model of not paying is working.

go private then, one less for the NHS

RosesAndHellebores · 04/03/2026 23:16

Myeyeisnotokay · 04/03/2026 22:24

I work in the NHS on the front line, and tbh unless some funding is increased soon (at the moment all that's happening is cost cuts and service cuts, nationwide) then I actually agree that privatising would in many areas, provide safer care.
I disagree in principle, but in reality I'm looking into some form of private healthcare myself, as the state of the NHS at the moment scares me. Scares me shitless actually. The care my elderly parents can expect when they inevitably get more and more health problems. My 2 DC.
As a healthcare professional I've found I've had to push and stamp my feet for even the most basic of care, to be taken seriously and I've had to do the same for my parents. I dread to think how more vulnerable people navigate the system.
It should not be like this.

The answer is to push for more funding, write to your MP, but will it ever happen? I've worked in the NHS all my life and I've never seen anything being expanded or funded further in my area. Everything is just cut, cut, cut.

I'll consider paying more tax when the EDI directors are dispensed with, the rainbow crossings disappear and the admin and nursing staff stop shouting at patients.

When I was in a packed A&E with badly broken bones, my husband found me a wheelchair, and stood by my side for 6 hours. However, when we were eventually moved to the next room, empty but for 40 to 50 chairs, there were about 9 staffnat the desk squealing about theor holidays and cake.

The way patients were spoken to that night was atrocious.

So, forgive me, but it's as much about getting organised as about resources.

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:15

GaIadriel · 04/03/2026 23:14

No doubt this is a driver in people voting Reform. All those that bang on about "we don't take as many refugees as other countries do" usually aren't considering how broken our healthcare system already is.

i am not a reform voter. Nor is my cat.

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XenoBitch · 04/03/2026 23:14

HostaCentral · 04/03/2026 23:09

We need to build a load of cottage hospitals. Just like the ones we had 50 odd years ago. Halfway house between hospital and home. Some bright spark decided they were obsolete because of modern healthcare, completely neglecting to forsee the legion of infirm old folk.

We actually do have a local one. It's completely full 24/7. Old folk go there to be monitored and get rehab, or to pass away. It's partly funded by the community!

I always thought it a scandal that things like air ambulances and hospices only get a tiny bit of NHS funding.

My local hospice has had to turn people away as they don't have the funding. Empty bedrooms that no one can use.

Frostynoman · 04/03/2026 23:14

I think there are more humans that need medical attention than there are cats so with that in mind, the premise of your argument is fundamentally flawed.

GaIadriel · 04/03/2026 23:14

No doubt this is a driver in people voting Reform. All those that bang on about "we don't take as many refugees as other countries do" usually aren't considering how broken our healthcare system already is.

OneMintWasp · 04/03/2026 23:13

I dread to think where we would be as a country without a national health service. All for people paying for private care of they can but I hope the NHS remains.

It's not just universal, free (at the point of care) medical treatment. Its all the other things with go with the infrastructure and ethos of a country with an NHS.

A government who 'pays' for its countries health care has a vested interest in keeping that country healthy. This is what drives public health, screening, vaccinations, health and social research and innovation, preventative medicine, health promotion within schools and across communities to reduce inequalities. if we had a private model of health care where someone profited from illness and unhealthy lifestyles much of this fall away.

The NHS is what keeps those people with chronic illnesses alive and cared for when they would likely not be able to pay or secure medical insurance at the level required. This could be any of us at any time.

It is also comparatively cheaper to deliver than private care due to economies of scale both in the purchasing of equipment and drugs and delivery of services.

Hope it stays.

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:12

CoffeeAndPretzels · 04/03/2026 23:10

People die needlessly every day due to lack of good care.

But surely you can see that folk paying to "skip the queues" is just going to exacerbate this? If people are no longer seen in order of clinical need.

I am not sure where you are reading I said skip the queue

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catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 23:10

XenoBitch · 04/03/2026 23:05

"Pets have the upper hand again... " is such a weird take.
It is not pets vs humans.
NHS and vet care are totally different things. You are comparing apples and oranges.

I mean, we could look at ways in which humans have the upper hand. If your dog has a stroke or funny turn in the middle of the night, no one is going to come and take them away in an ambulance, treat them as best they can in the ambulance and take them to the vets. No vet is going to come and visit you unless you pay serious £, and then it will be a euthanasia case.

Actually my neighbour had a stroke. His wife called an ambulance and was told to drive themselves to the hospital or wait. They waited as she could not move him into the car. He died at home that night while waiting.
My cat on the other hand, might also need to get herself to the hoists to be fair, but is seen straight away. I call it in and I have a text (or my cat has except she doesn’t have her own mobile)saying they know she is on her way and are ready for her.

Of course I know it’s apples and oranges, but it makes me think.

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CoffeeAndPretzels · 04/03/2026 23:10

catmummy22 · 04/03/2026 22:03

I know all about these issues thanks to my DDs job. I wish I didn’t. I was a much bigger fan of the NHS before I add this insight. People die needlessly every day due to lack of good care.

People die needlessly every day due to lack of good care.

But surely you can see that folk paying to "skip the queues" is just going to exacerbate this? If people are no longer seen in order of clinical need.

HostaCentral · 04/03/2026 23:09

Kendodd · 04/03/2026 22:39

You seem to know what you're talking about, can I ask an opinion?
I once read an opinion that A&E has the triage the wrong way around and that instead of having a nurse on triage they should have the most senior doctor on duty doing it. That way most people only see one staff member, not two. The doctor has the confidence to just send loads of people home with very minimal treatment/advice. They are also better able to identify the most unwell to prioritise them. Theory is this would speed up the queue for everyone and be more efficient use of staff as most people would only see one medic instead of two. I can see some obvious problems with this approach but overall (I'm not a medic) looks sensible to me.
What do you think?

We need to build a load of cottage hospitals. Just like the ones we had 50 odd years ago. Halfway house between hospital and home. Some bright spark decided they were obsolete because of modern healthcare, completely neglecting to forsee the legion of infirm old folk.

We actually do have a local one. It's completely full 24/7. Old folk go there to be monitored and get rehab, or to pass away. It's partly funded by the community!