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Day Disco people - advice please!

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Arlanymor · 04/03/2026 18:09

Well this is insane, the bandsintown app just sent me a casual message saying.. "N'Trance are in your town soon... click to learn more..." (Swansea is a city, not a town, but ok!)

I mean N'frigging'Trance? The Set You Free people?! Here?! Really?! It was my all time favourite club song back when I was a yoof!

So I have booked - very reasonable to be fair - and now I am having a pre-event crisis. What do you wear to day discos?! I have a nice vintage sequin jacket and DMs, can I just squeeze my HRT body into throw on a little black dress of some lycra description and put some glow-in-the-dark gel eyeshadow on?

It's also made me laugh - all the times I tried to get into clubs with the paper driving licence of older friends... - but this is strictly over 30s! I'm, shall we say, 'comfortably' over the threshold!

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PinterandPirandello · 04/03/2026 18:42

I just wear light stuff and comfy footwear as I get very hot these days. Hope you have a great time, there are some fantastic day disco’s about.

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Arlanymor · 04/03/2026 18:38

Pandorea · 04/03/2026 18:29

Last one I went to I wore wide leg jeans and a crochet top (am mid 50s). There were some people a bit dressed up but a lot of jeans and t shirts etc. It was much more dress to be comfortable and dance than dress to pull!

That makes a lot of sense and frankly I am there to groove... if someone wants to snog me round the back of the bins (does that still happen?!) I might be amenable... but it's definitely about the music and throwing mad shapes in the afternoon! I'm 47 and wide leg cords are my best friend at the moment, but I think I might break out my sticks for this one... (with 90 denier tights!) Kind of thinking I might even crimp my hair... am I going too far now?! 😅

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Arlanymor · 04/03/2026 18:34

minipie · 04/03/2026 18:28

I’m envious! There’s a day disco soon near me but none of my mates are keen 😩 thinking of going alone but not sure how much fun that would be. I just want to dance!

Personally I’d wear trousers and a small top to go under the sequin jacket but then I don’t have the legs for an LBD. Ifyou do then go for it!

Aww love, come to Swansea - I'd go with you!!

Totally get what you mean about dancing too - I think we really underestimate how much fun it can be and really gets the endorphins going - don't get me wrong, I am NOT a good dancer. I flail around the place! But it's such a release and providing you don't bump into anyone else, no one cares what shapes you throw really! Big box, small box, big box, small box, do the fish, do the fish!

The one thing I have going for me is my legs to be fair - I played heaps of rugby in my yoof, I was a scrum half and my muscle memory is still there! (Although probably opaque black tights because I get chicken skin like the best of them!)

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Arlanymor · 04/03/2026 18:31

Davros · 04/03/2026 18:26

I go quite often. It’s a real mixture so wear what you want and have a great time. I don’t even know that band 😹 the ones I go to are 70s/80s

Oh that's good to hear - I remember dressing up to the high nines to get into the Ministry of Sound when I was under 21... got in there and everyone was in trainers and jeans... I had a little silk dress and a feather boa, I probably looked a complete tit!! To be fair I think they had one big song and then a few covers...

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Arlanymor · 04/03/2026 18:29

Pipersouth · 04/03/2026 18:22

It’s a great idea you’ll have a fab time 😉

My parents visited today and just called to say they got home safely - I told my mum about it and she said: "Are they the ones with the limousine song?!" (They were hanging out of a limousine sunroof in the video) So even she remembers how much I LOVED that particular song. And headphones weren't really a thing when I was younger, unless they were those sponge things on a rigid wire band! So excited! Your wink makes me think you'll be there too?!

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Pandorea · 04/03/2026 18:29

Last one I went to I wore wide leg jeans and a crochet top (am mid 50s). There were some people a bit dressed up but a lot of jeans and t shirts etc. It was much more dress to be comfortable and dance than dress to pull!

minipie · 04/03/2026 18:28

I’m envious! There’s a day disco soon near me but none of my mates are keen 😩 thinking of going alone but not sure how much fun that would be. I just want to dance!

Personally I’d wear trousers and a small top to go under the sequin jacket but then I don’t have the legs for an LBD. Ifyou do then go for it!

Davros · 04/03/2026 18:26

I go quite often. It’s a real mixture so wear what you want and have a great time. I don’t even know that band 😹 the ones I go to are 70s/80s

Pipersouth · 04/03/2026 18:22

It’s a great idea you’ll have a fab time 😉

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Arlanymor · 04/03/2026 18:19

Pipersouth · 04/03/2026 18:12

Put on your normal clubbing gear (if you have any I know I didn’t!) yes it might feel weird waiting for your mates in the pub dressed up in the afternoon but once you are inside it just feels like it’s nighttime! Plus it’s great to have a night out where you can still get to bed at a reasonable time 😆

My bed time is 10pm - so this is perfect really!! I was trying to remember the last time I went clubbing - honestly can't remember! So no club gear as such, but I think my jacket kind of makes up for it, I'll get a lycra black dress and have the boots already (I think I maybe inadvertently be modelling my style on Anita from 2 Unlimited, also back in the day!!) Thank you - I honestly nearly fell off my chair when I saw the notification as was fully expecting it to be a tribute or something - no, it's the actual people and also five hours of dancing with fellow older boppers!

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Pipersouth · 04/03/2026 18:12

Put on your normal clubbing gear (if you have any I know I didn’t!) yes it might feel weird waiting for your mates in the pub dressed up in the afternoon but once you are inside it just feels like it’s nighttime! Plus it’s great to have a night out where you can still get to bed at a reasonable time 😆