Keeping DD off school due to period

Is your husband a man who never had a period in his life?! YANBU

Would he expect to continue as normal with abdominal cramps and a rash on his nether regions? Quite aside from the blood. What a neanderthal

And you thought that was a great system to perpetuate?

'No say in his child's upbringing' is a bit dramatic for one specific decision...he has no experience with this issue so his opinion is unqualified.

I mean regardless of what husband says as a mother I would never have allowed my girls to go first time period and I took those days off work and we chilled, found what they were comfy with, talked a lot more and navigated the first time nicely and spoke of next time and how it works at school and clubs etc. dh was very good with them spoilt them rotten when he got home and still does now as older teens when he knows there feeling off. Didn't have any embarrassing times as our family always open about everything from girls to boys

I guess because it's fairly obvious why some girls might not be able to do PE when on their period. You have got increasingly defensive about it through your replies.

Essentially if you don't agree with the majority on this thread and dare ask a question. You're the worst person in the world. The OP was polite to me when we spoke - so why do other people have an issue?

Same as the OPs husband has to be a misogynist cunt - because people on here say so

How sad

@scottishgirl69you are massively derailing the thread. Sorry you’ve had hard times in life, I’m sure many of us have too. But we are still entitled to our opinions. The OP Dh sounds like a dickhead and she has done everything right to make her daughter feel supported and comfortable in this situation.

No idea where the gif came from. Apologies. Anyway. Out.

That is a different issue though.

Sorry that I didn't phrase my question in the right style so that people wouldn't go in on me over and over - meanwhile it's ok for some people to call the husband a misogynist cunt -

Seriously. Fuck this

Did you read my other posts - including the one where my mum suffered for decades with her periods because of a hormone imbalance and it pretty much left her suffering from clinical depression

Anyway I'm going to delete my account. I have had people going in on me all night over this when other people have been much more critical

I'm quite aware that women do too much. My dad walked out on me when I was three, he had money but we never saw any of it. Two pounds a week till I was 16 and my brothers dad was even worse.

My gran on my dad's side worked herself into an early grave - I do know how hard women have it

This is one of the nastiest threads I have ever posted on on these boards - I have ptsd and anxiety and depression - I'm currently suffering from insomnia and it's literally ruining my life and I can't cope with the flak I'm getting over one non offensive post - so I'm out.

It's not worth it.

I have a 10 year old and I would be letting her stay off too if & when she gets hers. As for your DH, typical man 😡😡 you can feel v sick with a period. More so than a sore throat etc and most kids would stay off with something like that!

I ended up having to have time off school with my period when I was young. I had flooding so bad it just wouldn't have been possible to leave the house and terrible period pain that even ibuprofen, paracetamol and codeine didn't get under control.

Hopefully your daughter never experiences anything like that, but it seems perfectly reasonable to me that she might need the odd day off while she's getting used to things, especially as she's so young for them to start.

That is completely my point. Someone referred to your husband as a misogynistic cunt for the way he handled your daughter having her first period. But if he was going to work and you were going to work this week - where else would she go? He might not have phrased what he said well - but that doesn't necessarily mean he's a misogynist or a cunt.

My mum was a single parent and worked, she was a teacher so had to be in class so when my periods started I had to go to school. My gran at that point lived two miles away and didn't drive - some families don't have loads of cousins or extended family who can just drop things to support at 24 hours notice.

Maybe he should have taken two days off so your daughter could have stayed home - but not all employers would support that

There's no easy answers - and it's different for everyone.

Sorry to hear about your FIL.

Does your husband work from home? Because that might have given more context on why he felt she had to go to school when she had her period.

The OPs husband has already been described as a "misogynist cunt". Looking at the first post it seems that both him and his wife were working this week at least until Tuesday

So how could the OPs daughter have two days off earlier in the week if both of them work. He's been criticised for not keeping her off. Unless he works from home.

My son came home from pshe talking about the 'minstrel cycle' and asked why it was called that, bless him 😆

PS You and OP sound like lovely mums

I did the same when my DD had her first period, I got a similar response from school too. My DD hasn't had another day off due to periods and it's been 4 years now.
I think you did the right thing, helping her feel secure and manage the first one will help her manage the future ones better.

I had very heavy periods from the age of twelve when they started - and for decades after - hopefully that clarifies for the people who seem to think my periods were only problematic in later life - that's not the case at all. I used to pass huge clots every month. I was in agony all throughout my teen years and for decades after. Going on the pill gave me some respite and then it just went back to being awful again

I was also shamed in the workplace because I had left a tiny spot of blood in the toilet. I honestly didn't realise. It was during an episode where I was just flooding and nothing could be done about it. I was shamed by my female manager after my mum brought me fresh clothes in

Im sick of this -and the mods do need to know - because a bunch of women running around singling out one person on here - and that person right now seems to be me. Isn't on - and I won't tolerate it

Nothing about my post was trying to belittle the OP or her daughter - but it's clear some people on here get off on telling people what they think. Why they've posted something - it's probably better not to post at all - because any slight difference of opinion - hung out to dry all over the place

Again, what's with being offensive? Completely uncalled for. This forum is ridiculous. Hiding behind a screen is no excuse.

I still let my daughter have a day off school on the first day of her period if she is feeling dreadful. She is 14 now. I remember sitting at school feeling gross and in pain on the first day. I don't want that for her. We get reproductive leave at work too.