Keeping DD off school due to period

You can be civil. No need to be offensive. MN is getting worse!!! Honestly, be respectful to other posters. Just because we all have differing opinions doesn't give anyone the right to be offensive.

Oh really. I have no empathy. My mum suffered from more or less clinical depression for two weeks every month due to a hormone imbalance because of her periods - she went to doctors over and over. She suffered for decades and it's it was only solved when she had the Mirena coil put in

I didn't say look at me on any level. I was completely debilitated by period pain for years. I had to go on the pill at 18 to get some respite. When I was 13 I was walking to school one day and I had an underskirt on and someone told me that I had bled all over it - I would rather not have had such problematic periods.

In my late 20s my mum had to travel 40 miles to my work to bring me fresh clothes because I bled everywhere and I wasn't allowed to leave the building - I worked in a supported housing unit

Period pain isn't acceptable in 2026? Well some girls and women do suffer from period pain - and what you have just done is gone in on me because other people did previously - without knowing anything about me

I didn't compare anyone with anything. I asked a question. No more than that

Period pain isn't normal - then why do so many people suffer? I didn't post anything I did because of a badge of honour. Once more. I asked a question

Im going to contact the admin - this is getting out of hand - you know nothing about me or my life - you're just lining up to put the boot in - hope that word salad made you feel better

I once bled for 9 weeks solid in my 20s and nothing could stop it. My GP thought I was having a an early miscarriage and it might have been - I'll never know. You really don't need you try and make me feel bad over one post that wasn't offensive

Go pick on other people who said worse than me - you won't though

I agree. It's excruciating painful forsome women. I am usually taking dihydrocodeine paracetamol and ibuprofen when I have mine to keep the pain under control. Only for the first two days, but still, that's two days I am no use to anyone.

What the fuck has it got to do with your husband?

Is he generally a twat?

WTH? Surely you know about cramps and feeling nauseous if you have your period even if you don’t experience it? Please Please say you do.

I just don’t get this. Other women going well mine are ok or mine were heavy etc like the one above. My daughter has a very high pain threshold eg dislocated knee she whimpered but no tears. First period at 15 crying her eyes out, couldn’t walk, vomiting - GP gave her painkillers very little impact and then a drug to shorten them the next cycle and same again and then she said - no woman, no woman needs this - she was a part time gynaecologist at the local hospital and said no, no this isn’t normal. Period pain isn’t normal. Men don’t have this. It’s not a badge of honour. I expected a battle to get her help, I didn’t have one. GP was like right likely endometriosis, let’s get a plan now. No more of this.

For you to make a comment like this - of look my periods were bad and heavy and look at me - just no. Zero empathy - the OP daughter is 10 and your can’t compare your periods with hers.

Having spent years being unable to compete at my sport at international level because of my period pain and endometriosis it took until I was in my 20s for someone to stop them. The two days before I couldn’t train, never mind the 7 days of my period - so 1/3 I couldn’t train. Let me say this no woman, no woman should have period pain. It’s not acceptable in 2026. None.

Your son sounds more empathetic and sensible than his dad!

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I have a 10yo DD and would 100% keep her off for a day at least. I’d want her to feel confident that she’s got her head around it. Your DS sounds lovely!

Your son is a gem! Well done!
Couldnt read some of the responses and not say that I wholeheartedly agree with you, you absolutely did the right thing. She isn’t in year 8 or 9 and it’s normal with friends, she’s so little and needs help navigating it.
Your husband needs a talking to, and so does anyone on this thread who doesn’t agree.

I often think that children today are mollycoddled into ineptitude. In this case, not at all. She’s 10! It’s painful, can be embarrassing and difficult to manage until you learn your own cycle. She knows none of that yet. I’m ancient and I still hate dealing with it. You did the right thing and your DH needs to back off.

And your son sounds like an absolute treasure. Obviously takes after his mum more than his dad!

Did you miss the part where the OP said her daughter is 10? I very much doubt that anyone is able to properly advocate for themselves at 10 , especially as she is probably the first in her peer group to be experiencing this.

As for your husband OP, I'd have punched his lights out before telling him that since he has no uterus, he has no right to have an opinion and in future he must defer to you on all period related topics.

Yanbu and you sound like a lovely mum who has her daughter’s back. Your husband can sod off!

Yes, please do give a ten-year-old child on her first period a super-plus tampon and a towel and make her get on with it.. who cares if there’s a leak in front of everyone, at that age? These things happen. Probably the silly tiny white PE shorts to deal with too.

Have some compassion!! I thought nightmare PE teachers were a thing of the past.

Oh your poor daughter! Year 5 is so young and it probably feels like a very adult thing for her to deal with. I think you should keep her off school as she needs to adjust to this. Your husband has no clue about it though and the last thing your daughter needs is to feel even more uncomfortable

Well I love your son and his Dad needs some education.
Hopefully your DD will have "easy" periods. If she doesn't I would expect her Dad to go to "period boot camp".
My Dad lived away from home when mine started and really struggled when he came home and I had menstrual psychosis (I mean that was fairly harsh for all involved). I went on the pill at 15 for management then he of course jumped to me having sex (did not happen until I was 19).
Honestly, how do we make men understand? (It's a lost cause)

I used to get excused from PE, which drew more attention to me unfortunately. But I would (and still do) pass out of I excercise during my menstrual cycle. Vomit and pass out.

The teacher was offering to excuse from PE if needs be. That's a nice courtesy.

I didn't have ice cold showers at my high school - but thanks for pompously telling me that I did - are you the mumsnet police? It's really not up to you to police what I can and can't post - if you don't care for my posts - do yourself a favour - and ignore them..

If you also think girls and women in the UK have autonomy in 2026 - perhaps you need to have a rethink. Many do not for various reasons.

Hard agree. Disappointing the dad of a girl is behaving this way.

I assume you are old enough to understand the world has moved on from ice cold showers and an environment where young girls suffered a loss of complete autonomy.

Therefore, is it a stretch to imagine that these days we have compassion for our girls, especially 10 year olds starting their periods.

Your posting style is projection. Keep it to yourself when it comes to 10 year olds in 2026

Came here to say this. I hope you stand up to him OP for your daughter's sake. What a massive twat. It's made me really angry for your daughter. Poor girl being shoved in school on her first period when she's still primary age. She should have had the first few days at home getting used to it. Tell him to come back and give his opinion when he's had his first period.

Odd that it's only my posts that are getting picked out - when there were more than one person on here saying that they think the OPs daughter should have gone to school today. I simply asked a question. Nothing more than that

Get her period pants ! So comfortable. No leaks and no rubbing. Take the stress out of periods for her.
modi bodi and wuka do tween and teen sizes.
I wear their adult sizes and absolutely love them.

Well piss off in return then - at my school having a period wasn't an excuse not to go to PE and PE was far from my favourite subject at school. The school wouldn't have allowed it - they didn't let us not go to PE even if we were in pain or bleeding heavily.