We have 2 kids, DD13 and DS10.
My husband always wanted 3. I was on the fence for a few years, but then I made peace with the idea that we would stop at 2 children. Our kids were very, very active, and I feel like only in the past year have we finally had things together and been able to catch a break. DH would gently drop hints sometimes that he still wanted three and hoped I’d change my mind.
Two months ago, I became pregnant unexpectedly. Even though it was a surprise, we were both delighted. We started making all the plans: what we would do with a third child, my job, moving house, etc. Our children, especially DD13, were very excited, as they are both very keen on having a younger sibling.
And then I had an early miscarriage. I’m still recovering from the loss and feel completely confused.
Having just gone through the excitement of expecting a baby and then having it taken away makes me wonder if I would ever regret not trying again. The clock is ticking (I’ll be 40 next year). With the pregnancy risks are higher, and I’m scared it might happen again. Although I’ve envisioned our older children adoring the baby and she/he bringing a lot of joy, I’m also dreading the sleepless nights and the extended responsibilities.
Please tell me will I regret not having the 3rd?
I just want to be able to make up my mind and us find peace again if we decide not to have another child.