Keeping DD off school due to period

As a one off but you need to give her the skills so she isn’t embarrassed to use the school toilets, a
d it sounds like you have extra supplies ordered. I also highly recommend ibroprofen and teaching her to swallow tablets so she can sneak a pack into her school bag rather than calpol, i didn’t use liquid past age 6 with mine, and lots cheaper too

I would be livid with him. Period swimming underwear are very good. They come in dark colours and are comfortable to wear.
It’s awful when they’re so young, stressful times.

I started at 10 years old. It was horrendous, especially as I am from an age where people didn’t really talk about periods at all. I remember the pain freaking me out. It was nothing like the ‘mild discomfort’ the pamphlet I was given described. 100% I would keep a ten year old dd off school. My girls are grown up now but as I suffered with my periods for over 40 years I was always very sympathetic to how they felt when they had a period. My mother had light periods and never really grasped how much I was suffering.

Just a period?! You need to get him one of those period pain simulator belts and tell him he needs to wear it all day before opening his mouth again.

Then, perhaps, you could redirect your passion to campaigning for monthly sick day for women of the UK rather than insinuating that I have no empathy or imagination. I, unfortunately, was a teenager sick in bed with period pains and multiple cases of accidental analgesia overdose so I don't need imagination to comprehend that some women have painful periods. However, periods is something that women need to manage for decades and to be able to talk about them openly. Therefore, I believe (and I don't suggest that everyone should believe the same) that teaching young women that it is something our bodies do is better than to perpetuate the idea that it is an illness or something to be ashamed of.
And before you come at me, I am talking about periods in the absence of a diagnosed or suspected medical condition such as PCOS or endometriosis.

They didn't have the knickers/recyclable things when I was a girl, but I would use these nowadays-no noise. If 100 other people have posted this, sorry.

DD started her period at 10, but in the summer hols before Y6. She has used period pants since she started - these will solve a lot of problems around flooding, leaking, changing and PE. She’d recommend ModiBodi and Primark, shorts style.

Your DH needs to take your lead on this though. I do sympathise with your dd though, I had awful periods until I was 20 or so, which was awkward as a teenage swimmer, but life goes on.

For a first time yes but don’t make this a regular thing. Year 5 is very young though. With the period pants, make sure she’s wearing a pad too. My flow is too heavy to leave a pair of period pants on for hours.

I wouldn't keep her off unless she was obviously unwell. I would give her paracetamol before school, period pants and a note excusing her from PE.

She's 10 years old and it is her first period - it's not like @Girlymum26 is planning on letting her have days off every month.

Next month (or more likely when she has her next one in a few months) she will know more about what to expect.

No matter how prepared you are, a first period is always daunting and to have it so young, when none of your friends have likely started and you haven't entered that 'teenage girls who talk about everything' phase makes it even more difficult.

@Girlymum26 - you've done the right thing and your husband needs to give his head a wobble.

I second period pants - my eldest didn't start until she was 15 but she swears by them and only ever uses pads if she is particularly heavy or has run out of clean period pants! Get her the swimming costume too if she swims or for holidays, that way, if she is on her period, she won't have to deal with tampons!

What's her attendance like otherwise?

Yep. No uterus, or had one but dont anymore, then no opinion.

Ignore any comments that youre teaching her its an illness too. Most 10 year olds can understand why something might be a one off event.

I am a fairly robust get-on-with things type of person. But if I encountered you in a school setting, I would hope you weren't anywhere near my dd.

You are the equivalent of the midwife who leaves a birthing mother in unnecesary pain and ignores her pleas.

'wussing out' when we are talking about a 10 year olds first period. Shame on your attitude. Stay away from any girls and women who rely on your care.

Please don't imply to her that she probably won't have regular periods initially or that period pants will definitely be suitable for all day use.

It might be the case, but my periods were regular and heavy from day dot and it was a huge disappointment that they came every month after being told I probably wouldn't be regular at first!

Echo this, they’re great. DD has these for heavier days. She wears them with a pad first thing, then removes the pad at lunch, absolute game changer!

My DD also started in Primary school. Changing pads was also complicated because they don’t take their school bags out at break or lunchtime so she didn’t have the new pads on her at those times.

What worked for her was wearing ModiBodi period pants with an additional pad first thing in the morning. She would then dispose of the pad at either break or lunchtime and rely on the pants for the rest of the day.

Awww, that's really mean of your DH.
I'm really happy you kept her off today.
I feel sorry for her that she was made to go in on Monday & Tuesday, having to deal with her first ever bleed, the management of it, the emotional impact of it, having a sore tummy, fluctuating hormones, whilst trying to deal with being at school when she's bleeding for the first time.
What a miserable, mean, hard and unsympathetic DF she's got. Probably didn't want his female child's needs to impact on his day.

This!

Geezus. What a guy.
I believe the phrase "no uterus no opinion" is useful here!

She is so very young! Bless her girls seem to be starting much earlier in the last decade I thanked the gods I was 15 lol and I hope my daughters are the same

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Agree with dh. You do not go off sick for periods, what happens next month and thereafter?! Many girls start early and sanitary protection is a damn sight better nowadays.

You need to minimise it not make it a drama. Paracetamol before school and plenty of spare pads.

Husband is a dick, I bet he’d have the day off work if he bled from his penis every month. You did the right thing letting her have the day off.

Someone else has probably quoted Rachel on Friends already, but "No uterus - no opinion!"

No Uterus, No Opinion. You did the right thing and your daughter will be forever grateful to you.