Keeping DD off school due to period

Seconded. Period pants are a revelation for school-age girls! So much easier.

Ah bless her. I would definitely have kept her off. She’s still so young isn’t she it’s a lot for them to contend with. She’s probably one of the first in her year to start too which might make her feel a bit uneasy.
I hope you’ve had a lovely chilled day together.

I'm confused why people are telling you make sure it's a one off, you've clearly stated you've told your daughter she will go back to school for the rest of the week (armed with period pants and more suitable pads).

I think you made the right decision for your DC. 10 is so young and a day off to reset is just what the doctor ordered! You sound like a wonderful Mum who is attuned to her daughter's needs!

Do you take time off work every month?

YANBU at all. I also started periods around 10, much earlier than my peers, and it was such a nightmare, I am still sad about it tbh. I was in so much pain, was too embarrassed to dig out a pad to go change, it was all just too much and just a little too young to know how to deal with it.

Your DH is clearly clueless and also lacks empathy.

Ikr. Poor darling. I was 14 when I got mine. Remember it like yesterday and I am in my 60s now. I slept most of the day and felt weird and dreadful. Luckily it was a Saturday. Can't imagine getting it on a Sunday night at 10.

Second the pad wrapping crackling issues!

Your husband sounds like a twat

your husband is an arsehole. and has no say.

Awwh yeah. Poor little girl. Year 5 is brutal

Just came on to suggest period pants. They are great - no rubbing, no rustling and you can even get ones you can popper on and off rather than having to take off your trousers to change them.
She could even wear them in addition to a pad, to stop any leaks.

Sounds like you did the right thing keeping her off though.

Lol, who made your husband an expert on periods?? He knows nothing about it. Tell him to wind his neck in.

I’m nearly 40 and still haven’t cracked how to period properly. I still get leaks and awful pain! I do not go to the office this first two days as it’s horrendous. I think you’ve done the right thing keeping DD home. I hope they are more manageable going forward!

I’m sure she appreciates that it’s a one off thing, if you can help her feel more supported, secure, and comfortable she will be fine next month. It’s literally a HUGE part of her life for the foreseeable future and it would help if she didn’t feel shit about it from day 1!

Tell you husband she’s bot a dog that will be trained the wrong way.

As its her first one, keeping her off for one day should not be a problem. Just don't make a habit of it. Presuming there are no problems (pcos, endo etc.), this is going to happen every month for the next 50 years, she will have you get used to dealing with it and just carrying on as all women do. If she is light and pads are bothering her maybe just switch to period pants alone, they are super comfy and fine for me on light days, on heavy days I will wear a pad as well.

Tbh, your husband will do more harm with his stance than a day off school with mum, talks and girlie time together would ever do, it's your daughters first period! What a twonk. And.. he doesn't get a say, he's never had a period.

First period, absolutely keep her off and support her.
Don't make a habit of it in future though!

No uterus, no opinion on anything concerning periods. The only thing I want to hear for a man that’s period related is “I got you a hot water bottle/sweet treat/your favourite food”.

What happens next month? You are teaching her periods are an illness, something she can't acvommodate in her day to day life.
Obviously if her periods seem unusually heavy or painful, then you need to seek medical advice, but that is a separate issue.

I agree tena lady for leaks are useless for more than a teaspoon of urine. I've never used period pants but I would investigate for a daughter.

Your DH is a complete knob! He knows nothing about periods, the worry about leaking, cramps and so on….. if my DH tried to dictate our daughters periods I would tell him to fuck off!

my DD was in year 5, period pants are your best friend. M&S are fab. Don’t forget for her school bag, pads, spare pants and little scented nappy sacks. If she doesn’t want to use the bins at school she can pop them in her bag and bring them home.

Also a hot water bottle and a bar of chocolate for cramps at home. She will be fine once she gets the hang of it. But for her first one absolutely let her have a day at home.

Everyone's different, though? I've barely ever had a period pain in my life. For others, it's completely debilitating.

For the first time, yes absolutely. Subsequently, she would need to learn to manage, as she has 40 more years of this.

I remember having to not only go to school, but having to jump about in gym class while I had blood running down my legs. In the 80s the teachers were something else. I begged to be let off gym class, and the teacher would pretend to be considering it and then gave me an "umm NOPE. Get on with it". I would never have asked were my periods not so heavy and leaky.

Good luck to her, I hope it gets easier as it's a long road.

It sounds like she needs a bit more help and support getting her head round managing her period. As I said to DH the other day, "when was the last time you lost a litre of blood?" Never.