Keeping DD off school due to period

OMG THIS!!!

You have definitely done the right thing! Your DD will remember the support and understanding you gave her. Your DH has no say in this at all.

It’s early to start and you’re doing the right thing, but once she’s set up with the right pads and period pants (and pain relief) she should be going in.
Her periods may be irregular for a bit anyway. DD had a few months’ gap between first and second (she was 13).
I wish period pants and a variety of pads were available when I started in the mid-80s. My mum gave me a looped towel 🤦‍♀️

Oh your older son... that's just made me tear up. You must be a great mum.

I just came on to say - 10 is so young! I remember my first period at 13 and I could barely stand up it hurt so much. And was mortified by the sensation and smells... it was traumatic at first!

Year 5 is so young. My DD1 started her periods then too and we had some awful issues with it. She needed a day at home with someone who understood and hopefully will be feeling more confident tomorrow.
Dad doesn't get a say until he has a period.

‘Just a period’? When he is leaking blood from his genitals with severe cramping he can talk. Men that dismiss things like this are arseholes. I had debilitating pain that made me throw up and pass out. Luckily the pill worked for me but if my father had dared to say that my mother would have chucked him out as she also suffered.

Whoa! Very judgemental post. My daughter has horrific period pain. She vomits from the pain. It’s awful for her. She started when she was 9.

We have it under control now as she is on prescription meds from a gynae.

Don’t be so high and mighty and lacking in empathy.

No one wants to make it a big deal but some women do really suffer and need some care and understanding until they get the hang of it.

You don’t sound very nice.

I'm sorry but the parent with the penis doesn't get a say in this given he clearly doesn't understand how dramatic and life changing this can be at her age. It's her very first one, shes inexperienced, embarrassed, has leaked and needs a bit of time to get used to it all. Unless shes one of the poor fuckers that suffers terribly with periods then no she shouldn't be off school every month but for today, sure you absolutely made the right call. How lovely of your DS to look out for his wee sister as well, you are clearly doing a great job rearing them both

Well I'm nearly 52 and struggling today with heavy flow, bad cramps and nausea. I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a ten-year-old a bit of extra TLC.

Yanbu. I'm a lot older than your dd and I struggle with periods. I had to go on a day trip on day 2 last month and I managed it but it was very difficult and I had to bring 10 tampons, spare pants, pads etc with me.

Oh ffs im so sorry!!! 😫😫😫 i got mixed up with uterus/or had one but dont anymore as im used to putting that disclaimer in when discussing other topics relating to women.

Genuinely sorry of course any woman who had a uterus has an opinion on this

Im an absolute knob 😭😭

She really needs to be at school.

Periods can absolutely be like an illness and debilitating if you have heavy bleedings, severe pain, migraine, endo etc. I suffered from all of these from when I first got my period at age 8. Period is not the same for everyone.

If she was off every month, your comment would be totally fair and correct.

She’s 10 years old, it’s her first one and she has leaked the first two days. She needs a break from the pressure and some time with her mum for reassurance.

When your husband has dealt with menstrual periods age 10 he can have an opinion. Till then nope.

I stayed mine at 11, had a whole week off school for the first one, spending time with my DM and getting the hang of the whole thing.

Unfortunately mine were regular as clockwork from the beginning, heavy and extremely painful so it wasn't the only time I missed school and I routinely missed PE.

WTF @Megifer? I no longer have a uterus as a direct result of having a really shitty time with periods and hormone imbalances which ultimately resulted in endometrial cancer.
My no longer having a uterus but having had more than enough experience having one means I’m perfectly capable of having an opinion on this thanks!

OP your son sounds lovely. Shame your DH wasn’t quite so considerate

Yes but OPs daughter is 10 years old, is already sore from not having managed the situation properly for the first few days and has leaked twice two days in a row. I dont think anyone’s suggesting she’ll need to miss PE forevermore but this week when she’s already struggling to cope with the situation plus the pain I think it’s probably ok to miss it this once.

The lovely supportive way you've handled it will have a bigger impact on her life than the content of the lessons she missed.

The work place and school life are set up around men and boys.

Work especially- assuming that every day is the same for everyone. A world set up for women would see a flexible working month, where employees could take time off for period pains and make it up at another point in the month.

Women are well known to have more stamina than men, and I wouldn’t be surprised if in general get through more work overall.

Definitely necessary to take the day off - if it's her first period there's no way of knowing how heavy or painful it will be, and she needs to learn how to use and change pads and avoid leaks. I can't imagine just dropping her off and expecting her to deal with that on her own!

Oh, how did your DH act when he had his last period?

That’s right, he’s never had one, so why does he think he gets an opinion?

The way he’s acted towards your DD is horribly unsympathetic.

100% you did the right thing

YANU. It’s a one off not every time but in this moment it’s what your daughter needs I think.