Keeping DD off school due to period

This with bells on.

Oh piss off! Your own suffering doesn't mean young girls today have to.

Absolutely great decision to let her have a day or two to get to grips with things. I have had horrendous periods. I can remember strongly my mum being supportive. I can remember strongly school teachers who weren’t (I passed out with pain on a couple of occasions). Her Dad should take care for being remembered as supportive!

Aw her big brother just brought a tear to my eye.

Sadly they can. Mother Nature can be quite the bitch. I was 10 when I started and I wasn’t the first of my friends to start.

10 years old! 😮😮😮

Yes, keep her off school and give support.
My Gran started at 17, Mother at 15 and myself
at 14 (and half).
I just didn't know girls that young can start their cycle.

I started ages 10 and couldn't participate in swimming (this was in the 90s).. as I used sanitary pads. At that age wasnt comfortable with the idea of tampons (in fact I didn't start using tampons till adulthood).

Obviously there is now I assume period swimwear but understandable when that was an issue you'd miss our on some PE

This thread got me thinking how desperately unfair it is that girls are starting their periods earlier and earlier - I was 13 but at 10 she is still a little girl. We females were certainly dealt a dud hand when it comes to bodily functions. I hope your DD comes to terms with her lot easily and give your DH a good talking to!!

Don’t be hysterical, it was ONE day off. It will have zero effect on her education. Being listened to and cared for,
on the other hand, will have left a positive impact. Besides which, the husband didn’t consult with his wife when he unilaterally decided she would be going to school, did he?

He gets a say when he gets his first period.

What a LOVELY big brother!

Why?! What is the British obsession with 100% attendance?!

@Girlymum26 another one applauding her big brother's actions. He sounds a sweetheart. You've done all the right things keeping her off today. Letting her process it at home with Mum. Plenty of time to plough on through the pain in the years to come. Am too old to have ever used period pants but they sound a great invention. Like another poster I remember being given looped towels my first time. Some things are definitely better. Although some men's attitudes are still stuck in the 50s.

I'd have kept mine off, my daughter started at 9 she is oldest in the class, period knickers are amazing and if you get heavy flow ones they'll last all the school day. Much more comfortable than pads too.

agree with others who are disgusted at your husbands reaction, she's only 10!

Girls shouldn't be dealing with this stuff so young.

One day to help her sort herself out and overcome embarrassment you probabky both didnt expect her to face so young. Sounds like youre an amazing mum and im pleased the school are so helpful.

Wow. 10yo is very young! No wonder she's having a tough time. I think you have done the right thing.

You’ve had great replies. I work in primary school and I would absolutely authorise a couple of days off sick for a girls first period (and onwards if problematic). Your husband is a dick and your son is a fab big brother.

Oh bless her of course YANBU. My DD started the end of year 5 too, it is so young to deal with it all. Period pants have been brilliant for her, she has the wuka flexi fit ones. It’s good that school are aware now so can support her

YANBU and I can’t believe your husband is trying to weigh in on something like this for he has no personal experience to understand.

This. Can I suggest no pads and multiple pairs of great quality period pants. I got my daughter some when hers started and got her decent decent ones and multiple ones eg heavy whatever and a bikini and swim suit. She’s over 18 now. And started at 15 and she said thank god you got it. Endometriosis runs in our family and her first and second period were painful so she went to our very sympathetic female GP who discussed all her options and stopped her periods medically. We did all the research and had all the period pants etc but it was total and utter agony for her. OP your daughter is 10 that is so young and she needs empathy and kindness.

The OP poster husband is a total wanker and needs to watch that video of men experiencing period pain with tens machine - and grow some empathy. I am seriously worried men like this exist and honestly don’t get it or period cramps, or the general shittiness of periods and having a monthly bleed as they don’t! As a 10 year old boy you don’t have these worries. I remember my son coming home and saying Hannah (changed her name) had cramps at break time (year 6) and the teacher said they were girl cramps I couldn’t do anything for her but I gave her my snack and I stayed in with her so she wasn’t on her own and we played uno as she’s my friend. He was 10 and he understood.

No say in his own child's education. Don't be so ridiculous. Should women have no say in their son's upbringing because they've never been a boy?

My daughter uses period pants and rarely uses anything else. She loves them.
100% I would have kept my daughter off for the first time, you may learn the theory but dealing with a period, for the first time can be hard especially when so young. I was 13 when I had to do this. Not 10 and in primary school.

I used to vomit any painkillers up, they weren’t even dissolved just straight back up. I was suicidal with pain…but it’s normal right? Fuck off and when you get there fuck of again!

If your husband or indeed any man had periods they would be on the floor. The shit women have to deal with and the child is only 10 having her first time. YANBU.