Keeping DD off school due to period

Your husband is being a dick. I'm hoping he is just thoughtless and not a complete misogynist.

I would absolutely do the same with my DD and will do when the timne comes (its nearly time so will be soon).

Its a shame we cant rent those period pain machines and put them on husbands at full pelt so they have some understanding of what we put up with.

Husband gets to have an opinion when he starts his periods.

Absolutely not unreasonable to keep her off, just make sure she knows it isn’t a free pass to a few days off every month. It’s such a massive life adjustment for her and so overwhelming. Lots of cuddles, reassurance and hot chocolate. What a lovely mummy you are x

Of course YANBU. She's 10! This is a big deal for her.

Poor girl, so young. Keep her off.

Your husband needs to have some compassion for his young daughter. What a bastard, I’d tell him to fuck off!

She is a young child going through a major change in her body. You husband's lack of compassion is disappointing to say the least. He can rest assured that she will know to avoid him when next she needs support from a parent.

Oh bless her, Yr 5 is really young, one day off to get her sorted out isn't going to harm anybody!

Absolutely.
I signed my daughter out many a day when she wasn't well.

Of course it's kind to let her have the day off. it's a massive thing to happen. I'd only say that she can't expect to stay off every month for a few days, just so she doesn't expect that.

Aww bless her heart ❤️ I would have done exactly the same as you. You don't know how her first period will be, with regards to flow or pain. Your daughter is only 10 and still at Junior school, so it's a lot for her to process, especially as she's probably one of the first to start her periods.

Staying off school one day now, doesn't equate to her spending days off school in the future due to her periods. Unfortunately, your husband's attitude shows exactly what he knows of such issues...bugger all!! Perhaps, he should leave it to you, considering you're female and have been dealing with periods, pain and pads for a few decades!!!

I'm glad your daughter's teacher has been supportive (in fairness the majority would be) and hopefully will reassure your daughter.

Put your entire husband in the bin!!

It’s her first period and she’s leaked two days in school - that’s going to be sore and uncomfortable. Definitely a day off today and some better products for her.

Please remind him he’s never experienced a period, especially not his first in primary school so he can keep his opinions to himself!

Do I? No. My periods have never hurt. I do have the empathy and imagination though to realise that for some women they do, and a day off every month is entirely needed.

I really hope that the posters who are berating op for giving her dd ONE day off don’t have girls themselves.
I honestly can’t imagine being that heartless as to ignore my dd when she’s going through such a big change and insist she go into school just ‘because’. Op has stated it won’t be a regular thing and hopefully by next month they will be more prepared with period pants and products to make her more comfy.
I feel so sorry for girls who don’t have that level of support. I didn’t start my periods until I was about 13 or 14 but I still remember how much I hated being in school and trying to navigate changing a pad etc. For a 10 year old it makes me so sad.
You’re a good mum OP don’t let your dh or the imbeciles on here make you think otherwise.

Hate hate hate attitudes like this.

some women are in agony with periods. Some are not. That doesn’t mean the ones that are aren’t.

it’s like covid. Some people died from it, for others they sneezed a few times.

if someone says they have a tummy ache, believe them.

We’re finding the next period pants good as well

If school are cool with it, nothing to worry about. It won't happen every time but like you've mentioned the leaks and anxiety around the toilet situation are awful. I remember the stress of swimming lessons in primary school and hoping that it wouldn't return while we were doing that or on our residential trips and the girls toilets didn't have proper bins in them, just a wire bin. Hated it.

Have you looked into period pants? I wish they'd been a thing when I was a primary child on my period or in ballet lessons! That way, she won't have to worry about a pad making a noise in the loo or about any rubbing or bulkiness, or even about having supplies in her bag. Or perhaps using period knickers as well as a pad might make her feel a bit more confident about stopping any future leaks?

When your husband starts his periods, he can have an opinion on what they are like to manage

Wow what does your husband really know about this to be so clear in his dismissive view?

Of course she needs to be given the tools to make sure she does not miss out on her life due to her period and some opportunities to work out what they are but a little understanding and care would be appropriate.

Perhaps he doesn’t want periods to inconvenience him? Well we all know how that feels.

I agree it’s fine as a one off, or if she’s in pain.

If she keeps using pads, I used to cut the edges off the plastic outer wrap so that they were much quieter and quicker to open. As long as they’re kept in a pouch or something they stay clean. I also would tuck one into my bra in my first job before I left the house, so I didn’t have to carry it publicly. I’m much more open about it now, but at that age these things much help

Modi bodi teen boy shorts specifically

Period pants OP they do the boy short style, and can wear them all day with confidence. Your DH is a dick.

The OP has clearly said she's taken ONE day off for a 10 year olds first period and she's got to go back to school the rest of the week. This is a huge change in a girls life and 10 is bloody young to be trying to understand it all. One day off won't harm her.

I have unfortunately regularly not attended school or college and sometimes work because of period pain. I would be violently ill, pass out a few times in the 1st two days and sometimes be hospitalised. Everyone reacts differently to menstrual cycle. Another poster has said she doesn't go into her work office the 1st two days of her cycle. We live in a world now where people are campaigning for paid mental health days off of work.... and we won't let a 10yr old child have one day off to get to grips with her first period? Really?

No uterus, no say.

Periods are hell for some of us. He likely will never understand, and seemingly isn't trying to.

Continue to support your child as you are while they get to grips with managing it and what is most comfortable to use. Then they'll be more confident attending school and other activities while on their period in future months. Early compromises, long term gain hopefully.

I wouldn't make them go the next 2 days either unless they feel ready to manage.

Bless your heart….you sound like a lovely mum and she’s lucky to have you…she’s only 10 bless her….enjoy your day together and im afraid my husband would be getting very short shrift off me for saying “ it’s just a period”…. Clueless at best!!! Xx