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Religion in the workplace

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Whatothink · 04/03/2026 17:27

For the last month we have been sent messages email, background screens and management briefings for a particular religion.

the following messages to

”showing visible support,
encouraging meaningful conversations, and deepening our understanding of the experiences of those of observences”

as well as being told to be considered with meetings etc and thoughtful and supportive!!!

OP posts:
Clavinova · 05/03/2026 12:55

JustSawJohnny · 05/03/2026 12:46

Nobody is asking them to stop.

They are are asking them to BE MINDFUL!

Being offended by that is, IMO, butt hurt and childish.

It doesn't hurt to think about others and frankly, with the amount of pure ignorance and propaganda about Islam in this country I really don't blame employers for trying to head issues off at the pass.

You didn't actually answer my questions:

How do practising Muslims avoid food during daylight hours if they work in a restaurant or supermarket? Food is 'wafting' under their noses all day. In addition, are they permitted to prepare and cook food at home during fasting hours (to eat later in the day)?

Am I missing something or are working-class Muslims expected to have more self-control than the 'lanyard class'?

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/03/2026 12:49

but being offended or upset by your co-workers birthday cake during Ramadam is OK because .... religion?

JustSawJohnny · 05/03/2026 12:46

Clavinova · 05/03/2026 10:00

You know, so you don't forget and waltz into the office with free cakes for everyone and start wafting a viccy sponge under people's noses?

How do practising Muslims avoid food during daylight hours if they work in a restaurant or supermarket? Food is 'wafting' under their noses all day. In addition, are they permitted to prepare and cook food at home during fasting hours (to eat later in the day)?

Regarding no cakes or treats in the office, this would seem very unfair to colleagues who wish to celebrate their birthday, particularly for people who live alone who may be socially isolated outside of work.

Nobody is asking them to stop.

They are are asking them to BE MINDFUL!

Being offended by that is, IMO, butt hurt and childish.

It doesn't hurt to think about others and frankly, with the amount of pure ignorance and propaganda about Islam in this country I really don't blame employers for trying to head issues off at the pass.

stargirl27 · 05/03/2026 12:44

Whatothink · 04/03/2026 20:38

So we should be lectured to and supportive for colleagues whose religion is not tolerant of others

Sorry but you are the one who sounds intolerant.

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 12:33

CurlewKate · 05/03/2026 12:17

Nobody has said that no one should have cake in the office. Nobody has said cake will “offend”. And presumably the Purim bake sale could be in a different room? If, indeed there were any Muslim staff members at the place of work concerned? Which, considering that only about 6% of the population are Muslim is quite likely….

Edited

You clearly aren't reading the posts where people think exactly that. People who wouldn't eat cake, or take in birthday cake, or would invite people for a drink or coffee after work to avoid cake!
And as I said that in itself takes no notice of what Muslims might do to break their fast or the actual time the fast will end. Inviting people to an event they can't attend seems rather silly to me. Even sillier than just carrying on as normal.

mondaytosunday · 05/03/2026 12:26

I don’t think religion has a place in the workplace in terms of company emails etc. I think people’s religions should be accepted in terms of their dress and dietary/prayer whatever, though I would not expect others to have to follow suit (no cake debate). I may not eat meat on Fridays but I would not recoil in horror and be offended if someone brought in a ham sandwich.
I also don’t agree with state funded religious schools. C of E, Catholic, whatever, fine have them but not funded by me. Separate issue but connected.

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/03/2026 12:23

"Nobody is required to support anything. Just get on with your work day."

Exactly my point - on this we agree.

Employers need to butt out of trying to steer people religiously.

But if you read the OP, this thread is exactly about her employer trying to get its employees to support religious people in their religion.

from the OP - her employer asked her to be involved in
"”showing visible support, encouraging meaningful conversations, and deepening our understanding of the experiences of those of observences”

Alwaysontherun · 05/03/2026 12:21

I consider religion to be a personal thing and therefore it should be completely separate from the workplace.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:20

Whatothink · 04/03/2026 17:45

I think religion should be separate from work and not pushed onto others.

I don’t want to lose my Easter and Christmas bank holidays though.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:19

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 12:16

You clearly don't understand my point.
Please read the posts from people who say cake should not be in the office during Ramadan.

Edited

I did.

Nobody was offended.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:18

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/03/2026 12:13

from the OP - her employer asked her to be involved in

"”showing visible support, encouraging meaningful conversations, and deepening our understanding of the experiences of those of observences”

i.e. learn about your colleageus religious choices and support them visibly and meaningfully.

The problem with this is when you pick up the "beautiful joyful peaceful" end of a religious stick, you are also picking up the "paedophiles enabled by their religion to marry & abuse young girls" other end of the stick.

many people simply want to live without caring about or being involved in religion for many good and valid reasons. This does not make them racist.

But so many who call for tolerance and understanding towards religion are very intolerant and not at all understanding on those of us who for whatever reason do not wish to have their employer guide them religiously.

Then again religions being intolerant of other religions or no religion is nothing new.

No you are not bringing up paedophiles. You know that plenty of Islamic countries manage to combine their faith with legal ages of marriages that exclude pre-pubescent children.
Talking about ramadan is simply that.

Just like I can discuss Christmas without needing to also bring up that a number of US states don’t have minimum age of marriage as a sop to Evangelicals.

Strewth.

Nobody is required to support anything. Just get on with your work day.

BlimeyOReillyO · 05/03/2026 12:17

Whatothink · 04/03/2026 20:38

So we should be lectured to and supportive for colleagues whose religion is not tolerant of others

Lectured? When were you lectured?

CurlewKate · 05/03/2026 12:17

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 12:10

It's not weird. We have people on this thread saying no one should have cake in the office during Ramadan because it would offend Muslims. You have stated no one was offended. So having a bake sale for Purim didn't offend Muslims, despite it being Ramadan. Some people are adamant that a colleague bringing in cake for a birthday would offend. Its a case of some finding offence for another group who aren't offended.
And it's always possible to offend and not know it.

Edited

Nobody has said that no one should have cake in the office. Nobody has said cake will “offend”. And presumably the Purim bake sale could be in a different room? If, indeed there were any Muslim staff members at the place of work concerned? Which, considering that only about 6% of the population are Muslim is quite likely….

Tartaupommes · 05/03/2026 12:17

CurlewKate · 05/03/2026 11:44

In my experience, people observing Yom Kippur don’t go to work.

What experience? There are plenty of people who have to work on Yom Kippur. Surely workplaces should accommodate those people. My workplace doesn't because it is selective about who it thinks is important.

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 12:16

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:14

Nobody was offended.

You clearly don't understand my point.
Please read the posts from people who say cake should not be in the office during Ramadan.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:14

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 12:10

It's not weird. We have people on this thread saying no one should have cake in the office during Ramadan because it would offend Muslims. You have stated no one was offended. So having a bake sale for Purim didn't offend Muslims, despite it being Ramadan. Some people are adamant that a colleague bringing in cake for a birthday would offend. Its a case of some finding offence for another group who aren't offended.
And it's always possible to offend and not know it.

Edited

Nobody was offended.

Tartaupommes · 05/03/2026 12:14

CurlewKate · 05/03/2026 11:40

“Political”? What exactly do you mean?

Political, as in left wing politics fetes some groups/topics (trans people, muslims (especially palestinians), climate change, critical race theory) and ignores or demonizes others.

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/03/2026 12:13

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:01

This definitely happened.

But I also don’t see any comparison to child abuse and fasting. Nor do I see a post telling you people will be fasting means asking you to support any religion.

Edited

from the OP - her employer asked her to be involved in

"”showing visible support, encouraging meaningful conversations, and deepening our understanding of the experiences of those of observences”

i.e. learn about your colleageus religious choices and support them visibly and meaningfully.

The problem with this is when you pick up the "beautiful joyful peaceful" end of a religious stick, you are also picking up the "paedophiles enabled by their religion to marry & abuse young girls" other end of the stick.

many people simply want to live without caring about or being involved in religion for many good and valid reasons. This does not make them racist.

But so many who call for tolerance and understanding towards religion are very intolerant and not at all understanding on those of us who for whatever reason do not wish to have their employer guide them religiously.

Then again religions being intolerant of other religions or no religion is nothing new.

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 12:10

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:00

It was this week. Nobody was offended. Your post is weird.

It's not weird. We have people on this thread saying no one should have cake in the office during Ramadan because it would offend Muslims. You have stated no one was offended. So having a bake sale for Purim didn't offend Muslims, despite it being Ramadan. Some people are adamant that a colleague bringing in cake for a birthday would offend. Its a case of some finding offence for another group who aren't offended.
And it's always possible to offend and not know it.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:04

sashaski · 05/03/2026 11:11

Zero But I think i have the right to work without some religion that treats women like shit and says gay people should be killed being pushed onto me

You are not working with a religion.

You are working with people. And a email saying some colleagues are observing Ramadan is not pushing faith onto you.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:01

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/03/2026 11:56

a poster upthread has a colleague who tells coworkers how he married a 14yo girl. His religion enabled this.

I would have a big issue with working with this paedophile & being told by my employer I must support him/his religion in anyway.

Would the poster who was interested in Ramadam at work because her colleague was lovely be as interested in Ramadam if the man giving the work talk had boasted about being a paedophile?

When we are being asked to "support" other peoples religion in the workplace, it seems we have to support the paedophile in his religion as much as we have to support the middle aged mother in hers.

Yes I have a problem with this. Why don't you?

This definitely happened.

But I also don’t see any comparison to child abuse and fasting. Nor do I see a post telling you people will be fasting means asking you to support any religion.

JHound · 05/03/2026 12:00

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 11:53

So you had a bake sale for Purim? Did this take place during Ramadan?
You see this is the problem. Offending someone is always possible.

It was this week. Nobody was offended. Your post is weird.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 05/03/2026 12:00

Whatothink · 04/03/2026 20:38

So we should be lectured to and supportive for colleagues whose religion is not tolerant of others

I don't think you've been lectured to enough, given your attitude.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/03/2026 11:58

Whatothink · 04/03/2026 17:45

I think religion should be separate from work and not pushed onto others.

So, no more bank holidays at Christmas or Easter?

No more Christmas lunches or parties or bonuses or Christmas jumper days?

Or is it just references to Islam that you want to ban?

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/03/2026 11:57

loislovesstewie · 05/03/2026 11:53

So you had a bake sale for Purim? Did this take place during Ramadan?
You see this is the problem. Offending someone is always possible.

not TOC (Tory Office Cake) in the month of Ramadam <faints>